I'm alive today because my grandfather fucked my 14 year old grandmother.
This is before age of consent laws and he was legally an adult.
My dad is 15 years younger that his mother.
My grandparents are still married.
Grandpa is a bastion of a holy man.
Security work. I fell into it in my early 20s and have been doing it for like 5 years at this point but it gives me no satisfaction and i would rather find fulfillment in my work or at least do something with more upwards mobility that i can turn into a career.
I have a hard time cutting ties with toxic people who don't improve me and with whom I have no prospect of growth, especially if they are manipulative girls. I already have few friends and I'm afraid of ending up alone.
My best friend is coming out of an 8 year relationship and he's becoming increasingly depressed and suicidal even on medication. He lives in another country and i don't know what to do. He's the only person i can fully open up to and i don't know what i'm going to do if he goes.
I have feelings for a girl that doesn't care about me at the same time i am getting to know another girl who's really cute and i don't know why my shit ass brain keeps thinking about the other girl.
I am progressing well in the gym though, so i got that going for me.
I paid a photographer to take some pictures of me, I looked extremely chad in those pictures, but I still have 0 matches on tinder.
I think that women can smell the autism behind muscles, clothes and photoshop.
I got Covid this week and was home for three straight days Wednesday through Friday. I basically did nothing for three days. Not even like just watching shows or movies or anything. Three entire fuckin days and when I have this amount of free time I spend it doing absolutely nothing. This happens pretty much all the time when I have extended free time. This happened at the start of the year too. I had to take off basically the entire month of January when work plummeted due to Covid and I practically wasted literally an entire fucking month doing nothing.
I think I have severe ADD. I just can’t focus on anything
matched with this cutie a while ago. we were writing back and forth for a bit, but i dropped the ball and the conversion has been inactive (hidden) for about 5 weeks now.
can i recover from this? should i try my luck again and message her + ask her out if she replies back or is it over?
in case it wasn't obvious, i'm a khv and a sperg, nfi how (online) dating works
I find that is the best way to make gains. Sort of like the universe is trying to sell you thrills and you pay in loosh and when you isolate she comes looking for her loyal customer with special offers in hand
Realized I'm still in love with my ex. We broke up 6 months ago mutually since she was moving to the other side of the country and I'm leaving to Asia next summer. I fucked around with some people post-breakup which she found out about and blocked me on everything. Thought I was over her but now there isn't a day where I don't think about her. Came really close to asking a friend to message her asking if she wanted to meet again.
Longest It's ever taken me to get over a breakup, hope things feel better soon. She really was the right one at the wrong time.
Don't marry yourself to that idea anon, pretty soon you will come across the notion that she was the right one for the right time, because of the lessons and expiriences you've opened yourself up when she was there. All the best. - H
I just broke up with my gf of 5 years. I love her but she wants to get married and i want to bang other chicks, i also don't like being restricted and enjoy freedom. I could forego all these things if she was super pretty but honestly shes kinda mid fr fr. I genuinely love her though and im sure she would make a great mother
Just be cautious that you may find out none of the pussies you dive into are attached to a woman you could love like your girlfriend and it might be too late
dont worry man im sure youll totally not regret this decision im sure youll get so much other pussy to fuck and it will totally feel the same as a 5 year gf who you love HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
nah dude think of all the pussy hes gonna get tho HAHAHAHA
I'll get plenty of pussy dont worry about that. Why are being so passive aggressive? Are you a woman and you got personally offended that a man would even say this?
Not him but was your relationship all good outside of you wanting other pussy? I hate women but damn you can't just fuck her over like that unless she did something to deserve it
Its one of those damned if you do, damned if you don't situations.
Whatever you choose, you miss out on something. If you have to choose, pick something you'll feel remorseful for, rather than follow a path that will make you resentful.
>robs serious honest girl of 5 years of her prime >now what once was a serious young girl who wanted to settle and have children, supposedly faithful since it lasted 5 years....has become this late twenties, rushing, bitter woman who realizes she has maybe 1 or 2 chances to find the right man.
Thanks for shitting in the pool asshole. It's dudes like you who ruin it for all of us. I can't tell you the amount of women I know who had a POS like you drop them the moment it got to family/kids.
in all honesty man you don't sound mature enough to get married anyway.
do you guys have social media?
nope.
I wish i could quit my job but i have no skills or interests and will not be able to make this much money doing something else
don't be afraid to upskill man. I see a lot of people working deadend jobs in their late 20s/early 30s and they're all mostly miserable. It's a hard lifestyle and going back to school is worth it.
My partner has been super depressed and recently revealed she thinks it' s because our relationship isn't working out. We've been together for several years now and just bought a house together, and despite her saying part of the problem is she doesn't feel like I need her around or want to spend time together, she's been acting super distant and is always out the house. I'm not I'm not ready for the relationship to end, but at this point I'm not sure what the hell to do.
>bought a house together >not married
>be me >neet loser >luck my way into michelin star chef job >oh shid >do well somehow >get new job at a pleb place that pays more but has lower standards >dealing with retards all day >wish I could go back to the high standards job but don't want to get abused >stuck doing pleb job for more money but less satisfaction
at least I can lift again bros..
try getting out of food service, trust me.
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Just water
There's a lot of brain poison out there.
I ran into some former friends, they all lived together this last year and gained shitloads of weight. Talking to them it starts to make sense. They now weigh the value of things in terms of pleasure, sensation. They could tell I was shocked by the weight gain and a couple times crude confessions were made about diet/ exercise regimens since I had seen them last. But it would be justified at the end of the statement by how happy they are now just accepting themselves.
This girl I'm friends with is the same way. I was very into her awhile ago and we went on some dates, but I sensed something and decided not to take it further. She's gained a lot of weight as well and when we catch up she shares how things have been and she occassionally asks for dating strategies to meet dudes. I've been telling her that she just needs to get in shape and grind her hobbies and career and she'll be fine, guys will actively seek her out if she seems like the type of person who they can grow with. But she wants someone who can accept her now, or for whoever she'll become. I asked her what of her flaws might prevent the guys she encounters from accepting her (she does crude one night stands every so often). It was all gay shit like: >I take lots of bubble baths >Always making cookies! >Can't stop watching crime dramas
What the fuck how is it possible for someone to lack the ability to critically self-analyze
I think its all connected, its something deeply psychological, almost spiritual. This demoralization is everywhere, ads, TV, movies. People who've accepted it spread it. Poison. I'm not immune to it. Quite often I'll be inclined to accept the demoralized position, or criticize one of the last few solid dudes left to gain social clout. Each time it gets a bit easier. It's like a fog settling over my mind.
what's wrong with relaxing man? you're too hard on other people. they didn't ask for the burden of responsibility.
I'm mad. There's this Stacy at my job I want to hook up with. Just a ONS but 1) I don't shit where I eat and 2) she doesn't seem interested. We just met for the first time physically yesterday, and I've just been visualizing her giving me head after bringing me to her apartment, after work.
Starting new job soon, I think it will be nice there
Making decent gains, doing physical exercise atleast 5 times per week
Thinking of buying a new watch
feel bad because im a bio female and will never put on muscle as easily as a male and sometimes I look in the mirror and say why even bother. Still I go and have made a lot of progress but some rare days I feel this is all bullshit and I am a dyel noob and will always be.
He's saying that he got antimired yesterday (the day before today) and also the calendar date immediately preceeding that. He is using the Spanish term "amigo", meaning "friend", to imply a sense of shared fraternity. Lastly, he is using the word "sucks" in the colloquial manner, meaning the situation is deeply displeasing to him.
iam nervous.
next week i will perhaps get a job interview for a job that pays a bit less but has homeoffice and isnt as astressful as my current job.
yet i fear the ruckus it will cause in my current job and i have a bad feel to leave some coworkers because they will have a harder time once ieam gone.
but i know the current job isnt really good for me because of all the stress.
Found out a couple weeks ago that 2 of my coworkers who I am close with find me attractive. One is a man and has been a good friend outside of work. He told me that he tries not to show it because he wants our friendship to remain the same. The other one has a boyfriend and got drunk and told me that I'm "so attractive" to her and then said she doesn't want me to stop being her friend because of it. I have a girlfriend whom I love so it doesn't matter but it was nice to find out that people think I'm attractive. They're both about 8 years older than me. Then yesterday I found out that the Mexican cleaning women there call me "papi chulo" when they asked the previously mentioned female friend if I would be in. Had to ask another Mexican there what that meant and he let me know it's what they call handsome men. So I am flattered. Now I just need to start looking like I lift. I didn't pussy out of any of my workouts this week so I think it's going well.
You idiot. Hookers get loads of guys messing them around, and trying to get fap material without paying. Way to get yourself blacklisted, Romeo.
Get a burner phone, contact her again, and this time get straight to business. "I want to see you at X date, Y time for Z duration for a session including anal, please let me know if that works for you and confirm the price, thanks", that kind of thing
HELLO. I HIT 4 PLATE DEADLIFT THIS WEEK. NO STRAPS, NO BELT, NO SHOES, NO PUSSY SHIT, JUST PURE RETARD STRENGTH. I NOW HAVE THE 1, 2, AND 4 OF THE 1/2/3/4. LAST YEAR I BUSTED MY KNEE UP PRETTY BAD AND I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD BE ABLE TO GET TO THE 3 AND 4 BUT MY PHYSICAL THERAPIST WAS AWESOME AND HERE I AM. LEGS HAVE LAGGED BEHIND UPPER BODY CUZ OF THIS INJURY BUT I AM GETTING BACK THERE
I showed my grandma the '7 easy ways to make chocolate at home' video from Filthy Frank and she loved it. We had really nice laughs and I explained some of the lore to her but now I'm reminded that, one day, she will no longer be there with me and I'll be sitting next to an empty rocking chair.
Didn't make small talk with the cute girl who works at the pub/restaurant again.
Going down the gym tonight, not sure if I've made any gains yet, hard to tell. Just really hope I do.
My Grandpa died a couple weeks ago and i have his funeral in a couple days. I've not cried or felt emotional, which in a way makes me question myself. Everyone has been upset, but I've felt nothing.
were you close to him? i wasn't close to mine and he was abusive to his kids apparently. my dad was distraught but i didn't feel anything except to support him
As a kid I was partly looked after by my grandparents as my mum and dad would work a lot or if they wanted to go out, I'd be round my grandparents.
I would say average, not exactly close.
I feel maybe it's society that's made me emotionless.
He has also done nothing for all my years (26) other than sit Infront of a TV, never really did anything.
I loved my grandpa a whole lot and I felt mostly the same when he passed. It was a while ago and I don't really even remember ever having a big emotional moment about it, but today my pops told me a book I was reading was one of Grandpa's favorites. It made me feel happy and proud and close to my grandfather again. idk it's the little things you take with you, I guess.
I've come to realize that I should probably do online dating. I'm decent looking and SwoleShack as fuck, but I'm also autistic in my own way and feel like I will never meet a compatible woman through regular life. Problem is I have 0 pictures of me despite having a normie social life and don't feel like taking shitty selfies on my own. Probably will have to wait for next summer and make my friends take some pictures of me at festivals and shit
I need some cock in my life. Only obstacles are being bio fem taking testosterone and a gigaintrovert. I've had three girlfriends and oh my god do I hate women
Story may sound crazy; I met my girlfriend (soon to be wife) on discord, and we finally met.
It was 1 month ago she arrived, and we had been talking for 2 years up to that point. Extremely comfortable, redpilled, fitness, whatever the fuck. You name it, she is that. Hates politics, hates leftists, beautiful woman, curvy but still thin, and the most beautiful personality one can ask for, raised strict-Christian, sure she won't cheat, only insecure people worry about that, unless you are hooking up with a whore.
It was the best month of my life, I have not been this SwoleShack, as she always wants to be outside, and loves to stay active, nevertheless, the best sex I have ever had. But alas, everything has an end. Friday she should've went home again, but she missed her flight. Her parents were sweet enough to buy a new ticket and so she had to stay here another night, which was the most awful, as we both already officially said goodbye, then see eachother again a hour later. Anywho, saying goodbye this morning was hard, real hard. It's not really a sad story, or something with a twist, I just miss my gf bros... I will see her again in the summer, so it will take awhile. Just had to share it somewhere.
checked and I pretty much went thru the same experience as a 20-yr old retard and here I am 11 years later, married and with 3 kids with that girl. Stick with it man it's worth it.
That is so nice to hear, I am glad I am not alone, yes, I will stay with her, I have never met such a loyal woman in my entire life. Grew up in the city, she is from rural country, nearest city is 1 hour away. I have never known girls like this existed. Hope is not lost. Thanks for the nice message. Whether you believe in it or not, may God protect your soul 🙂
>strict christian >unless youre hooking up with a whore >immediately starts fucking you, but yeah shes a strict christian and not a whore >hates politics but somehow hates lefitsts >most beautiful personality possible
>which was the most awful, as we both already officially said goodbye
??????????
As someone who has to say goodbye today, I would kill for one more day.
Feeling like I'm stuck in hamster wheel of my own past short comings. It's hard to stay focused on the long term freedom when the present feels so soul crushing. Probably the loneliest I've been in my life too so I've completely let go and have grown a beard for the first time.
Fuck man that sounds tough but do take care of yourself, do try to look like you've got your shit together, helps with depression. We are all gonna make it.
what kind of server did you meet her on? I downloaded discord for the sole purpose of talking to redpilled gamer girls (I know they exist and I’m talking to one now) I need to secure my source in case of the inevitable loss of interest occurs on their part
Feeling like I'm stuck in hamster wheel of my own past short comings. It's hard to stay focused on the long term freedom when the present feels so soul crushing. Probably the loneliest I've been in my life too so I've completely let go and have grown a beard for the first time.
I'm not a gender studies major if that's what your asking. My issue is I feel like as long as you're doing something not brain dead(gender studies) you should be gaunteed a job. That's what we all were taught in high school and most of our lives. And it just feels like
I'm in the same situation. So many degrees are meme degrees.
Don't whine too much like a loser. Stand up, change course, and take your chances, champion.
fuck it these threads are never about the gym or fitness related
here it goes
when should you actually be "active" and sell yourself out more compared to "proactive" and buying people's info? when I'm in a conversation with someone im sorta interested in, I have a tendency to spill out too much so I just hold my spaghetti in but then the other person doesn't say much about themselves and I get into a really autistic bout with them where I don't say anything because I don't want to waste time with someone I don't connect with and vice versa.
My phone broke. I’ll try some repair I saw a russian guy doing on youtube, but It’ll have to wait until monday since I don’t have the right screwdriver to open it. Decided to boot up the old phone I had as a teen and use it for now. It’s strage to look up its contacts and see the names of so many people I lost contact with through the years.
Browsing SwoleShack on a busted up and pixelated old screen is cool though, feels like I’m using a time machine.
Listening to my old playlists is a trip too. I’ll be sure to recreate them when I get my phone working again.
oh come the fuck on anons do I really have to tell the story with some fake chick in the story for you to give me decent advice or discussion about anything?
Just found out by her current bf my best friend (exclusive but not exactly in a relationship) who I lost it to (we were both virgins) and who I thought was the best and most honest person I've met lied to me for half our friendship by dating a guy for a year and a half just months after moving to a new city. Id pushed her out of her comfort zone to leave her abusive small town and mother and find a better life somewhere else. We lived far from each other in different countries, but after a year finally met up before I came to a new country. I stayed loyal and honest for the whole time even having traveled the world. She did all that while she'd send me sexual stuff. Id asked a million times why she was so aloof and distancing herself. Never admitted anything but until the day I broke it off said I was the best person she'd ever known. She'd asked many times for me to stay and how I see what was going on. This was someone that hated the concept of cheating we discussed so many times. That had never had a bf at 22.
So days ago I get this message from her account from her current boyfriend basically telling me all the dates of her relationship with him and the other guy. Said he had to look for evidence on her accounts because he couldn't trust her and knew she was hiding things. Said shes probably a pathological liar. And that she said she was sorry and that I should forgive her for all the lies and not having the courage to tell the truth. I obviously don't buy the disgusting apology.
I sent a final message to her personal email basically stating if this was all true then she would have been the biggest disappointment I've ever had. And she knew so well for years how much I struggled to recover from a cheating ex and the break up. It just seemed unbelievable. I get a reply yesterday from someone that was clearly her bf acting in her behalf pretending to be her. It basically turned everything around to make me seem like the bad guy and that I had no right over her
Will do. It's just so unbelievable, the whole thing. Everything I did for her and staying loyal 15k Kms away and not only did she lie so much and cheated on her bf with me and vice versa, but she blames me for the disgusting shit she did as if was nothing. Truly bizarre. And of course the only reason I know what really happened is because of her bf messaging me out of the blue to tell me the truth. Even then she couldn't muster up the courage to say anything and had him reply to me as if it was her.
I know it's good I finally know what went on, but it was the biggest disappointment I've had with someone in life. After I broke everything off I thought At least I know she never failed me. Her doing that has completely ruined ever talking again.
I strongly suspect she had borderline personality disorder. She was diagnosed with mild autism but I know there's gotta be more to it.
My partner has been super depressed and recently revealed she thinks it' s because our relationship isn't working out. We've been together for several years now and just bought a house together, and despite her saying part of the problem is she doesn't feel like I need her around or want to spend time together, she's been acting super distant and is always out the house. I'm not I'm not ready for the relationship to end, but at this point I'm not sure what the hell to do.
Not a sign of a healthy relationship but I'd strongly suggest going through her stuff cause it's incredibly likely she's cheating on you and won't tell you.
How do I stop being an Incel? I’m 20, I’ve tried dating apps and it never works. I don’t talk to women in person because I don’t know any. I have a small group of friends but want to branch out more and meet women to be honest. I’ve joined local clubs and stuff but no luck either. What do I do? Pic related is me by the way, I’m 5’7 ate around 170lbs. Yes I’m fat and yes I’m losing weight
Do you work or go to school? You need to do things where you have social contacts. Probably live in a remote place? As a city guy, it's hard not to meet women
Yes I do both. I’m in college but I don’t know how to talk to them that much, I talk to classmates sometimes but they aren’t friends or anything. Same with work, but most are older than me anyways. Where else do I meet people? Doing it at pubs and stuff seems impossible since everyone already has an established group for the night
I do boxing and taekwondo currently. I also do photography as well but not much. I used to play instruments and I very rarely do a bit of language learning. I have no clue how to get better social skills, I’ve worked retail my entire life and people still think I’m weird. I drive people away from me with my lack of spontaneity. I don’t know what else to do to get better
>TKD, boxing
Keep these up, utilise the social aspect. You must have club social nights, right? Interclub meets? Also there's the social media clout. Some footage of you doing some high kicks or shirtless bag work could be a suitably subtle flex.
>photography, music, language
Use one or more of these to network. Get serious about one and find a club or society. Doesn't need to be your age range, doesn't need to even have women in it (although they all sound very female friendly). Just practice those social gains.
>lack of spontaneity
Unless youre some extrovert loudmouth, EVERYONE feels self conscious when it comes to thinking what to say and filling a silence. It will come with practice. Interaction isn't a video game with wrong or right dialogue trees, or a stage show where you have to entertain people with scintillating jokes and anecdotes. Don't sweat it.
It's difficult to give an exact blueprint but basically you have to expose yourself to more social situations (and by extension more chances to meet women). Alongside this just work on being a confident, complete guy. If you go out there exuding desperation or neediness, that's woman repellant.
I'm on antidepressants and feel almost no sex drive at the moment. Without them I'm a mess. What's the point of everything if I can't even cum. And yeah, I tried different ones.
I'm lonely and burned out of dating. Also I struggle really hard quitting to smoke. Because of loneliness I started drinking half an hour ago and now I want a cig so bad.
got out of my head with my ex of 4 years and the girl I dated after her. I was feeling depressed and burned out this last month, but I’m starting to feel better, it was likely work causing it.
I’m starting to notice girls take an interest to me, lots of smiles and small talk. There’s a qt at the cafe I frequent who always serves me on weekends, would ask her on a date but reminds me too much of my ex of 4 years (petite art hoe), even have similar names/nicknames.
I'm try to learn to jump rope because I can't run right now and I need some form of cardio, but this is so fucking hard.
How the hell do schoolgirls do it? I can barely go over 10 jumps and I fail on the third most of the time...
Was out drinking yesterday (friday)
I reckon semi-private techno parties are a bad place for hooking up with girls, since the minority of them are considering hooking up with a guy.
Throughout the night I suffered from severe FOMO when my friends started talking about the stuff they di; imagine that: you are out drinking and partying with friends and you are still fearing on missing out on the very thing you are doing in that moment.
Got also told how one chick that was there got railed by like 10 dudes on another party a while back. It honestly angers me a bit how accessible sex is to women. I dont hate women, just this observation. I hate this way of thinking, I feel like an incel, but it is testing my self esteem, since it's quite the opposite for me. Even more so when I see how some of my friends just enter the party and are already dancing with girls within the first hour they got there. I always have to hide these feelings and act like I don't care, but in reality there is a storm raging inside of me. They are my friends, they deserve it, it just annoys me that I can't be like they are. I want to be popular with girls aswell.
At least I woke up with almost no hangover, I was suprised to say the least.
I'm only staying in school to make my parents happy. I dropped out of college twice as a junkie social reject. Got clean at 23, then went back for my degree at 25. Getting my associates this May at 27 but already know I made a mistake and probably won't use my degree and that I shoulda just stuck with trades while I had a good thing going. At least it'll be over soon and I can pick up where I left off. My parents want to see me walk at the ceremony, but really all I want is to do the pragmatic thing and get back to work where I was making enough money to live comfortably with some actual freetime to do stuff I enjoyed.
I've long since moved out and made myself independent, I just can't shake the feeling that I owe this to them after how much of a loser and disappointment I used to be.
I feel nearly the same way brother, it's agony. I am:
Just brainstorming in thiss post....
Was out drinking yesterday (friday)
I reckon semi-private techno parties are a bad place for hooking up with girls, since the minority of them are considering hooking up with a guy.
Throughout the night I suffered from severe FOMO when my friends started talking about the stuff they di; imagine that: you are out drinking and partying with friends and you are still fearing on missing out on the very thing you are doing in that moment.
Got also told how one chick that was there got railed by like 10 dudes on another party a while back. It honestly angers me a bit how accessible sex is to women. I dont hate women, just this observation. I hate this way of thinking, I feel like an incel, but it is testing my self esteem, since it's quite the opposite for me. Even more so when I see how some of my friends just enter the party and are already dancing with girls within the first hour they got there. I always have to hide these feelings and act like I don't care, but in reality there is a storm raging inside of me. They are my friends, they deserve it, it just annoys me that I can't be like they are. I want to be popular with girls aswell.
At least I woke up with almost no hangover, I was suprised to say the least.
Do you have anything else going in your life? Work, hobbies etc. I realized that I just have to keep myself buys with work to the point where things like women just become secondary.
I do and most of the time it works (keeping myself busy), but I live alone and in the end this is what think about most of the time when feeling asleep and waking up.
I 100% relate with your story about party and the FOMO. I regulary go to rave and almost everytime it ends up with me spending more energy checking out the girls dancing and contemplating whether to make a move (I usually don't because I still have issues with things like this), instead of geniunely enjoying the music and my friends being there. It's exhausting, counter-productive and I hate myself for it, but I can't help it.
Maybe one way to think about it - as I said I had couple of casual hookups and I sometimes tell stories about them to my friends and I realize it can make me look way more Chad-ish than the reality is and I guess the same is true for almost everyone. Just like you have incels, only tiny fraction of guys get to bang new hot girl every weekend and we should just make peace with the fact we aren't these guys and be glad we have at least some success with women. But it's hard to internalize this.
>ends up with me spending more energy checking out the girls dancing
Kind of the same with me. I try to act as if I don't really care about the girls there, but anon... if there is a girl dancing next to me or in front of me I am contemplating if it's just a coincidence or if she wants me to take the first step.
I don't know if me playing it cool and acting as if I am not there for the girls is preventing me from hooking up with anyone.
jesus, this is 100% spot on. Literally the same thought process I have everytime there. The sad part is that most of the time the girl isn't probably even aware of us dancing/standing next/behind her and we just kick ourselves for nothing instead of enjoying the show. It's pathetic.
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I used to be quite ugly and autistic af growing up - I was kissless virgin until 21. I used to have all the incel thoughts like "I am abomination, I will die alone, no one would touch me" etc. Then I kind of looksmaxxed, started taking care of myself and learnt to talk to people and nowadays although I am not Chad I have pretty decent social life, 2 past LTR (I was the one who ended both of them), some casual hookups and women pretty regularly positively interact with me or even straight up compliment me. But I still feel inadequate and seek additional validation. Every day, with every conversation with pretty girl I can only think about how I'd have sex with her and feel miserable when I can't. It's poisoining my mind and taking lots of my mental energy. I have good career, hobbies etc., but this is a thing non-stop bothering my in the back of my mind and I'd love to get rid of it. I think it's due to my teenage years and all the love and sex I missed out pm during HS and college and now my brain thinks if I'll "make up for it", it'll make me happier, even though I subconsciusly know it won't. Anyone here went through something similiar?
>tl;dr no longer an incel, but still have incel thoughts
Please no religious answers.
jesus, this is 100% spot on. Literally the same thought process I have everytime there. The sad part is that most of the time the girl isn't probably even aware of us dancing/standing next/behind her and we just kick ourselves for nothing instead of enjoying the show. It's pathetic.
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central europe
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I used to be quite ugly and autistic af growing up - I was kissless virgin until 21. I used to have all the incel thoughts like "I am abomination, I will die alone, no one would touch me" etc. Then I kind of looksmaxxed, started taking care of myself and learnt to talk to people and nowadays although I am not Chad I have pretty decent social life, 2 past LTR (I was the one who ended both of them), some casual hookups and women pretty regularly positively interact with me or even straight up compliment me. But I still feel inadequate and seek additional validation. Every day, with every conversation with pretty girl I can only think about how I'd have sex with her and feel miserable when I can't. It's poisoining my mind and taking lots of my mental energy. I have good career, hobbies etc., but this is a thing non-stop bothering my in the back of my mind and I'd love to get rid of it. I think it's due to my teenage years and all the love and sex I missed out pm during HS and college and now my brain thinks if I'll "make up for it", it'll make me happier, even though I subconsciusly know it won't. Anyone here went through something similiar?
>tl;dr no longer an incel, but still have incel thoughts
Please no religious answers.
How the fuck do you function? I only go to night clubs when one of my friends happens to throw his birthday there, but I despise it. Also all of your woman shit occupying your mind just shows that you're not self sufficient at all. How can your brain just think woman woman woman woman all fucking day? You fell for the "incel" meme and clearly have some twisted and dubious morals. Complete revaluation of character is needed and I feel like you want to be the opposite of what you were, just for the sake of it. You said no religion, but it seems like you lack any chastity and have neglected it completely. I have some other assumptions as well...
I'm decently SwoleShack now and have been applying my strength to beat up certain groups. Will paying for combat sambo classes help me put down someone more efficiently than to freely throw punches? I read on SwoleShack that martial arts don't really matter if you're DYEL and their only purpose is to help strong people have an edge over other strong people. I'm doing fine right now and my opponents are all highly uncoordinated/relatively stupid, but on the off chance I encounter someone with average motor functionality, will my proficiency in the martial art assist me?
My birthday and Christmas are coming up and I have been asked what I want, I don't want for anything but there are some things I would like:
New boots
Shirts
Gym equipment for a home gym
New computer (want to get prebuilt don't want to build)
New truck
Any recommendations on any of these? Currently single and live with my mom so I've just been banking money from my job
been years since i finally forced myself to be more positive and outgoing, socializing with people and doing little things like holding the door for people saying thanks, you are welcome etc. and today it just hit me, am i just depressed constantly and the only reason i dont notice is because i force myself to put on a smile and attempt to be more manic and happy? if it works should i even be concerned, should i be more aware of little things im missing and ignoring that could be bringing me down subconsciously?
you stupid son of a bitch, that aspect of your life is sorted out and it's not good enough? in a few years you could be playing catch with your goddamn son and I can't get a date
As I suspected a girl I have been friends with for sometime is a complete whore. It shouldn't bother me because we don't talk that much now, it's just that now that I hang around other girls I realise how much of a jerk she was.
If I could go back in time I would cave her skull, maybe even save another friend from years of being belittled.
Even now that I am fairly fit she messes with me calling me fat when she is making zero progress on her own.
I don't feel manly thinking about this, backstabbing is girl behaviour, I just feel like I made a mistake with her and I can't take back my time.
I have decided that if I’m not 260 lbs of sheer muscle by the time I’m 30 I’m going to kill myself. I’m 175 right now and I’ve won a couple mens physique shows, but it’s not enough. Ive decided at 25 (23 currently) I’ll begin testosterone. From there we’ll see if I can reach my goal and avoid having the roof of my mouth introduced to my 12 gauge. Picrel, I’ll post results in seven years.
definitely have the frame to support that amount of mass so be glad you have that going for you, just from that pic your genetics are definitely there to fill out even more.
You're going to have to do shitloads of steroids to get that done. You're talking about being as big as pic rel. If you do that, you might die incredibly young, living the rest of your short life as a roided freak that can't even walk around without being winded. Not sure why you would want to do that unless you were competing, but good luck
I don't think roiders think they will look better, they have body dysmorphia and want to be bigger because they think they're small. That dude has a mental illness.
<has the strongest immune system on earth i get like a minor cold once every few years, and i got annihilated by covid it was fucking aids. couldnt breathe felt like i was suffocating and tired, sweating all the time. fuck that
luckily i didnt have the respiratory issues but yes exactly, tired, im pretty sure i had a fever on a few nights as well because of how hot i got in bed, never had a fever barely in my life before this
<has the strongest immune system on earth i get like a minor cold once every few years, and i got annihilated by covid it was fucking aids. couldnt breathe felt like i was suffocating and tired, sweating all the time. fuck that
luckily i didnt have the respiratory issues but yes exactly, tired, im pretty sure i had a fever on a few nights as well because of how hot i got in bed, never had a fever barely in my life before this
Jack daniels, on the rocks.
I've been trying to get to myself to ask this girl out, but I keep chickening out of it. I always thought I was extremely ugly, and she keeps showing interest, btu I have no idea how to stop being a homosexual and just ask her out. also i don't have her number, but I keep running into her and talking and shit.
Any advice anon bros?
>be me >neet loser >luck my way into michelin star chef job >oh shid >do well somehow >get new job at a pleb place that pays more but has lower standards >dealing with retards all day >wish I could go back to the high standards job but don't want to get abused >stuck doing pleb job for more money but less satisfaction
at least I can lift again bros..
you ever hear of the golden cage fallacy? thats how i feel at my current job, its the best dream job ive been waiting to get and dont want to ever leave. but at the same time i feel like i have no future here its just the coziest, no upward mobility, trad career that gives me all the joy in the world. and yet i still cant bring myself to dedicated as much time as i did to shit tier low paying trash jobs i had before because i had a dream that some day my hard work would pay off. it still hasnt, but at least im happy now.
well considering i was a homeless drug addict before i even got my shit together having any job sober was a step up as much as i hated aspects of them. so yeah reee soo hard its almost like im finally at a place in life where i dont have to work 16 hour shifts every day and actually can work a few days a week to survive.
i just cant break free from that survival mindset and strive to accomplish anything more than just, shelter, food, minor entertainment.
This happened to me too. It was a job in fire. I think idolizing a job or career as a perfect fit for you is a bad move. If it doesn't turn out the way you think, the disillusionment is hard to deal with and you just end up feeling aimless and lost again. It's like how people tell you to never meet your heroes, because they're not how you imagine them to be. Same deal.
Jobs or careers should be something you're interested in enough to stick with it and provides a good enough paycheck for you to pursue your personal interests in your free time.
you know thats crazy because i was actually starting my own business and growing it when i got into this career im in now (3 years into) but covid hit and completely fucking annihilated my tiny business. that really demoralized me and i havent even been able to find the motivation to get ahead in this job i love/loved so much and appreciated when i had no means of employment.
i shouldve kept the whole time in mind to use this was what i planned to originally, seed capitol and a steady income to feed my business and help it grow. but now i just cant see it working or happening again and i sure as fuck dont have that passion that drove me to start my own business anymore
i even was so fucking passionate that i managed to get my neighbor to quit his career and go into a business partnership with another guy. and i worked a few jobs on contract with them, it didnt work out and fell apart but i never realized how passionate i was back then i was so blinded by it that i didnt notice people around me taking that leap forward to try it themselves. fuck...
i'm happier doing real fine dining but if you work in any resteraunt with standards that high then you end up with no life at all and you get bullied all day
whereas if you show that level of talent at a place with lower standards you get paid more but no one gives a fuck whatsoever and you don't do anything interesting
Can any chicks here explain to me why women sometimes bring up super sexual stuff in the rudest way possible? Is it mocking? It's happened under different circumstances before but the defining pattern is that a girl I talk to a bit will tell me how she got fucked by some dude. I've learned to disengage when that happens but the first few times I encountered it the hook went all the way through my cheek >hey anon let me tell you about my weekend? ..blah blah blah.. And I don't even know his name. >damn thats crazy whats going on with you, I've never heard you talk like this >oh anon sometimes I get so lonely and sexually frustrated blah blah >that's crazy, how about we go on a date sometime then? >lol i would never go on a date with someone like you
That example was like 6 years ago but I still cringe thinking about it. A chick has been trying me more recently, every couple weeks I hear from her and she says some normal shit before talking about how she fucked a grease monkey. I think after my next tax return I'll just ghost her completely
lol sounds like you hang out with losers
but yeah it's bait to make you jealous.
women who are raised right would never talk about fucking another man with someone she's not dating. and even if you were dating and it was just a comparison it's still a bit of a faux pas
i'm happier doing real fine dining but if you work in any resteraunt with standards that high then you end up with no life at all and you get bullied all day
whereas if you show that level of talent at a place with lower standards you get paid more but no one gives a fuck whatsoever and you don't do anything interesting
i get bullied by my lab supervisor all the time, toxicity exists everywhere and it's bullshit but it's a trade off i'll make in order to achieve something i'm proud of
the abuse you get in michelin star resteraunts is insane, you get assaulted, verbally abused, work 15 hours every day, get into fist fights and arguments with pretty much everyone and no one gives a fuck if you're good or shit at your job
>start dating a girl >don't even tell anyone >she obviously tells her besties but beyond that nobody in my actual social circle knows >out of fucking nowhere start getting constant female attention, even girls i've never met are always trying to flirt now
how do they "know" lads? how is it that the times when i get the most attention from women is when i'm spending my time trying to be exclusive to another girl?
It's the same for everyone. Women throw themselves at you whenever you are not available. It is probably a variety of reasons. Higher self esteem, increased testosterone and probably they can even smell the other woman and get jelly
Enjoy it, don't think too much and use it to practice flirting
I didn't train today but I went to a 1 year olds birthday party (family)
It was nice but I should have trained regardless.
I hope you anons are doing okay and staying warm tonight.
if you dont make family one of the cornerstones of your life then whats the point of lifting? if you dont show the younger generations something they will 99% never see in person(someone who cares about their physical health) then why even lift to begin with. dont let the new generations die into obscurity with tons of health complications because they have no concrete role models in their lives to look up to
you're autistic
don't let lifting get in the way of family
I went because family comes first.
I'm saying it shouldn't be an excuse to have not trained.
I had time in my morning but chose to sleep in.
I enjoyed the memories we made together, I just think I could have done better as a man today.
it makes me happy to see someone with that kind of integrity, you cant beat yourself up over that. fuck everyone needs a vacation at work sometimes, taking a little time to sleep in isnt going to ruin your gains so just take it on the chin and try not to obsess over that one little thing.
its like a cheat meal, you can do it every now and then its not about failing once. you and i and he and she and we all are in this for the long haul. live the lifestyle, not the vanity
Been down the gym just now.
Chest is looking swole, disproportionately so. My arms from the front look like noodles, from the side you can see the definition though or if I flex from the side after a pump it looks good.
I heard training the brachialis is good for width.
I volunteered at the park today with a girl who is blind in one eye so it was a bit lazy but she was otherwise qt. at this point I realize girls just have to not be fat because i would totally make her my gf. I even met her dad which was .... awkward
I've been crushing on a guy I work with, and I can't tell if he's actually into me or not. When we text we talk all night, we talk for ages in person at work, he walks out with me after our shift, I've gotten him to go to a movie with me and come shooting with me ans coffee after. I'm not a femcel but I'm a terrible flirt, and I can't tell when someone's into me on a normal day as it is. I've been taking the lead here, and I've never done that either. Despite all we have going he hasn't made a move, and I'm scared of pushing him away if I do anything too "much." I don't know how guys deal with this shit trying to get a girl, cause I'm struggling bros.
>I've gotten him to go to a movie with me and come shooting with me ans coffee after
how do those not count as dates? if i was doing all that with a girl i'd make it pretty clear that we're going on a date, did you do that?
I never used the word "date" specifically. I had figured it was implied when we went for coffee after shooting. I haven't had much experience actually dating, I usually just try and get a guy's attention and hope he's interested and braver than me. And no that hasn't worked well in the past.
it's possible that he wants to avoid dating someone he works with, so he's trying to do everything he can to avoid making a move. but despite his rule, he clearly does like you or he wouldn't be spending time with you. at this point you just need to make it really, really clear that you're into him. make plans again like you have before and afterwards invite him back to your place. that's honestly what it will take for him to get the hint.
>avoid dating someone he works with
I wondered that, but it would have been an easy swerve giving a "no" to hanging out at all. Thanks for your advise anon, hopefully I'll have better luck and nut up next round.
>I wondered that, but it would have been an easy swerve giving a "no" to hanging out at all.
nah, because people get stupid when it comes to the ones they find cute
i'll give you my own experience
i made a hard rule for myself that i wouldn't date anybody that was also in my grad school program, especially in my same class. there was a cute girl in my class and we definitely clicked when we first met but i stuck to my rule and I would ignore her completely unless she initiated a convo with me. much like you, she didn't really give up and would try to find an excuse to talk to me or invite me out with the rest of our friends on weekends. there were multiple times when I was thinking to myself, "is she into me? is she flirting? etc." but I was so autistic about my rule that I refused to flirt back, even though I did find her cute. anyways, fast forward like a year, we were all hanging out and after the night ends i'm walking her back to her apartment and before she heads up she just turns to me and invites me up. and that's what it took for me to finally stop being a retard about my rule.
1 year ago
Anonymous
>Make rule to no longer date American women because they don't have values >Write off western women in general >Run into autismo American Indian >Is now wife >Best relationship I've ever had and I broke my dumbass rule
I had a girl practically sitting in my lap before I got the message that she was into me, you either need to be more direct with your intentions or take the leap of faith and ask him specifically out on a date.
Guys are simple, foul bachelorette.
I've had girls go further than sitting in my lap and I still didn't get the message, you wouldn't believe how much you can second guess things like that. Oh, and sometimes there actually really IS no message to get.
At this point I won't get the message unless someone just tells it to me in plain fucking english
Realized my life has been plagued by inaction, or rather procrastination. Last spring I spent a good month without my bike because I couldn't muster the ability to buy a replacement bike tube, something I had done before. I told myself I would search out a barber to get a get my hair trimmed in August and never followed through. I never really tried to apply to internships during this semester. I told myself I would get tested for ADHD in the spring and seek help and never did. I never sought to do my personal projects of the summer, and can't even think of doing them during the semester. I don't routinely go to the gym anymore. I haven't worked at all on my side hustle that I do every summer and let bleed into the fall. I got lead on by my friend and still haven't found the right time to air my grievances. Matter of fact, I have never told anyone my feelings for them in my 21 years of life. I'm tired of my inaction but I cant stop?
Jack daniels, on the rocks.
I've been trying to get to myself to ask this girl out, but I keep chickening out of it. I always thought I was extremely ugly, and she keeps showing interest, btu I have no idea how to stop being a homosexual and just ask her out. also i don't have her number, but I keep running into her and talking and shit.
Any advice anon bros?
, so I'm gonna giv eyou some advice. I'm 26 now.You will regret it fi you keep this up.
I am somewhat the same way, so I honestly feel with you. I just decided now, since my 26th birthday was today. I will fucking do whatever I have to do, whether I feel like it or not.
It's likehow you go to the gym, even though you don't feel like it, but you end up happy after regardless. It's the same thing with everything in life. Sometimes, you don't feel like doing what you gotta do, but if you do it, you will be happy.
Best of luck anon bro
happy birthday.
i turned 30 a few days ago.
you are absolutely correct.
you need to constantly be moving. you need to constantly be doing things.
go go go go go go go go.
that doesn't mean all your plans need to be grandiose and everything you do needs to be this high energy crazy experience. it means that when your eyes are open you are sitting there scrolling. you are acting with purpose.
your bed is made because there's a purpose to it, because you never know when you need to bring a girl back to your dope looking clean room to fuck. because sleeping on well kept sheets and mattress is super comfortable.
you need to be the guy that does 25 pushups every few hours because it keeps the blood flowing.
you need to be the guy that wakes up in the morning and writes down 10 things that need to get done before you go to bed. you need to be the guy that reviews that list before he actually goes to bed.
you need to be the guy that takes responsibility for every single thing that is happening around you.
floor dirty? it's your job to clean it. laundry not done? it's your job to do it. dishes in the sink? it's your job to make sure they're clean. body doesn't look good? it's your job to make a plan to improve it. does your vocabulary suck? it's your job improve your language.
take responsibility. start with what you WANT to be responsible for. work your way up to what you HAVE to be responsible for.
Jack daniels, on the rocks.
I've been trying to get to myself to ask this girl out, but I keep chickening out of it. I always thought I was extremely ugly, and she keeps showing interest, btu I have no idea how to stop being a homosexual and just ask her out. also i don't have her number, but I keep running into her and talking and shit.
Any advice anon bros?
imagine you're 85 years old.
what do you regret?
close your eyes
think hard on it.
open your eyes. change your future for the better
Thanks anon. Obviously actually doing it is the hard part but we need to be constantly in some sort of motion except when you are on top of things and say to yourself I'll relax for an hour or something.
But constant motion seems like the right way to live. I was on a walk one day and I saw a bee just going from one flower to the next and I felt like if I could be like that bee things could be so much better.
>I was on a walk one day and I saw a bee just going from one flower to the next and I felt like if I could be like that bee things could be so much better.
That's poetry anon
>I was on a walk one day and I saw a bee just going from one flower to the next and I felt like if I could be like that bee things could be so much better.
well I don't know if I'd call it poetry myself but it was a beautiful moment. Wish you were there, really.
>I was on a walk one day and I saw a bee just going from one flower to the next and I felt like if I could be like that bee things could be so much better.
>last time I talked to her was 6 months ago >was thinking today how utterly miserable I felt all summer, every day >tfw last couple of weeks have been nice, some bumpy moments here and there but overall good
Reminder to never fall for anyone bros. And if you do, time will fix everything, just copemaxx in whatever way you need to pass the time.
Another fucking Saturday night alone. I group texted my friends and not a single one wants to go out, they're all playing vidya or whatever at home. I'd go out alone but I hate it, it's so... sad. All these gains just for me to spend another night in my room in the cold glow of the monitor.
In order to get a girlfriend you need to have a friend group that you regularly hang out with and do stuff with.
1 year ago
Anonymous
Oh thank God I convinced one of them to get off steam and go out, we're gonna grab dinner at a little barcade/brewery. I just need to get out of the house to feel like a real human being (and a real heroooo).
As for the gf thing, it definitely helps but it's not necessary. With my last gf we pretty much never hung out with anyone except each other, and my sis dated a Chad sociopath who seemed to have no friends or family at all.
Make new friends.
Get a bit drunk then go out solo.
Nice dubs. Last time I went out alone I ended up just wandering the streets in front of the bars and restaurants feeling like I was going to cry.
1 year ago
Anonymous
>feeling like I was going to cry.
Maybe that was just that night. But then again, people have different reactions to alcohol. I get super talkative so it's never a problem for me to go up to someone and talk.
1 year ago
Anonymous
I get somber and quiet, it's a depressant for me.
1 year ago
Anonymous
>somber and quiet
Meanwhile that's how I feel when I'm not drunk and I have to actively talk and mess around to mask it kek. Well that sucks anon. Is it the same if you're with friends when drunk?
1 year ago
Anonymous
I don't know, I haven't been really drunk in a very long time. But in general the more I drink, the more I retreat. Same thing happens with weed. I'm more positive and fun when I'm sober. I think it's because I'm sitting on some old pain and when I drop my defenses it bubbles up.
1 year ago
Anonymous
It's tough to fix that shit. I'm trying to do it myself so I don't have any advice. Going out and getting drunk with friends is my favorite way to cope, also it feels good to hit that level of intoxication where I don't give a shit, and even better when I forget and black out.
Had my first wrestling match of the season today and took 2w 2L and one of the dudes that pinned me I totally should have beat I was damn near bullying him for 99% of the match and he caught me slipping for a second and pinned me. I respect him for getting through my total domination of him and getting me tho but he’s gonna be in my head rent free for a little while I can tell
woke up this morning horny. probably cuz i sleep naked and dry hump my pillow all night. whatever, get on the computer and start kranking. 10 beers last night and this oughta help. no paper towels, figure ill just blow the load on myself for funsies. need to take a shower anyway, ass checks are stickin together. I blow the biggest fuckin load. vertically. fuckin all over me, on the floor. I gotta admit im impressed with myself, this was probably the highlight of my week. I drink alone most nights, dont think ive gone out on a weekend in over a year. also gained like 40lbs. no idea whats next for me, skys the limit
Sometimes when I look at myself I see all the progress I’ve made and think I’m not in bad shape now. Usually though I just think I look like a fucking pig. I want to make it stop anons. I want to like my body. I’ll just keep lifting I guess.
howdy barkeep, cheap vodka and a half full bottle of water please
booked plane tickets to spain in january, going for a 30 day backpacking trip in europe
pretty excited brahs, not having access to games and the internet (from the comfort of my home) and being forced to interact with people and take in the sights
longest I've travelled is between states and even then didn't do any sight seeing
it's kind nerve-wracking but I think it's an opportunity for growth as well
I ran into some former friends, they all lived together this last year and gained shitloads of weight. Talking to them it starts to make sense. They now weigh the value of things in terms of pleasure, sensation. They could tell I was shocked by the weight gain and a couple times crude confessions were made about diet/ exercise regimens since I had seen them last. But it would be justified at the end of the statement by how happy they are now just accepting themselves.
This girl I'm friends with is the same way. I was very into her awhile ago and we went on some dates, but I sensed something and decided not to take it further. She's gained a lot of weight as well and when we catch up she shares how things have been and she occassionally asks for dating strategies to meet dudes. I've been telling her that she just needs to get in shape and grind her hobbies and career and she'll be fine, guys will actively seek her out if she seems like the type of person who they can grow with. But she wants someone who can accept her now, or for whoever she'll become. I asked her what of her flaws might prevent the guys she encounters from accepting her (she does crude one night stands every so often). It was all gay shit like: >I take lots of bubble baths >Always making cookies! >Can't stop watching crime dramas
What the fuck how is it possible for someone to lack the ability to critically self-analyze
I think its all connected, its something deeply psychological, almost spiritual. This demoralization is everywhere, ads, TV, movies. People who've accepted it spread it. Poison. I'm not immune to it. Quite often I'll be inclined to accept the demoralized position, or criticize one of the last few solid dudes left to gain social clout. Each time it gets a bit easier. It's like a fog settling over my mind.
I'm so sick of being a disappointment to my parents. I'm 30 years old, have a chronic health issue, haven't had a job in about a year, and had to move back in with my parents in August. I don't know how much longer I can take this shit. I wanna make a change but this health bullshit takes 100% of my mental capacity 24/7.
Sorry to hear about your health bro, it's gonna get better just try ro keep sane, start learning Java or Python or some coding shit. I don't have a health problem but this is what I am doing since I realised I hated my old job.
my roommate makes every surface he touches stink like BO. We have had multiple conversations about showering - one of the ONLY rules to live here was he had to shower daily. I had the day off work and know for a fact he didnt shower today since I was home... the couch smells like old ass mixed with bad colonge. I have never met someone with such an aversion to hygiene. He sits on the couch all day, which isnt a problem except the BO... What the hell do I do? Hes planning to get a travel job and move out but it could be a few months. In the meantime I am having to wash the couch cusion covers almost weekly, or am too embarassed to have anyone over lest they comment on the odor.
Working a dead-end job drags down every other area of your life. Even having a super great attractive girlfriend doesn't fix the internal realization that it's on ME to get my shit together, to fix things...
Where do I want to be in a year? Back in school. Not working a deadend job. Challenging myself. Having sex, having a loving gf, even hitting the gym - they're nice, and I don't want to take it for granted. But it's hard to feel satisfied when you know other areas of your life aren't in order. I'm determined to get my shit together career-wise, it'll be the hardest thing I've ever done, even harder than losing my virginity, or moving by myself, or adapting to school during covid. It's going to be a real challenge, but I refuse to be 30 years old, look back on my career and say >I never even tried
wasn't easy, I was 24 when I lost it, went all through college without losing it >you must be ugly brah!
lifted since I was 15, 5'11, SwoleShack, not a sperg
simply always lived with roommates, wasn't around enough women, didn't lose it.
But losing your virginity is way easier, in my opinion, than getting a decent, stable, well-paying career that you can raise a family on in the USA with chance of advancement outside of computer science as a white guy.
okay how did you do it though? >>you must be ugly brah!
don't worry, I wasn't gonna say this. I'm 22 and have 2 more years of college at the moment though. on some level I don't want to push for this but some growing part of me thinks I should
cold approached a girl at a coffee shop. Went on a few dates, took her back to my place. biggest factor that allowed me to lose it was having my own apartment and living in an urban area where I could meet girls easily. also you need to have the social skills to go from cold open to date to bringing her back to your place.
I recommend you attempt to lose it as soon as possible, just simply to gain experience and know what you like/don't like. You should be trying to approach girls casually in order to get your flirting and social skills up to snuff, it's a trial and error thing and it takes a lot of time and putting your ass on the line socially a bit.
In my experience there's not a magic key to it besides hard work and a bit of luck.
I have no problem striking up conversations with people, I'd actually say I'm well above average in that regard
don't have much of a problem making friends either. The other day I went to a college party for the first time and I was talking to everyone. But going from this to, you know, THAT, I have no idea how. Maybe I just need to really start pushing that comfort zone, right?
>did some OnlyFans content with a swinger couple once a few years back >scrolling through those fancy research sites for something to crank the hog too >tfw the guy in a thumbnail looks a little bit too familiar >tfw basically your sex tape got leaked
Wanking it yourself feels kinda odd, but fulfilling though
This.
Trying to get a new job myself, but every time I have the free time to start applying, I just sort of... don't. I don't know if I'm just lazy or afraid of major change in my life, but like you I know I have to try and get my shit together soon.
unironically reddit; I know, it gets worse with each post.
Didn't even give a portion of the profits, if there even was any.
1 year ago
Anonymous
I should clarify they messaged me first, so I didn't directly "seek it out"
1 year ago
Anonymous
I should clarify they messaged me first, so I didn't directly "seek it out"
something like 5-6 years ago i went on reddit to find girls to sext with and found one who ended up liking me and we would actually talk a lot and then after a few weeks or so i realized how stupid it was to talk to an online person so i dropped her. similarly dumb and horny situation.
but you actually did stuff on cam man, and you didnt even have your face censored or anything?
1 year ago
Anonymous
>but you actually did stuff on cam man, and you didnt even have your face censored or anything?
Yep. It's not like it or myself are famous or anything, so I'm not too worried about it; just probably won't go into politics anytime soon lol
Just still an embarrassing reminder of darker times
1 year ago
Anonymous
i see (not download just see) quite a lot of onlyfans account siterips on torrent tracker i use and it laugh at how a lot of the amateur ones with guys in the guys are censored or keep their face out of the shot. it makes me laugh because i imagine, while probably incorrect, that the guy is actually using foresight and saying "hey babe, no you should keep my face out, because the viewers dont want to see me" when in reality its because he is smart enough to not want his face on porn, when the stupid worthless whores who make onlyfans dont give a single shit because all they care about is the short term financial gain
1 year ago
Anonymous
>indirectly calls me a stupid worthless whore
lmao, probably true
Like I said, trying to get it all together now though. Looking at a radiology gig that pays pretty well, and it would feel like a more useful way to spend my work hours instead of bussing tables; feel like I might actually play a role in helping people... or just confirming they have cancer, which is kind of a bummer.
1 year ago
Anonymous
>onlyfans account siterips on torrent tracker
Can I set sauce on those siterips? There are a couple of whores that I want to browse and see if I can get free n00dz.
1 year ago
Anonymous
who are the whores you want to see i will look and see if they are there
>indirectly calls me a stupid worthless whore
lmao, probably true
Like I said, trying to get it all together now though. Looking at a radiology gig that pays pretty well, and it would feel like a more useful way to spend my work hours instead of bussing tables; feel like I might actually play a role in helping people... or just confirming they have cancer, which is kind of a bummer.
dont necessarily think you're a worthless whore but you were stupid yeah. but i definitely think the women who do all the onlyfans shit with no foresight thinking about their future at all, if their children might see the videos, etc, yes they are worthless whores.
1 year ago
Anonymous
why are you gatekeeping? Is it a private tracker?
1 year ago
Anonymous
>but you actually did stuff on cam man, and you didnt even have your face censored or anything?
Yep. It's not like it or myself are famous or anything, so I'm not too worried about it; just probably won't go into politics anytime soon lol
Just still an embarrassing reminder of darker times
My wife works with many early to mid 20s women and based on what she tells me it's absolutely nuts how many women have an onlyfans. Like not only the usual suspects, but even women who come from well-off, unproblematic families. It's really weird how casual they are about it, too, like, they don't think twice about how awkward it might make things for them later on (not to mention their future husbands and children) to have images and videos of them getting their asses drilled or their faces came on by their current boyfriends or FWBs floating around on the internet.
I'm so glad my wife and I grew up right before the age of widely available unlimited bandwidth internet, social media, and all that, trying to find a woman worthy of putting a ring on in [current year] must be an absolute nightmare.
1 year ago
Anonymous
>My wife works with many early to mid 20s women and based on what she tells me it's absolutely nuts how many women have an onlyfans.
the whores just go around work blabbing about their onlyfans accounts?
1 year ago
Anonymous
A lot of women who are mid-tier on looks will rake in more in a week than I do in a month, so I don't really blame them for bragging about it.
1 year ago
Anonymous
Obviously not, but word gets around, even if mostly indirectly. She made it sound as if it's like the fucking stasi in there, everyone is keeping an eye on every other person, constant gossip, all that jazz. It's also pretty easy to figure out when suddenly a colleague of hers starts to buy shit way beyond what they could afford previously according to their qualifications/rank and they didn't get together with some rich guy or inherit money from a relative. Like women who are fine with filming themselves getting fucked silly and sucking their men dry on camera for money are not exactly the type to keep it on the down low when they start to rake in the onlyfans cash.
1 year ago
Anonymous
>it's like the fucking stasi in there, everyone is keeping an eye on every other person, constant gossip
oh yeah i guess that makes sense when you say she works with lots of early-mid 20s women. i cant even imagine how horrible of a workplace this would be like, working with women in their 20s who are all also onlyfans whores.
you should tell your wife to play a mother role and ask all the whores what would happen if her child eventually found her account. just kidding.
1 year ago
Anonymous
>working with women in their 20s who are all also onlyfans whores
Not "all", by any means, just a lot more than you'd expect if you are not in tune with the zoomer zeitgeist, if that makes sense.
Well..if you want to know, I'm going to be ending my life by Sleeping pills and or Carbon monoxide gas cannister come Jan. 1. So...not great? Lol I joke, but I'm in the process of documenting some events, writing down my goodbyes, final wishes etc.
I'm hoping to get the cannister of Monoxide..but I have to actually make contact with the supplier and I have a feeling this is going to raise some eyebrows. So I may have to just pray that the sleeping pills and Alcohol are enough.
Lastly, just trying to make peace with it. I'm in my 30's, and while I've had some really really great times, I still feel slightly cheated so it's a cocktail of anger, resentment, and bitterness. I'm in no way going to harm anyone before I take the trip, but it just feels like the the score will be World: 1 Me: 0
And that's what I'm wrestling with before I go. So that's 1 and a half months to make peace with 35 years of building bitterness. So aside from all of that, just hoping I have the strength (mentally) to literally swallow the bitter pill.
im turning 31 in a month accomplished nothing in my life and i hope i get the courage to do this. there is really no reason for me to live but every time i think about dying or killing myself io get scared.
Don't do it anon. Its a devastating thing to do to anybody who has ever cared for you or let you into their lives.
There are so many different ways to live your life. Different settings, different paces, different stimuli, that it's hard to imagine there isn't something out there that would be palatable to you.
Suicide is only acceptable if you have a chronic disease that makes life unliveable. Don't be a coward and pick the easy way out.
im turning 31 in a month accomplished nothing in my life and i hope i get the courage to do this. there is really no reason for me to live but every time i think about dying or killing myself io get scared.
>but every time i think about dying or killing myself io get scared.
This is your mind (rightfully so) engaging its survival insticts. Don't be a coward.
So I've heard this 'coward' thing many times. I push back against this so much. Taking the plunge to voluntarily step across the brink is one of the bravest things I can imagine.
And yes I would be leaving behind a mother and a father who would be devastated. I get it, I've come accept that its also something I'll have to let go.
Its one of those things were my life peaked at 25, and given my personality, and manner, I am not a man cut for this world.
Whats hilarious, is I fought literally,vocally against religion my entire life, now as I'm prepping for the day, I almost have this fervor and wish that reincarnation was real, like it would be some solace
>Taking the plunge to voluntarily step across the brink is one of the bravest things I can imagine.
Let me ask you this, assuming that you have the chance of turning your life around (even if long-term), how is killing yourself "one of the bravest things" you can imagine?
> Its one of those things were my life peaked at 25, and given my personality, and manner, I am not a man cut for this world.
Alright, so your life has been on a downward trend for the last 10 years. How do you know that your peak at 25 is the only peak you will ever experience in your life?
You don't know if you will experience another peak if you end yourself.
Haha, sory youre on your own. I have been having some great fantasies of me doing some last big deed as I go out...but I got nothing. I'm open to suggestions l
well, at least, how much money do you have? May as well do some coke with hookers or something (emphasis on "or something"). or maybe figure out who your most corrupt local admin is on terraria and grief them
I have a huge crush on a male acquaintance. I've caught him staring at me and then turning away when I noticed, and other little signs that make me think he's interested, but I know he's shy and has problems opening up to people.
I don't think it's right for women to approach men, but I smile at him a lot when I see him and try to drop hints. I think he's on the spectrum a little bit or just really introverted, but this flaw is outweighed by all of his many virtues. How do I give him an obvious "in" to ask me out without overtly coming on to him?
>I don't think it's right for women to approach men,
why the fuck not? society has changed it is (unfortunately) not 1970 anymore and a man has a lot more to worry about when he approaches not to mention everyone being fucked in the head these days
you may as well just fucking ask them instead of wasting your time playing stupid little games, because he WILL not get the message and nothing good will come of it
It's not like he's a stranger who has to worry about me crying "sexual harassment." We know enough about each other/he knows enough about me to know I wouldn't do that.
I'm asking for things I could say to him to give softball pitch into asking me out next time I see him (which for the last couple years has been infrequent because he's in grad school in another state).
I deleted my Facebook years ago, but I'm seriously considering making one again just for him since he still has an account and seems to be on it occasionally (i.e. changes profile pic sometimes), it would take the pressure off if we were just chatting online I think. But, I really don't want to go back to that cesspit.
Literally just >what do you do for fun? Wow, me too (this is allowed to be a lie so long as you grow to appreciate it and begin to do it for genuine fun)! Maybe we should go together sometime! >Do you know of any good restaurants around? Looking for a new place to go. Wow, that sounds really good, I could go with you next time you go and you could show me some good things on the menu!
How is this hard?
>"maybe we should go together sometime?!" >"I could go with you next time!" >how is this hard?
It seems too forward and I don't feel comfortable being that obvious.
But, I do know he loves to read and so do I, so I suppose next time I see him I can ask him if he's ever been to this local bookstore that specializes in topics we're both interested in and then if he says "yes," lie and say I've never been there and always wanted to check it out. If he says "no," I can ask if he wants to go check it out with me.
I still think this is not necessarily appropriate, that he should be a man and just ask me out if he likes me and stop staring at me and showing interest without doing anything--seems like HE'S the one playing the games--but I'm just sick of pining after him and at least this will give me my answer once and for all if he's interested or not.
why can't you do it though? I really think you'd be better off.
Personally, I don't know anymore if ANY "signals" will work on me at this point. recently I had a bit much to drink and this girl grabbed me and took me into her bed and we literally slept together, and then I find out she didn't mean anything by it despite spooning with my hardon against her ass the whole night. So I don't fucking know man
>and then I find out she didn't mean anything
No you absolute homosexual, of course she wanted sex. You were such a pussy that her cooch dried off and she doesn't want anything to do with you.
Use your two braincells for a sec, how can a slut grind against your hard cock for any other reason than for sex?
without going into the specifics I know she did not, one because I was pretty much unconscious from how much I drank and two because our friends were in the same room
or what the hell, maybe she did
1 year ago
Anonymous
>maybe she did
Fucking believe me you dense homosexual. She really wanted to fuck.
If you both were on the same room as your friends, all you had to do was craft a shitty excuse to get both your asses out of there and into a location where you can fuck.
1 year ago
Anonymous
okay so we met up along with a couple other people a few weeks prior
she kept talking about what a giant whore she is (disgusting tbh) but I did, against my better judgement, find her attractive
bear in mind I'm a virgin manlet btw, she'd always talk to the other people in our group about some person she fucked and how tall they were like I wasn't even there so I generally just figured I'm out of here most times, you know? anyway we go to her place to have drinks, we're all drunk and I can't drive home, so we go to bed, and I'm still piss ass drunk
she just grabs me and puts my hand on her breast and like I said, I was too drunk to really like do anything except in the back of my head I was freaking out so I just went with it and yada yada we fell asleep
I wake up and I'm about to get towed, the other people have to leave too, so we do, and since then she talks less and less
also before that and after that night she would always be a giant asshole to me presumably because she, as a gigaslut, could smell the virginity on me and was disgusted (my guess) and she'd always make fun of me for it and stuff and call me pathetic. I could never tell if it was a joke or not
so based on this would you revise your answer or would you stick with it? because the whole thing has left me more confused than ever
1 year ago
Anonymous
> she kept talking about what a giant whore
The slut has no shame and is probably impulsive > she just grabs me and puts my hand on her breast
Why would she do that? I wonder... > since then she talks less and less
You were such a gigantic homosexual that you dried her pussy. She is not interested in you since you are a weak bitch. > before that and after that night she would always be a giant asshole to me
This tells me that you live rent free in her head. When a girl really doesn't not want anything to do with you, you are invisible to her. The fact that she cares enough about you to constantly give you shit tells me that she is down to fuck (at the least brag that she took her virginity and you were her conquest). > so based on this would you revise your answer or would you stick with it?
I was never going to take back my answer. Stop worrying about girls and start sucking dick you homosexual.
1 year ago
Anonymous
hey now calm down I wasn't asking you to take back your answer just see if you still thought it made sense
honestly I kind of agree with you, I'm really out of my element here. last sunday she was a giant asshole to me as well and since then I just have ignored her though. I guess I'll just keep this in mind for next time
1 year ago
Anonymous
> hey now calm down
It's the internet dumbass, don't take shit so seriously >I wasn't asking you to take back your answer
You asked whether or not I would revise my answer, that would effectively be taking back my answer so I am right. > I'm really out of my element here
At least you know that you are lacking confidence and social skills. You better get that shit fixed if you don't want to stay a virgin manlet for the rest of your days. > since then I just have ignored her though
This is unironically the best step you could have taken in this situation. At this point she is either completely put off and you have zero hope or you will need to give things time to heal. Do your own thing and ignore the bitch, if she still wants you, she will chase you(if she doesn't chase then move on and cut all contact).
1 year ago
Anonymous
sounds good to me then bro. just don't have experience with crazy bitches like this. no prob talking to people in general but yeah, just gonna stay away for now
The only time in my life I have ever seen/talked to my small extended family is at Thanksgiving. I remember when I was growing up Thanksgiving was always my favorite time of the year for this reason, being able to see the grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins, etc.
As I grew through college and my 20s, now 30, with absolutely zero to show for my life and a completely worthless manchild, I now just honestly never really want to see the family again, because recent years I go to see them, have nothing to say, no accomplishments to talk about, no friends/relationship to bring with me, just basically sit there like a quiet visitor before leaving. I am an embarrassment to my parents and to the family as a whole. I haven't even seen or talked to the family at all since Thanksgiving 2019 because of covid and I've accomplished zero in the three years. And now I have a few young cousins who are probably around 7-10 years old and I don't want them seeing some loser like this in their family.
I feel like I was set up for failure even though i can be blamed since I don't know how to socialize with others well, my only good thing going is having decent pt scores.
Felt the same growing up
Don't wanna tell my whole life story or blog post but basically I moved around alot as a kid and never learned to socialize. I don't know if I was at fault for that or if I should have been shown the ropes but I got none of that other than this "guess you're just a late bloomer, haha" or "maybe you'll blossom when you're older:D" BS like how does that make any God damn sense? I get I can't blame others for what I did but isn't a dad or someone supposed to show their son their ropes or something on how to meet people? Or maybe it was my fault since I was a teen that was anti social and didn't want to see people and there was nothing they could do
Plus to top it all off I still have a guilty conscience for shit I did that garnered the attention of law enforcement and embarrased my family, I don't discuss with any of you
When I close my eyes, I see somewhere that isn't here. I see snow, barren white, virginal and crystalline. And I trudge, through the nothing, the utter quiet. And the air is hard, brutally cold, I breathe it in my nostrils and I am alive, in this instant, this small instant, it is just me and the vast, vast expanse, the vast chasm of time, cyclical, continuing, snow after snow after snow on the dead trees.
I see the bitter blue expanse and I am not here, even though I am not there either. I am in an innocent time, I am in the crib, I see the empty blue expanse and I am glad that it's empty. Unthinking, no mind, stillness, not a waiting but a simply. There. Unbeginning. Unstriving.
In that place, I am not. No self. No goals, no reason. In the beginning. A return, a return to nature which is already complete. No striving, nothing but that which already is. Into great silence.
Yet, here I am. With tasks, with traffic and budgets and shopping lists, rightly so, rightly so. But in that moment - the earth is unwaiting, unknowing, just being. Quiet pines, with nothing to say.
I had an idea to get two part time jobs, but have them both scheduled to be on the same days; one early morning (5am - 1pm or so) and one going into the evening (like, 2pm - 10pm) so I can get a whole 40 hour work week done in ~three days, and have a majority of the week as time off. Imagine the extra lifting hours
Actually managed to make friends after moving to a new city. I'm used to being the socially awkward loser with zero confidence, but due to my hobbies, I've ended up attracting far worse off people. I feel bad, but I don't want to hang out with these people because their physical appearance and health are so revolting. They're not interesting to talk to either, but they're the only non-vapid people I've met that are around my age.
Idk what to do about this. Outside of that, I'm trying to make other friends but there's nothing going on on Meetup or Event Bright. Should I just go to bars? I never thought I'd be that guy.
Sad part is, I've been bitching about the same thing for years. I don't deserve pity because these things are entirely within my control. I feel like I would do better if I had goals, but the truth is I have none. I don't believe in myself at all. It's gotta change, but I've been telling myself that for years. I just want to want.
I just don't get it. In the gym I get literally NO play at all when it comes to girls. I know I'm attractive by normie standards because OUTSIDE of the gym I easily get tons of attention. Just today I had a girl full on bumping into me constantly trying to get my attenion then when I finally started flirting with her she got super shy and easily got her number.
I just don't get the gym and how I'm completely frozen out.
>In the gym
Getting girls in the gym is particularly tricky. Because of hypergamy, you will be compared to the more aesthetic and stronger folks, this can lead to you geting overlooked.
There is also the fact that most women go there to bask on the abundant attention that they get.
Just keep getting the pussy that you usually get.
I've been dealing with fucking hip pain for months now. Don't know what to do about it, I've barely even lifted the last few weeks. I don't have the time or inclination to go to a doctor and they're all scam artists anyway. But it's really starting to make me worried, I think it's some sort of hip alignment issue. Pls help
I met a girl on a dating website who did some work on my favourite anime franchise
Not sure if I want to date her, but I'm going to at least try to be friends
My gym crush hasn't been at the gym in a month. She actually started noticing me before she disappeared but I sperged out each time and immediately left the gym.
She's a beautiful Mediterranean looking girl who can deadlift 3 plates. She has a similar shy disposition to me and I was looking for the strength to finally talk to her, but now she's gone.
I've been working out for years, hoping to find a sense of worth in sculpting my body through my dedication. There is no worth and I'm still a sperg who keeps wishing I would have done something when I had the chance
My fear of being homeless again is stopping me from quitting my abusive job. I'm a manager at a big retail store. Corporate is blatantly incompetent, my immediate bosses are abusive, and roughly half of lower employees are generally useless. Customers are entitled and treat you like you're a slave and/or retarded. I used by in cyber sec but I let my certs slip cause of some personal shit. I should be making triple what I do now. I want to study again, but dealing with this is such a drain I don't have the energy. I have enough saved I could not work at all for a year and a half. That should be more than enough to get started again. I'm still terrified at the thought of not having a job though. It is so easy to fall through the cracks of society. I just as scared of staying though. I can FEEL myself becoming more of an asshole as the years go by. Dealing with trashy entitled people everyday is grinding down my personality and ruining my attitude towards humanity as a whole. I can't even have a relationship because I hate my life and can't accept why someone would want to share this shit with me. I ghost people that try to connect with me. I know I can do better because I have done much harder things in the past. When did I become a coward?
Don't be too harsh on yourself, fren. Management positions are tough as shit, you are doing well still caring about being a decent human being, I have seen some mfs with a lot of experience but who lost it, and I would never want to be them. If you try to change careers, having a friend in the new field who will mentor you would be a huge benefit.
I hate my ex so much
I don’t ever want to see or speak with her
But since she was my first I am a new anon
I need that feeling again I hate her but I loved that feeling she gave
What to do anons some nice brown haired girl has been flirting with me even when I was with her
Guys I need some quick advice.
Im spending the week with my friends and a cute girl. Ive met her once before and we've had a chance to talk more yesterday?
What do I do now? Do I ask her out to some museum or other gay shit? We both like art. Asking her for her number would be stupid because we are on the same what's app group.
How do I meet people bros? Preferably women. >24 year old khv >am legitimately medically autistic >Have zero friends >live in an area with only old people and boomers >no stores or anything around for my interests
I literally have no idea what I'm supposed to do
I've been vibing with a girl from a different department at my weekend job. I have developed a crush
But I'm pretty sure she's underage. Last time I talked to her it hit me how young she seems. I can't fully confirm it yet though
Kind of a bummer tbh
>But I'm pretty sure she's underage.
so what?
I'm an adult so no
you do know it's legal to have a relationship with a girl as long as they're over 16 in the U.S, right?
I'm 25 going on 26 I'm not dating a 17 year old
where the hell do you work to have such a young coworker
A low paying job I do on the weekends. There's plenty of minors here
How low would you go?
20
Cuck
I'm alive today because my grandfather fucked my 14 year old grandmother.
This is before age of consent laws and he was legally an adult.
My dad is 15 years younger that his mother.
My grandparents are still married.
Grandpa is a bastion of a holy man.
How old are you?
I wish i could quit my job but i have no skills or interests and will not be able to make this much money doing something else
What you do for a living anon?
Security work. I fell into it in my early 20s and have been doing it for like 5 years at this point but it gives me no satisfaction and i would rather find fulfillment in my work or at least do something with more upwards mobility that i can turn into a career.
I have a hard time cutting ties with toxic people who don't improve me and with whom I have no prospect of growth, especially if they are manipulative girls. I already have few friends and I'm afraid of ending up alone.
My best friend is coming out of an 8 year relationship and he's becoming increasingly depressed and suicidal even on medication. He lives in another country and i don't know what to do. He's the only person i can fully open up to and i don't know what i'm going to do if he goes.
I have feelings for a girl that doesn't care about me at the same time i am getting to know another girl who's really cute and i don't know why my shit ass brain keeps thinking about the other girl.
I am progressing well in the gym though, so i got that going for me.
Week 6 of shoulder injury.
It don't hurt no more but i can feel the tendons being sore when I externally rotate and sometimes it "clicks" wrong.
I'm so sad.
I literally can only do cardio and legs and I hate it.
Just farted and pretty sure I shit a little bit
Typical SwoleShack poster.
I think I'm developing a feeling for my manager. It's gonna be really awkward if I confess lol.
I'm making crock pot soup
You guys want some
>Not browning the meat
No excuse mate. I know an instantpot when I see one. Get sautéing
I paid a photographer to take some pictures of me, I looked extremely chad in those pictures, but I still have 0 matches on tinder.
I think that women can smell the autism behind muscles, clothes and photoshop.
Tinder algorithm fucks you up if you're a free profile, doesn't show you to anyone
Tinders a scam bro. Unless you are female or a 8/10 and up, the algorithm makes you invisible to everyone after a couple of days.
I'm a solid 6/10, I get about 30 matches on Tinder before the shadowban kicks in. Meanwhile on Hinge I get matches fairly regularly all the time.
I got Covid this week and was home for three straight days Wednesday through Friday. I basically did nothing for three days. Not even like just watching shows or movies or anything. Three entire fuckin days and when I have this amount of free time I spend it doing absolutely nothing. This happens pretty much all the time when I have extended free time. This happened at the start of the year too. I had to take off basically the entire month of January when work plummeted due to Covid and I practically wasted literally an entire fucking month doing nothing.
I think I have severe ADD. I just can’t focus on anything
matched with this cutie a while ago. we were writing back and forth for a bit, but i dropped the ball and the conversion has been inactive (hidden) for about 5 weeks now.
can i recover from this? should i try my luck again and message her + ask her out if she replies back or is it over?
in case it wasn't obvious, i'm a khv and a sperg, nfi how (online) dating works
Is it okay to isolate yourself for a while in order to make money and make gains?
Of course
I find that is the best way to make gains. Sort of like the universe is trying to sell you thrills and you pay in loosh and when you isolate she comes looking for her loyal customer with special offers in hand
Realized I'm still in love with my ex. We broke up 6 months ago mutually since she was moving to the other side of the country and I'm leaving to Asia next summer. I fucked around with some people post-breakup which she found out about and blocked me on everything. Thought I was over her but now there isn't a day where I don't think about her. Came really close to asking a friend to message her asking if she wanted to meet again.
Longest It's ever taken me to get over a breakup, hope things feel better soon. She really was the right one at the wrong time.
Don't marry yourself to that idea anon, pretty soon you will come across the notion that she was the right one for the right time, because of the lessons and expiriences you've opened yourself up when she was there. All the best. - H
should I make an instagram, is it like the new standard for dating? feels like thats the only things girls are comfortable sharing
I just broke up with my gf of 5 years. I love her but she wants to get married and i want to bang other chicks, i also don't like being restricted and enjoy freedom. I could forego all these things if she was super pretty but honestly shes kinda mid fr fr. I genuinely love her though and im sure she would make a great mother
Just be cautious that you may find out none of the pussies you dive into are attached to a woman you could love like your girlfriend and it might be too late
dont worry man im sure youll totally not regret this decision im sure youll get so much other pussy to fuck and it will totally feel the same as a 5 year gf who you love HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
I'll get plenty of pussy dont worry about that. Why are being so passive aggressive? Are you a woman and you got personally offended that a man would even say this?
Not him but was your relationship all good outside of you wanting other pussy? I hate women but damn you can't just fuck her over like that unless she did something to deserve it
he was probably a virgin before meeting his gf and now thinks that hes gonna get so much pussy and it will be better than his gf. it will be funny.
Yeah it was ok apart from the last few months because i cheated on her. But i have always been honest with her that i dont want to get married.
Roastie cope
Wow you should seriously think about killing yourself
>mid
>fr
You have to go Back homosexual
oh dude... you...
you really will get the regret jackpot all for yourself in a few years.
nah dude think of all the pussy hes gonna get tho HAHAHAHA
enjoy your AIDS you naggerhomosexual
This better be bait. If not, please put some serious thought into kys
Its one of those damned if you do, damned if you don't situations.
Whatever you choose, you miss out on something. If you have to choose, pick something you'll feel remorseful for, rather than follow a path that will make you resentful.
>robs serious honest girl of 5 years of her prime
>now what once was a serious young girl who wanted to settle and have children, supposedly faithful since it lasted 5 years....has become this late twenties, rushing, bitter woman who realizes she has maybe 1 or 2 chances to find the right man.
Thanks for shitting in the pool asshole. It's dudes like you who ruin it for all of us. I can't tell you the amount of women I know who had a POS like you drop them the moment it got to family/kids.
in all honesty man you don't sound mature enough to get married anyway.
nope.
don't be afraid to upskill man. I see a lot of people working deadend jobs in their late 20s/early 30s and they're all mostly miserable. It's a hard lifestyle and going back to school is worth it.
>bought a house together
>not married
try getting out of food service, trust me.
what's wrong with relaxing man? you're too hard on other people. they didn't ask for the burden of responsibility.
honestly, you might be retarded
I'm mad. There's this Stacy at my job I want to hook up with. Just a ONS but 1) I don't shit where I eat and 2) she doesn't seem interested. We just met for the first time physically yesterday, and I've just been visualizing her giving me head after bringing me to her apartment, after work.
Starting new job soon, I think it will be nice there
Making decent gains, doing physical exercise atleast 5 times per week
Thinking of buying a new watch
Boring stuff like always tbh
feel bad because im a bio female and will never put on muscle as easily as a male and sometimes I look in the mirror and say why even bother. Still I go and have made a lot of progress but some rare days I feel this is all bullshit and I am a dyel noob and will always be.
also got antimired yesterday and today. It really sucks amigos
Explain
He's saying that he got antimired yesterday (the day before today) and also the calendar date immediately preceeding that. He is using the Spanish term "amigo", meaning "friend", to imply a sense of shared fraternity. Lastly, he is using the word "sucks" in the colloquial manner, meaning the situation is deeply displeasing to him.
watch leanbeefpatty and never give up girl.
Hit the 10 year mark as a hikkikomori recently. I will probably never recover from this.
Accept that it'll be challenging, but never write yourself off anon. Until you're dead, there's a chance. Take baby steps.
Can I get sick from fucking a girl with Lyme disease? She is basically begging me to come fuck her but I dunno.
If you have to ask, don’t do it
iam nervous.
next week i will perhaps get a job interview for a job that pays a bit less but has homeoffice and isnt as astressful as my current job.
yet i fear the ruckus it will cause in my current job and i have a bad feel to leave some coworkers because they will have a harder time once ieam gone.
but i know the current job isnt really good for me because of all the stress.
Do the needful sir
Found out a couple weeks ago that 2 of my coworkers who I am close with find me attractive. One is a man and has been a good friend outside of work. He told me that he tries not to show it because he wants our friendship to remain the same. The other one has a boyfriend and got drunk and told me that I'm "so attractive" to her and then said she doesn't want me to stop being her friend because of it. I have a girlfriend whom I love so it doesn't matter but it was nice to find out that people think I'm attractive. They're both about 8 years older than me. Then yesterday I found out that the Mexican cleaning women there call me "papi chulo" when they asked the previously mentioned female friend if I would be in. Had to ask another Mexican there what that meant and he let me know it's what they call handsome men. So I am flattered. Now I just need to start looking like I lift. I didn't pussy out of any of my workouts this week so I think it's going well.
there is a real good looking new hooker in town that even does anal.
i asked her for a pic of her asshole and she doesnt answer anymore.
You idiot. Hookers get loads of guys messing them around, and trying to get fap material without paying. Way to get yourself blacklisted, Romeo.
Get a burner phone, contact her again, and this time get straight to business. "I want to see you at X date, Y time for Z duration for a session including anal, please let me know if that works for you and confirm the price, thanks", that kind of thing
HELLO. I HIT 4 PLATE DEADLIFT THIS WEEK. NO STRAPS, NO BELT, NO SHOES, NO PUSSY SHIT, JUST PURE RETARD STRENGTH. I NOW HAVE THE 1, 2, AND 4 OF THE 1/2/3/4. LAST YEAR I BUSTED MY KNEE UP PRETTY BAD AND I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD BE ABLE TO GET TO THE 3 AND 4 BUT MY PHYSICAL THERAPIST WAS AWESOME AND HERE I AM. LEGS HAVE LAGGED BEHIND UPPER BODY CUZ OF THIS INJURY BUT I AM GETTING BACK THERE
Thank you Abdul
Congrats
Today's not a good day. I'll take a nap and try to do my workout when I wake up.
I don't have the energy for weighted pullups right now.
I showed my grandma the '7 easy ways to make chocolate at home' video from Filthy Frank and she loved it. We had really nice laughs and I explained some of the lore to her but now I'm reminded that, one day, she will no longer be there with me and I'll be sitting next to an empty rocking chair.
Didn't make small talk with the cute girl who works at the pub/restaurant again.
Going down the gym tonight, not sure if I've made any gains yet, hard to tell. Just really hope I do.
My Grandpa died a couple weeks ago and i have his funeral in a couple days. I've not cried or felt emotional, which in a way makes me question myself. Everyone has been upset, but I've felt nothing.
were you close to him? i wasn't close to mine and he was abusive to his kids apparently. my dad was distraught but i didn't feel anything except to support him
As a kid I was partly looked after by my grandparents as my mum and dad would work a lot or if they wanted to go out, I'd be round my grandparents.
I would say average, not exactly close.
I feel maybe it's society that's made me emotionless.
He has also done nothing for all my years (26) other than sit Infront of a TV, never really did anything.
I loved my grandpa a whole lot and I felt mostly the same when he passed. It was a while ago and I don't really even remember ever having a big emotional moment about it, but today my pops told me a book I was reading was one of Grandpa's favorites. It made me feel happy and proud and close to my grandfather again. idk it's the little things you take with you, I guess.
I've come to realize that I should probably do online dating. I'm decent looking and SwoleShack as fuck, but I'm also autistic in my own way and feel like I will never meet a compatible woman through regular life. Problem is I have 0 pictures of me despite having a normie social life and don't feel like taking shitty selfies on my own. Probably will have to wait for next summer and make my friends take some pictures of me at festivals and shit
I need some cock in my life. Only obstacles are being bio fem taking testosterone and a gigaintrovert. I've had three girlfriends and oh my god do I hate women
>Only obstacles are being bio fem
hot post contact
do you guys have social media?
just one old Facebook profile which I haven't updated about 8 years or so
still a high school pic of me there as my profile picture
Oh well, here goes.
Story may sound crazy; I met my girlfriend (soon to be wife) on discord, and we finally met.
It was 1 month ago she arrived, and we had been talking for 2 years up to that point. Extremely comfortable, redpilled, fitness, whatever the fuck. You name it, she is that. Hates politics, hates leftists, beautiful woman, curvy but still thin, and the most beautiful personality one can ask for, raised strict-Christian, sure she won't cheat, only insecure people worry about that, unless you are hooking up with a whore.
It was the best month of my life, I have not been this SwoleShack, as she always wants to be outside, and loves to stay active, nevertheless, the best sex I have ever had. But alas, everything has an end. Friday she should've went home again, but she missed her flight. Her parents were sweet enough to buy a new ticket and so she had to stay here another night, which was the most awful, as we both already officially said goodbye, then see eachother again a hour later. Anywho, saying goodbye this morning was hard, real hard. It's not really a sad story, or something with a twist, I just miss my gf bros... I will see her again in the summer, so it will take awhile. Just had to share it somewhere.
checked and I pretty much went thru the same experience as a 20-yr old retard and here I am 11 years later, married and with 3 kids with that girl. Stick with it man it's worth it.
That is so nice to hear, I am glad I am not alone, yes, I will stay with her, I have never met such a loyal woman in my entire life. Grew up in the city, she is from rural country, nearest city is 1 hour away. I have never known girls like this existed. Hope is not lost. Thanks for the nice message. Whether you believe in it or not, may God protect your soul 🙂
>Hates politics, hates leftists
>strict christian
>unless youre hooking up with a whore
>immediately starts fucking you, but yeah shes a strict christian and not a whore
>hates politics but somehow hates lefitsts
>most beautiful personality possible
uh huh, right anon
Jealous much?
this sounds nice but you need to post a pic of her before I can congratulate you anon. censor as much as you want.
>which was the most awful, as we both already officially said goodbye
??????????
As someone who has to say goodbye today, I would kill for one more day.
Fuck man that sounds tough but do take care of yourself, do try to look like you've got your shit together, helps with depression. We are all gonna make it.
what kind of server did you meet her on? I downloaded discord for the sole purpose of talking to redpilled gamer girls (I know they exist and I’m talking to one now) I need to secure my source in case of the inevitable loss of interest occurs on their part
Just realized it doesn't count cutting omega 6s if I still cook with Sneed oils. I gotta go to the grocery store and get lard
Feeling like I'm stuck in hamster wheel of my own past short comings. It's hard to stay focused on the long term freedom when the present feels so soul crushing. Probably the loneliest I've been in my life too so I've completely let go and have grown a beard for the first time.
Go to college. It's the most important thing. A bachelor's will get you a job
So that was a fuckin lie
you did get a degree in something useful, right?
I'm not a gender studies major if that's what your asking. My issue is I feel like as long as you're doing something not brain dead(gender studies) you should be gaunteed a job. That's what we all were taught in high school and most of our lives. And it just feels like
>YOU NEED TO GET A DEGREE
Ok
>NO NOT THAT ONE
I'm in the same situation. So many degrees are meme degrees.
Don't whine too much like a loser. Stand up, change course, and take your chances, champion.
people at my gym are so fucking weird, it's throwing me off sometimes.
fuck it these threads are never about the gym or fitness related
here it goes
when should you actually be "active" and sell yourself out more compared to "proactive" and buying people's info? when I'm in a conversation with someone im sorta interested in, I have a tendency to spill out too much so I just hold my spaghetti in but then the other person doesn't say much about themselves and I get into a really autistic bout with them where I don't say anything because I don't want to waste time with someone I don't connect with and vice versa.
My phone broke. I’ll try some repair I saw a russian guy doing on youtube, but It’ll have to wait until monday since I don’t have the right screwdriver to open it. Decided to boot up the old phone I had as a teen and use it for now. It’s strage to look up its contacts and see the names of so many people I lost contact with through the years.
Browsing SwoleShack on a busted up and pixelated old screen is cool though, feels like I’m using a time machine.
Listening to my old playlists is a trip too. I’ll be sure to recreate them when I get my phone working again.
oh come the fuck on anons do I really have to tell the story with some fake chick in the story for you to give me decent advice or discussion about anything?
Yes thats what tge thread us about
Just found out by her current bf my best friend (exclusive but not exactly in a relationship) who I lost it to (we were both virgins) and who I thought was the best and most honest person I've met lied to me for half our friendship by dating a guy for a year and a half just months after moving to a new city. Id pushed her out of her comfort zone to leave her abusive small town and mother and find a better life somewhere else. We lived far from each other in different countries, but after a year finally met up before I came to a new country. I stayed loyal and honest for the whole time even having traveled the world. She did all that while she'd send me sexual stuff. Id asked a million times why she was so aloof and distancing herself. Never admitted anything but until the day I broke it off said I was the best person she'd ever known. She'd asked many times for me to stay and how I see what was going on. This was someone that hated the concept of cheating we discussed so many times. That had never had a bf at 22.
So days ago I get this message from her account from her current boyfriend basically telling me all the dates of her relationship with him and the other guy. Said he had to look for evidence on her accounts because he couldn't trust her and knew she was hiding things. Said shes probably a pathological liar. And that she said she was sorry and that I should forgive her for all the lies and not having the courage to tell the truth. I obviously don't buy the disgusting apology.
I sent a final message to her personal email basically stating if this was all true then she would have been the biggest disappointment I've ever had. And she knew so well for years how much I struggled to recover from a cheating ex and the break up. It just seemed unbelievable. I get a reply yesterday from someone that was clearly her bf acting in her behalf pretending to be her. It basically turned everything around to make me seem like the bad guy and that I had no right over her
Cut off, move on, grow as a person
Meant the reply above to you
Will do. It's just so unbelievable, the whole thing. Everything I did for her and staying loyal 15k Kms away and not only did she lie so much and cheated on her bf with me and vice versa, but she blames me for the disgusting shit she did as if was nothing. Truly bizarre. And of course the only reason I know what really happened is because of her bf messaging me out of the blue to tell me the truth. Even then she couldn't muster up the courage to say anything and had him reply to me as if it was her.
I know it's good I finally know what went on, but it was the biggest disappointment I've had with someone in life. After I broke everything off I thought At least I know she never failed me. Her doing that has completely ruined ever talking again.
I strongly suspect she had borderline personality disorder. She was diagnosed with mild autism but I know there's gotta be more to it.
Evil, I tell you. Pure evil
My partner has been super depressed and recently revealed she thinks it' s because our relationship isn't working out. We've been together for several years now and just bought a house together, and despite her saying part of the problem is she doesn't feel like I need her around or want to spend time together, she's been acting super distant and is always out the house. I'm not I'm not ready for the relationship to end, but at this point I'm not sure what the hell to do.
Not a sign of a healthy relationship but I'd strongly suggest going through her stuff cause it's incredibly likely she's cheating on you and won't tell you.
Private investigator. Catch her cheating, ask her to leave the house. If she tries anything funny remind her you have evidence.
I hope all your relationships fail and you all get cancelled by your ex
How do I stop being an Incel? I’m 20, I’ve tried dating apps and it never works. I don’t talk to women in person because I don’t know any. I have a small group of friends but want to branch out more and meet women to be honest. I’ve joined local clubs and stuff but no luck either. What do I do? Pic related is me by the way, I’m 5’7 ate around 170lbs. Yes I’m fat and yes I’m losing weight
Do you work or go to school? You need to do things where you have social contacts. Probably live in a remote place? As a city guy, it's hard not to meet women
Yes I do both. I’m in college but I don’t know how to talk to them that much, I talk to classmates sometimes but they aren’t friends or anything. Same with work, but most are older than me anyways. Where else do I meet people? Doing it at pubs and stuff seems impossible since everyone already has an established group for the night
Need to work on ur social skills and get a hobby
I do boxing and taekwondo currently. I also do photography as well but not much. I used to play instruments and I very rarely do a bit of language learning. I have no clue how to get better social skills, I’ve worked retail my entire life and people still think I’m weird. I drive people away from me with my lack of spontaneity. I don’t know what else to do to get better
Haha, you sound exactly like me when I was 20.
>TKD, boxing
Keep these up, utilise the social aspect. You must have club social nights, right? Interclub meets? Also there's the social media clout. Some footage of you doing some high kicks or shirtless bag work could be a suitably subtle flex.
>photography, music, language
Use one or more of these to network. Get serious about one and find a club or society. Doesn't need to be your age range, doesn't need to even have women in it (although they all sound very female friendly). Just practice those social gains.
>lack of spontaneity
Unless youre some extrovert loudmouth, EVERYONE feels self conscious when it comes to thinking what to say and filling a silence. It will come with practice. Interaction isn't a video game with wrong or right dialogue trees, or a stage show where you have to entertain people with scintillating jokes and anecdotes. Don't sweat it.
It's difficult to give an exact blueprint but basically you have to expose yourself to more social situations (and by extension more chances to meet women). Alongside this just work on being a confident, complete guy. If you go out there exuding desperation or neediness, that's woman repellant.
I'm on antidepressants and feel almost no sex drive at the moment. Without them I'm a mess. What's the point of everything if I can't even cum. And yeah, I tried different ones.
Wellbrutin maybe? Or add meds? I got diagnosed with adhd 10 years after getting treated for depression and it helped me a lot.
I tried wellbutrin. Made me restless and gave me circulation issues. Uncomfortable feeling tbh
I'm lonely and burned out of dating. Also I struggle really hard quitting to smoke. Because of loneliness I started drinking half an hour ago and now I want a cig so bad.
got out of my head with my ex of 4 years and the girl I dated after her. I was feeling depressed and burned out this last month, but I’m starting to feel better, it was likely work causing it.
I’m starting to notice girls take an interest to me, lots of smiles and small talk. There’s a qt at the cafe I frequent who always serves me on weekends, would ask her on a date but reminds me too much of my ex of 4 years (petite art hoe), even have similar names/nicknames.
I'm try to learn to jump rope because I can't run right now and I need some form of cardio, but this is so fucking hard.
How the hell do schoolgirls do it? I can barely go over 10 jumps and I fail on the third most of the time...
Like any skill it takes time. Just try a little more each day and you'll get the timing and rhythm down. Just don't overdo it
Just brainstorming in thiss post....
Was out drinking yesterday (friday)
I reckon semi-private techno parties are a bad place for hooking up with girls, since the minority of them are considering hooking up with a guy.
Throughout the night I suffered from severe FOMO when my friends started talking about the stuff they di; imagine that: you are out drinking and partying with friends and you are still fearing on missing out on the very thing you are doing in that moment.
Got also told how one chick that was there got railed by like 10 dudes on another party a while back. It honestly angers me a bit how accessible sex is to women. I dont hate women, just this observation. I hate this way of thinking, I feel like an incel, but it is testing my self esteem, since it's quite the opposite for me. Even more so when I see how some of my friends just enter the party and are already dancing with girls within the first hour they got there. I always have to hide these feelings and act like I don't care, but in reality there is a storm raging inside of me. They are my friends, they deserve it, it just annoys me that I can't be like they are. I want to be popular with girls aswell.
At least I woke up with almost no hangover, I was suprised to say the least.
I'm only staying in school to make my parents happy. I dropped out of college twice as a junkie social reject. Got clean at 23, then went back for my degree at 25. Getting my associates this May at 27 but already know I made a mistake and probably won't use my degree and that I shoulda just stuck with trades while I had a good thing going. At least it'll be over soon and I can pick up where I left off. My parents want to see me walk at the ceremony, but really all I want is to do the pragmatic thing and get back to work where I was making enough money to live comfortably with some actual freetime to do stuff I enjoyed.
I've long since moved out and made myself independent, I just can't shake the feeling that I owe this to them after how much of a loser and disappointment I used to be.
Stop using reddit jacks in the OP picture, so repulsive
>Use frogs or else I get triggered!
Whiny homosexual election tourists like you belong on Reddit
I'm listening to this sad song over and over now. I should be doing something else but I can't seem to get her off my head.
Been debating if I should fuck the gigawhore but SwoleShack BPD from work
BPD girl*
you'll regret it
Didn't notice this thread, please help a brother out here
I feel nearly the same way brother, it's agony. I am:
Do you have anything else going in your life? Work, hobbies etc. I realized that I just have to keep myself buys with work to the point where things like women just become secondary.
I do and most of the time it works (keeping myself busy), but I live alone and in the end this is what think about most of the time when feeling asleep and waking up.
I 100% relate with your story about party and the FOMO. I regulary go to rave and almost everytime it ends up with me spending more energy checking out the girls dancing and contemplating whether to make a move (I usually don't because I still have issues with things like this), instead of geniunely enjoying the music and my friends being there. It's exhausting, counter-productive and I hate myself for it, but I can't help it.
Maybe one way to think about it - as I said I had couple of casual hookups and I sometimes tell stories about them to my friends and I realize it can make me look way more Chad-ish than the reality is and I guess the same is true for almost everyone. Just like you have incels, only tiny fraction of guys get to bang new hot girl every weekend and we should just make peace with the fact we aren't these guys and be glad we have at least some success with women. But it's hard to internalize this.
>ends up with me spending more energy checking out the girls dancing
Kind of the same with me. I try to act as if I don't really care about the girls there, but anon... if there is a girl dancing next to me or in front of me I am contemplating if it's just a coincidence or if she wants me to take the first step.
I don't know if me playing it cool and acting as if I am not there for the girls is preventing me from hooking up with anyone.
jesus, this is 100% spot on. Literally the same thought process I have everytime there. The sad part is that most of the time the girl isn't probably even aware of us dancing/standing next/behind her and we just kick ourselves for nothing instead of enjoying the show. It's pathetic.
Where are you from? I am from Germany
central europe
Jannies deleted my original post so reposting it here
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I used to be quite ugly and autistic af growing up - I was kissless virgin until 21. I used to have all the incel thoughts like "I am abomination, I will die alone, no one would touch me" etc. Then I kind of looksmaxxed, started taking care of myself and learnt to talk to people and nowadays although I am not Chad I have pretty decent social life, 2 past LTR (I was the one who ended both of them), some casual hookups and women pretty regularly positively interact with me or even straight up compliment me. But I still feel inadequate and seek additional validation. Every day, with every conversation with pretty girl I can only think about how I'd have sex with her and feel miserable when I can't. It's poisoining my mind and taking lots of my mental energy. I have good career, hobbies etc., but this is a thing non-stop bothering my in the back of my mind and I'd love to get rid of it. I think it's due to my teenage years and all the love and sex I missed out pm during HS and college and now my brain thinks if I'll "make up for it", it'll make me happier, even though I subconsciusly know it won't. Anyone here went through something similiar?
>tl;dr no longer an incel, but still have incel thoughts
Please no religious answers.
How the fuck do you function? I only go to night clubs when one of my friends happens to throw his birthday there, but I despise it. Also all of your woman shit occupying your mind just shows that you're not self sufficient at all. How can your brain just think woman woman woman woman all fucking day? You fell for the "incel" meme and clearly have some twisted and dubious morals. Complete revaluation of character is needed and I feel like you want to be the opposite of what you were, just for the sake of it. You said no religion, but it seems like you lack any chastity and have neglected it completely. I have some other assumptions as well...
Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and all those things you wish shall be delivered unto you
I'm decently SwoleShack now and have been applying my strength to beat up certain groups. Will paying for combat sambo classes help me put down someone more efficiently than to freely throw punches? I read on SwoleShack that martial arts don't really matter if you're DYEL and their only purpose is to help strong people have an edge over other strong people. I'm doing fine right now and my opponents are all highly uncoordinated/relatively stupid, but on the off chance I encounter someone with average motor functionality, will my proficiency in the martial art assist me?
Who ever comes up with these cringe fake stories is NGMI if they keep it up
My birthday and Christmas are coming up and I have been asked what I want, I don't want for anything but there are some things I would like:
New boots
Shirts
Gym equipment for a home gym
New computer (want to get prebuilt don't want to build)
New truck
Any recommendations on any of these? Currently single and live with my mom so I've just been banking money from my job
Yeah mom I want a T-shirt or a new truck
I hate myself.
Man up
im losing it
I just feel like life is pointless because it's not just a cool anime adventure with my friends.
been years since i finally forced myself to be more positive and outgoing, socializing with people and doing little things like holding the door for people saying thanks, you are welcome etc. and today it just hit me, am i just depressed constantly and the only reason i dont notice is because i force myself to put on a smile and attempt to be more manic and happy? if it works should i even be concerned, should i be more aware of little things im missing and ignoring that could be bringing me down subconsciously?
Would writing a girl a cute anonymous love letter and then hiding it where she could see it he cute or autistic?
I feel like it's a good idea in theory but in practice I'd be weird. And yes I've talked to her before
Just an idea
Probably be based like prior the 80s.
Cringe nowadays. Cute if she is your girlfriend and you leave her a note.
all depends on you, if you are a chad then im sure shed have hearts in her eyes when she sees it. if youre weeb tier doomer maybe avoid that lol
Woman think anything like that is stalkerish nowadays and they'll make insta posts about how they feel afraid
Naw I saw some tiktok like that and all the comments were how she should call police or whatecer
I need one of you monogamous fucks to tell me I should be happy I have a trad wife that I met in high school when she was a virgin.
you stupid son of a bitch, that aspect of your life is sorted out and it's not good enough? in a few years you could be playing catch with your goddamn son and I can't get a date
fuck you okay
As I suspected a girl I have been friends with for sometime is a complete whore. It shouldn't bother me because we don't talk that much now, it's just that now that I hang around other girls I realise how much of a jerk she was.
If I could go back in time I would cave her skull, maybe even save another friend from years of being belittled.
Even now that I am fairly fit she messes with me calling me fat when she is making zero progress on her own.
I don't feel manly thinking about this, backstabbing is girl behaviour, I just feel like I made a mistake with her and I can't take back my time.
I have decided that if I’m not 260 lbs of sheer muscle by the time I’m 30 I’m going to kill myself. I’m 175 right now and I’ve won a couple mens physique shows, but it’s not enough. Ive decided at 25 (23 currently) I’ll begin testosterone. From there we’ll see if I can reach my goal and avoid having the roof of my mouth introduced to my 12 gauge. Picrel, I’ll post results in seven years.
definitely have the frame to support that amount of mass so be glad you have that going for you, just from that pic your genetics are definitely there to fill out even more.
You're going to have to do shitloads of steroids to get that done. You're talking about being as big as pic rel. If you do that, you might die incredibly young, living the rest of your short life as a roided freak that can't even walk around without being winded. Not sure why you would want to do that unless you were competing, but good luck
Everyone I’ve seen posted here that hit at or near their natty limit then frauded looked better natty
I don't think roiders think they will look better, they have body dysmorphia and want to be bigger because they think they're small. That dude has a mental illness.
I NEVER GET FUCKING SICK EVER
I GOT COVID THIS WEEK AFTER NEVER GETTING IT BEFORE
I HAVE HAD A SORE THROAT COUGHING, FATIGUE, MUSCLE ACHES AT THE END OF THE DAY, THIS HAS LASTED ALMOST 4 DAYS NOW
REEEEEEEEEEEEEE IM WEAK REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE MY IMMUNE SYSTEM REEEEEEEEEEEEE
<has the strongest immune system on earth i get like a minor cold once every few years, and i got annihilated by covid it was fucking aids. couldnt breathe felt like i was suffocating and tired, sweating all the time. fuck that
luckily i didnt have the respiratory issues but yes exactly, tired, im pretty sure i had a fever on a few nights as well because of how hot i got in bed, never had a fever barely in my life before this
Shouldve got vacvinated
Jack daniels, on the rocks.
I've been trying to get to myself to ask this girl out, but I keep chickening out of it. I always thought I was extremely ugly, and she keeps showing interest, btu I have no idea how to stop being a homosexual and just ask her out. also i don't have her number, but I keep running into her and talking and shit.
Any advice anon bros?
Do it u lil baby
Pic related it's u
I'll do it next time see her. definitely
broke up with my boyfriend today due to incompatibility. it was the right thing to do but i'm emotionally drained
Dm me baby girl
>it was the right thing to do but i'm emotionally drained
pls drain your bladder in my mouth baby
post tits and ass and I'll tell you just how much he's at fault here
Where you at ill come smash
It's fine, you'll bounce back onto a new one next week
so when you gonna take me up on my offer of throwing you over the bed and giving you the pounding of a lifetime you little sex toy
Who are you?
one battered cervix please
I caught the flu, but still went to the gym and grinded out 3 sets of 8 reps atg squats RPE 8.5. Not as bad as I thought
>be me
>neet loser
>luck my way into michelin star chef job
>oh shid
>do well somehow
>get new job at a pleb place that pays more but has lower standards
>dealing with retards all day
>wish I could go back to the high standards job but don't want to get abused
>stuck doing pleb job for more money but less satisfaction
at least I can lift again bros..
you ever hear of the golden cage fallacy? thats how i feel at my current job, its the best dream job ive been waiting to get and dont want to ever leave. but at the same time i feel like i have no future here its just the coziest, no upward mobility, trad career that gives me all the joy in the world. and yet i still cant bring myself to dedicated as much time as i did to shit tier low paying trash jobs i had before because i had a dream that some day my hard work would pay off. it still hasnt, but at least im happy now.
wow life sounds so hard for you
well considering i was a homeless drug addict before i even got my shit together having any job sober was a step up as much as i hated aspects of them. so yeah reee soo hard its almost like im finally at a place in life where i dont have to work 16 hour shifts every day and actually can work a few days a week to survive.
i just cant break free from that survival mindset and strive to accomplish anything more than just, shelter, food, minor entertainment.
This happened to me too. It was a job in fire. I think idolizing a job or career as a perfect fit for you is a bad move. If it doesn't turn out the way you think, the disillusionment is hard to deal with and you just end up feeling aimless and lost again. It's like how people tell you to never meet your heroes, because they're not how you imagine them to be. Same deal.
Jobs or careers should be something you're interested in enough to stick with it and provides a good enough paycheck for you to pursue your personal interests in your free time.
you know thats crazy because i was actually starting my own business and growing it when i got into this career im in now (3 years into) but covid hit and completely fucking annihilated my tiny business. that really demoralized me and i havent even been able to find the motivation to get ahead in this job i love/loved so much and appreciated when i had no means of employment.
i shouldve kept the whole time in mind to use this was what i planned to originally, seed capitol and a steady income to feed my business and help it grow. but now i just cant see it working or happening again and i sure as fuck dont have that passion that drove me to start my own business anymore
i even was so fucking passionate that i managed to get my neighbor to quit his career and go into a business partnership with another guy. and i worked a few jobs on contract with them, it didnt work out and fell apart but i never realized how passionate i was back then i was so blinded by it that i didnt notice people around me taking that leap forward to try it themselves. fuck...
where are you most happy anon? for any choice there will be trade offs
i'm happier doing real fine dining but if you work in any resteraunt with standards that high then you end up with no life at all and you get bullied all day
whereas if you show that level of talent at a place with lower standards you get paid more but no one gives a fuck whatsoever and you don't do anything interesting
Can any chicks here explain to me why women sometimes bring up super sexual stuff in the rudest way possible? Is it mocking? It's happened under different circumstances before but the defining pattern is that a girl I talk to a bit will tell me how she got fucked by some dude. I've learned to disengage when that happens but the first few times I encountered it the hook went all the way through my cheek
>hey anon let me tell you about my weekend? ..blah blah blah.. And I don't even know his name.
>damn thats crazy whats going on with you, I've never heard you talk like this
>oh anon sometimes I get so lonely and sexually frustrated blah blah
>that's crazy, how about we go on a date sometime then?
>lol i would never go on a date with someone like you
That example was like 6 years ago but I still cringe thinking about it. A chick has been trying me more recently, every couple weeks I hear from her and she says some normal shit before talking about how she fucked a grease monkey. I think after my next tax return I'll just ghost her completely
lol sounds like you hang out with losers
but yeah it's bait to make you jealous.
women who are raised right would never talk about fucking another man with someone she's not dating. and even if you were dating and it was just a comparison it's still a bit of a faux pas
i get bullied by my lab supervisor all the time, toxicity exists everywhere and it's bullshit but it's a trade off i'll make in order to achieve something i'm proud of
the abuse you get in michelin star resteraunts is insane, you get assaulted, verbally abused, work 15 hours every day, get into fist fights and arguments with pretty much everyone and no one gives a fuck if you're good or shit at your job
>start dating a girl
>don't even tell anyone
>she obviously tells her besties but beyond that nobody in my actual social circle knows
>out of fucking nowhere start getting constant female attention, even girls i've never met are always trying to flirt now
how do they "know" lads? how is it that the times when i get the most attention from women is when i'm spending my time trying to be exclusive to another girl?
pheromones
It's the same for everyone. Women throw themselves at you whenever you are not available. It is probably a variety of reasons. Higher self esteem, increased testosterone and probably they can even smell the other woman and get jelly
Enjoy it, don't think too much and use it to practice flirting
They can unironically smell it
Also, women want what they can't have
Taking a man from another woman is an accomplishment.
did an hour of cardio today and going to a movie with a girl, wish me luck lads
good luck with the cardio anon
Make the move, anon.
Get that kiss
I miss playing football
for the camaraderie, being a part of something, getting out anger & the dissatisfaction for everything.... yeah
I didn't train today but I went to a 1 year olds birthday party (family)
It was nice but I should have trained regardless.
I hope you anons are doing okay and staying warm tonight.
Love,
Anon
you're autistic
don't let lifting get in the way of family
if you dont make family one of the cornerstones of your life then whats the point of lifting? if you dont show the younger generations something they will 99% never see in person(someone who cares about their physical health) then why even lift to begin with. dont let the new generations die into obscurity with tons of health complications because they have no concrete role models in their lives to look up to
I went because family comes first.
I'm saying it shouldn't be an excuse to have not trained.
I had time in my morning but chose to sleep in.
I enjoyed the memories we made together, I just think I could have done better as a man today.
Thanks for the (you)'s though, It warms my heart.
it makes me happy to see someone with that kind of integrity, you cant beat yourself up over that. fuck everyone needs a vacation at work sometimes, taking a little time to sleep in isnt going to ruin your gains so just take it on the chin and try not to obsess over that one little thing.
its like a cheat meal, you can do it every now and then its not about failing once. you and i and he and she and we all are in this for the long haul. live the lifestyle, not the vanity
We're all gonna make it, brah.
With a little help from 'tegridy
damn straight brother we're all gonna make it
Been down the gym just now.
Chest is looking swole, disproportionately so. My arms from the front look like noodles, from the side you can see the definition though or if I flex from the side after a pump it looks good.
I heard training the brachialis is good for width.
I volunteered at the park today with a girl who is blind in one eye so it was a bit lazy but she was otherwise qt. at this point I realize girls just have to not be fat because i would totally make her my gf. I even met her dad which was .... awkward
I still think about this stacked half Japanese girl I knew with a lazy eye. Crazy hot
As a nigga with one eye this makes me feel better
I've been crushing on a guy I work with, and I can't tell if he's actually into me or not. When we text we talk all night, we talk for ages in person at work, he walks out with me after our shift, I've gotten him to go to a movie with me and come shooting with me ans coffee after. I'm not a femcel but I'm a terrible flirt, and I can't tell when someone's into me on a normal day as it is. I've been taking the lead here, and I've never done that either. Despite all we have going he hasn't made a move, and I'm scared of pushing him away if I do anything too "much." I don't know how guys deal with this shit trying to get a girl, cause I'm struggling bros.
>I've gotten him to go to a movie with me and come shooting with me ans coffee after
how do those not count as dates? if i was doing all that with a girl i'd make it pretty clear that we're going on a date, did you do that?
I never used the word "date" specifically. I had figured it was implied when we went for coffee after shooting. I haven't had much experience actually dating, I usually just try and get a guy's attention and hope he's interested and braver than me. And no that hasn't worked well in the past.
it's possible that he wants to avoid dating someone he works with, so he's trying to do everything he can to avoid making a move. but despite his rule, he clearly does like you or he wouldn't be spending time with you. at this point you just need to make it really, really clear that you're into him. make plans again like you have before and afterwards invite him back to your place. that's honestly what it will take for him to get the hint.
>avoid dating someone he works with
I wondered that, but it would have been an easy swerve giving a "no" to hanging out at all. Thanks for your advise anon, hopefully I'll have better luck and nut up next round.
>I wondered that, but it would have been an easy swerve giving a "no" to hanging out at all.
nah, because people get stupid when it comes to the ones they find cute
i'll give you my own experience
i made a hard rule for myself that i wouldn't date anybody that was also in my grad school program, especially in my same class. there was a cute girl in my class and we definitely clicked when we first met but i stuck to my rule and I would ignore her completely unless she initiated a convo with me. much like you, she didn't really give up and would try to find an excuse to talk to me or invite me out with the rest of our friends on weekends. there were multiple times when I was thinking to myself, "is she into me? is she flirting? etc." but I was so autistic about my rule that I refused to flirt back, even though I did find her cute. anyways, fast forward like a year, we were all hanging out and after the night ends i'm walking her back to her apartment and before she heads up she just turns to me and invites me up. and that's what it took for me to finally stop being a retard about my rule.
>Make rule to no longer date American women because they don't have values
>Write off western women in general
>Run into autismo American Indian
>Is now wife
>Best relationship I've ever had and I broke my dumbass rule
I had a girl practically sitting in my lap before I got the message that she was into me, you either need to be more direct with your intentions or take the leap of faith and ask him specifically out on a date.
Guys are simple, foul bachelorette.
I've had girls go further than sitting in my lap and I still didn't get the message, you wouldn't believe how much you can second guess things like that. Oh, and sometimes there actually really IS no message to get.
At this point I won't get the message unless someone just tells it to me in plain fucking english
Realized my life has been plagued by inaction, or rather procrastination. Last spring I spent a good month without my bike because I couldn't muster the ability to buy a replacement bike tube, something I had done before. I told myself I would search out a barber to get a get my hair trimmed in August and never followed through. I never really tried to apply to internships during this semester. I told myself I would get tested for ADHD in the spring and seek help and never did. I never sought to do my personal projects of the summer, and can't even think of doing them during the semester. I don't routinely go to the gym anymore. I haven't worked at all on my side hustle that I do every summer and let bleed into the fall. I got lead on by my friend and still haven't found the right time to air my grievances. Matter of fact, I have never told anyone my feelings for them in my 21 years of life. I'm tired of my inaction but I cant stop?
anon, I'm
, so I'm gonna giv eyou some advice. I'm 26 now.You will regret it fi you keep this up.
I am somewhat the same way, so I honestly feel with you. I just decided now, since my 26th birthday was today. I will fucking do whatever I have to do, whether I feel like it or not.
It's likehow you go to the gym, even though you don't feel like it, but you end up happy after regardless. It's the same thing with everything in life. Sometimes, you don't feel like doing what you gotta do, but if you do it, you will be happy.
Best of luck anon bro
happy birthday.
i turned 30 a few days ago.
you are absolutely correct.
you need to constantly be moving. you need to constantly be doing things.
go go go go go go go go.
that doesn't mean all your plans need to be grandiose and everything you do needs to be this high energy crazy experience. it means that when your eyes are open you are sitting there scrolling. you are acting with purpose.
your bed is made because there's a purpose to it, because you never know when you need to bring a girl back to your dope looking clean room to fuck. because sleeping on well kept sheets and mattress is super comfortable.
you need to be the guy that does 25 pushups every few hours because it keeps the blood flowing.
you need to be the guy that wakes up in the morning and writes down 10 things that need to get done before you go to bed. you need to be the guy that reviews that list before he actually goes to bed.
you need to be the guy that takes responsibility for every single thing that is happening around you.
floor dirty? it's your job to clean it. laundry not done? it's your job to do it. dishes in the sink? it's your job to make sure they're clean. body doesn't look good? it's your job to make a plan to improve it. does your vocabulary suck? it's your job improve your language.
take responsibility. start with what you WANT to be responsible for. work your way up to what you HAVE to be responsible for.
imagine you're 85 years old.
what do you regret?
close your eyes
think hard on it.
open your eyes. change your future for the better
Thank you so much anon. I will make you proud, but also thank you for listening to a random dude.
Tomorrow is a new day, it'll be a new me.
Go get em, homosexual.
Thanks anon. Obviously actually doing it is the hard part but we need to be constantly in some sort of motion except when you are on top of things and say to yourself I'll relax for an hour or something.
But constant motion seems like the right way to live. I was on a walk one day and I saw a bee just going from one flower to the next and I felt like if I could be like that bee things could be so much better.
>I was on a walk one day and I saw a bee just going from one flower to the next and I felt like if I could be like that bee things could be so much better.
That's poetry anon
well I don't know if I'd call it poetry myself but it was a beautiful moment. Wish you were there, really.
>I was on a walk one day and I saw a bee just going from one flower to the next and I felt like if I could be like that bee things could be so much better.
One cold bottled pisswater, barkeep.
>last time I talked to her was 6 months ago
>was thinking today how utterly miserable I felt all summer, every day
>tfw last couple of weeks have been nice, some bumpy moments here and there but overall good
Reminder to never fall for anyone bros. And if you do, time will fix everything, just copemaxx in whatever way you need to pass the time.
Another fucking Saturday night alone. I group texted my friends and not a single one wants to go out, they're all playing vidya or whatever at home. I'd go out alone but I hate it, it's so... sad. All these gains just for me to spend another night in my room in the cold glow of the monitor.
I know that feel anon, I’m 24 and it’s all just gone to shit. At least Mark got to go out from time to time thanks to the Jezmeister
It can't go on like this. Something has to change.
I said the same thing when I was 16 and 8 years later…even Gerard had friends
All I know is that we're never gonna get our own Big Suze if we stay in our rooms
In order to get a girlfriend you need to have a friend group that you regularly hang out with and do stuff with.
Oh thank God I convinced one of them to get off steam and go out, we're gonna grab dinner at a little barcade/brewery. I just need to get out of the house to feel like a real human being (and a real heroooo).
As for the gf thing, it definitely helps but it's not necessary. With my last gf we pretty much never hung out with anyone except each other, and my sis dated a Chad sociopath who seemed to have no friends or family at all.
Nice dubs. Last time I went out alone I ended up just wandering the streets in front of the bars and restaurants feeling like I was going to cry.
>feeling like I was going to cry.
Maybe that was just that night. But then again, people have different reactions to alcohol. I get super talkative so it's never a problem for me to go up to someone and talk.
I get somber and quiet, it's a depressant for me.
>somber and quiet
Meanwhile that's how I feel when I'm not drunk and I have to actively talk and mess around to mask it kek. Well that sucks anon. Is it the same if you're with friends when drunk?
I don't know, I haven't been really drunk in a very long time. But in general the more I drink, the more I retreat. Same thing happens with weed. I'm more positive and fun when I'm sober. I think it's because I'm sitting on some old pain and when I drop my defenses it bubbles up.
It's tough to fix that shit. I'm trying to do it myself so I don't have any advice. Going out and getting drunk with friends is my favorite way to cope, also it feels good to hit that level of intoxication where I don't give a shit, and even better when I forget and black out.
Cheers brother
Make new friends.
Get a bit drunk then go out solo.
Had my first wrestling match of the season today and took 2w 2L and one of the dudes that pinned me I totally should have beat I was damn near bullying him for 99% of the match and he caught me slipping for a second and pinned me. I respect him for getting through my total domination of him and getting me tho but he’s gonna be in my head rent free for a little while I can tell
qt at the gym is flirting hard with me after finding out our astrology signs are compatible. not sure if i want to proceed but she’s hot
I’m a man of inaction. Born with a literal golden spoon in my mouth in every single way and I haven’t done anything with it.
>30s
>a family man but no family
delet
woke up this morning horny. probably cuz i sleep naked and dry hump my pillow all night. whatever, get on the computer and start kranking. 10 beers last night and this oughta help. no paper towels, figure ill just blow the load on myself for funsies. need to take a shower anyway, ass checks are stickin together. I blow the biggest fuckin load. vertically. fuckin all over me, on the floor. I gotta admit im impressed with myself, this was probably the highlight of my week. I drink alone most nights, dont think ive gone out on a weekend in over a year. also gained like 40lbs. no idea whats next for me, skys the limit
Sometimes when I look at myself I see all the progress I’ve made and think I’m not in bad shape now. Usually though I just think I look like a fucking pig. I want to make it stop anons. I want to like my body. I’ll just keep lifting I guess.
howdy barkeep, cheap vodka and a half full bottle of water please
booked plane tickets to spain in january, going for a 30 day backpacking trip in europe
pretty excited brahs, not having access to games and the internet (from the comfort of my home) and being forced to interact with people and take in the sights
longest I've travelled is between states and even then didn't do any sight seeing
it's kind nerve-wracking but I think it's an opportunity for growth as well
Excited for you anon. Let us know how it goes
Just water
There's a lot of brain poison out there.
I ran into some former friends, they all lived together this last year and gained shitloads of weight. Talking to them it starts to make sense. They now weigh the value of things in terms of pleasure, sensation. They could tell I was shocked by the weight gain and a couple times crude confessions were made about diet/ exercise regimens since I had seen them last. But it would be justified at the end of the statement by how happy they are now just accepting themselves.
This girl I'm friends with is the same way. I was very into her awhile ago and we went on some dates, but I sensed something and decided not to take it further. She's gained a lot of weight as well and when we catch up she shares how things have been and she occassionally asks for dating strategies to meet dudes. I've been telling her that she just needs to get in shape and grind her hobbies and career and she'll be fine, guys will actively seek her out if she seems like the type of person who they can grow with. But she wants someone who can accept her now, or for whoever she'll become. I asked her what of her flaws might prevent the guys she encounters from accepting her (she does crude one night stands every so often). It was all gay shit like:
>I take lots of bubble baths
>Always making cookies!
>Can't stop watching crime dramas
What the fuck how is it possible for someone to lack the ability to critically self-analyze
I think its all connected, its something deeply psychological, almost spiritual. This demoralization is everywhere, ads, TV, movies. People who've accepted it spread it. Poison. I'm not immune to it. Quite often I'll be inclined to accept the demoralized position, or criticize one of the last few solid dudes left to gain social clout. Each time it gets a bit easier. It's like a fog settling over my mind.
I'm so sick of being a disappointment to my parents. I'm 30 years old, have a chronic health issue, haven't had a job in about a year, and had to move back in with my parents in August. I don't know how much longer I can take this shit. I wanna make a change but this health bullshit takes 100% of my mental capacity 24/7.
Sorry to hear about your health bro, it's gonna get better just try ro keep sane, start learning Java or Python or some coding shit. I don't have a health problem but this is what I am doing since I realised I hated my old job.
my roommate makes every surface he touches stink like BO. We have had multiple conversations about showering - one of the ONLY rules to live here was he had to shower daily. I had the day off work and know for a fact he didnt shower today since I was home... the couch smells like old ass mixed with bad colonge. I have never met someone with such an aversion to hygiene. He sits on the couch all day, which isnt a problem except the BO... What the hell do I do? Hes planning to get a travel job and move out but it could be a few months. In the meantime I am having to wash the couch cusion covers almost weekly, or am too embarassed to have anyone over lest they comment on the odor.
welcome to the fucking club esse
is he a burnout or hippy or something?
I can top that. I'm in the hog castle and get ringworm every month or so
please sir do the needful. do not redeem
test
get vaccinated
>finally have a gf
>still thinking about work
Working a dead-end job drags down every other area of your life. Even having a super great attractive girlfriend doesn't fix the internal realization that it's on ME to get my shit together, to fix things...
Where do I want to be in a year? Back in school. Not working a deadend job. Challenging myself. Having sex, having a loving gf, even hitting the gym - they're nice, and I don't want to take it for granted. But it's hard to feel satisfied when you know other areas of your life aren't in order. I'm determined to get my shit together career-wise, it'll be the hardest thing I've ever done, even harder than losing my virginity, or moving by myself, or adapting to school during covid. It's going to be a real challenge, but I refuse to be 30 years old, look back on my career and say
>I never even tried
>even harder than losing my virginity
how hard was that. QRD?
wasn't easy, I was 24 when I lost it, went all through college without losing it
>you must be ugly brah!
lifted since I was 15, 5'11, SwoleShack, not a sperg
simply always lived with roommates, wasn't around enough women, didn't lose it.
But losing your virginity is way easier, in my opinion, than getting a decent, stable, well-paying career that you can raise a family on in the USA with chance of advancement outside of computer science as a white guy.
okay how did you do it though?
>>you must be ugly brah!
don't worry, I wasn't gonna say this. I'm 22 and have 2 more years of college at the moment though. on some level I don't want to push for this but some growing part of me thinks I should
cold approached a girl at a coffee shop. Went on a few dates, took her back to my place. biggest factor that allowed me to lose it was having my own apartment and living in an urban area where I could meet girls easily. also you need to have the social skills to go from cold open to date to bringing her back to your place.
I recommend you attempt to lose it as soon as possible, just simply to gain experience and know what you like/don't like. You should be trying to approach girls casually in order to get your flirting and social skills up to snuff, it's a trial and error thing and it takes a lot of time and putting your ass on the line socially a bit.
In my experience there's not a magic key to it besides hard work and a bit of luck.
I have no problem striking up conversations with people, I'd actually say I'm well above average in that regard
don't have much of a problem making friends either. The other day I went to a college party for the first time and I was talking to everyone. But going from this to, you know, THAT, I have no idea how. Maybe I just need to really start pushing that comfort zone, right?
>did some OnlyFans content with a swinger couple once a few years back
>scrolling through those fancy research sites for something to crank the hog too
>tfw the guy in a thumbnail looks a little bit too familiar
>tfw basically your sex tape got leaked
Wanking it yourself feels kinda odd, but fulfilling though
This.
Trying to get a new job myself, but every time I have the free time to start applying, I just sort of... don't. I don't know if I'm just lazy or afraid of major change in my life, but like you I know I have to try and get my shit together soon.
>>did some OnlyFans content with a swinger couple once a few years back
why would you do this
Young, stupid, and horny ¯_(ツ)_/¯
but i mean how did you even go about finding them
unironically reddit; I know, it gets worse with each post.
Didn't even give a portion of the profits, if there even was any.
I should clarify they messaged me first, so I didn't directly "seek it out"
something like 5-6 years ago i went on reddit to find girls to sext with and found one who ended up liking me and we would actually talk a lot and then after a few weeks or so i realized how stupid it was to talk to an online person so i dropped her. similarly dumb and horny situation.
but you actually did stuff on cam man, and you didnt even have your face censored or anything?
>but you actually did stuff on cam man, and you didnt even have your face censored or anything?
Yep. It's not like it or myself are famous or anything, so I'm not too worried about it; just probably won't go into politics anytime soon lol
Just still an embarrassing reminder of darker times
i see (not download just see) quite a lot of onlyfans account siterips on torrent tracker i use and it laugh at how a lot of the amateur ones with guys in the guys are censored or keep their face out of the shot. it makes me laugh because i imagine, while probably incorrect, that the guy is actually using foresight and saying "hey babe, no you should keep my face out, because the viewers dont want to see me" when in reality its because he is smart enough to not want his face on porn, when the stupid worthless whores who make onlyfans dont give a single shit because all they care about is the short term financial gain
>indirectly calls me a stupid worthless whore
lmao, probably true
Like I said, trying to get it all together now though. Looking at a radiology gig that pays pretty well, and it would feel like a more useful way to spend my work hours instead of bussing tables; feel like I might actually play a role in helping people... or just confirming they have cancer, which is kind of a bummer.
>onlyfans account siterips on torrent tracker
Can I set sauce on those siterips? There are a couple of whores that I want to browse and see if I can get free n00dz.
who are the whores you want to see i will look and see if they are there
dont necessarily think you're a worthless whore but you were stupid yeah. but i definitely think the women who do all the onlyfans shit with no foresight thinking about their future at all, if their children might see the videos, etc, yes they are worthless whores.
why are you gatekeeping? Is it a private tracker?
My wife works with many early to mid 20s women and based on what she tells me it's absolutely nuts how many women have an onlyfans. Like not only the usual suspects, but even women who come from well-off, unproblematic families. It's really weird how casual they are about it, too, like, they don't think twice about how awkward it might make things for them later on (not to mention their future husbands and children) to have images and videos of them getting their asses drilled or their faces came on by their current boyfriends or FWBs floating around on the internet.
I'm so glad my wife and I grew up right before the age of widely available unlimited bandwidth internet, social media, and all that, trying to find a woman worthy of putting a ring on in [current year] must be an absolute nightmare.
>My wife works with many early to mid 20s women and based on what she tells me it's absolutely nuts how many women have an onlyfans.
the whores just go around work blabbing about their onlyfans accounts?
A lot of women who are mid-tier on looks will rake in more in a week than I do in a month, so I don't really blame them for bragging about it.
Obviously not, but word gets around, even if mostly indirectly. She made it sound as if it's like the fucking stasi in there, everyone is keeping an eye on every other person, constant gossip, all that jazz. It's also pretty easy to figure out when suddenly a colleague of hers starts to buy shit way beyond what they could afford previously according to their qualifications/rank and they didn't get together with some rich guy or inherit money from a relative. Like women who are fine with filming themselves getting fucked silly and sucking their men dry on camera for money are not exactly the type to keep it on the down low when they start to rake in the onlyfans cash.
>it's like the fucking stasi in there, everyone is keeping an eye on every other person, constant gossip
oh yeah i guess that makes sense when you say she works with lots of early-mid 20s women. i cant even imagine how horrible of a workplace this would be like, working with women in their 20s who are all also onlyfans whores.
you should tell your wife to play a mother role and ask all the whores what would happen if her child eventually found her account. just kidding.
>working with women in their 20s who are all also onlyfans whores
Not "all", by any means, just a lot more than you'd expect if you are not in tune with the zoomer zeitgeist, if that makes sense.
>>did some OnlyFans content with a swinger couple once a few years back
Well..if you want to know, I'm going to be ending my life by Sleeping pills and or Carbon monoxide gas cannister come Jan. 1. So...not great? Lol I joke, but I'm in the process of documenting some events, writing down my goodbyes, final wishes etc.
I'm hoping to get the cannister of Monoxide..but I have to actually make contact with the supplier and I have a feeling this is going to raise some eyebrows. So I may have to just pray that the sleeping pills and Alcohol are enough.
Lastly, just trying to make peace with it. I'm in my 30's, and while I've had some really really great times, I still feel slightly cheated so it's a cocktail of anger, resentment, and bitterness. I'm in no way going to harm anyone before I take the trip, but it just feels like the the score will be World: 1 Me: 0
And that's what I'm wrestling with before I go. So that's 1 and a half months to make peace with 35 years of building bitterness. So aside from all of that, just hoping I have the strength (mentally) to literally swallow the bitter pill.
What race are you?
What were you cheated on?
im turning 31 in a month accomplished nothing in my life and i hope i get the courage to do this. there is really no reason for me to live but every time i think about dying or killing myself io get scared.
Don't do it anon. Its a devastating thing to do to anybody who has ever cared for you or let you into their lives.
There are so many different ways to live your life. Different settings, different paces, different stimuli, that it's hard to imagine there isn't something out there that would be palatable to you.
Suicide is only acceptable if you have a chronic disease that makes life unliveable. Don't be a coward and pick the easy way out.
>but every time i think about dying or killing myself io get scared.
This is your mind (rightfully so) engaging its survival insticts. Don't be a coward.
So I've heard this 'coward' thing many times. I push back against this so much. Taking the plunge to voluntarily step across the brink is one of the bravest things I can imagine.
And yes I would be leaving behind a mother and a father who would be devastated. I get it, I've come accept that its also something I'll have to let go.
Its one of those things were my life peaked at 25, and given my personality, and manner, I am not a man cut for this world.
Whats hilarious, is I fought literally,vocally against religion my entire life, now as I'm prepping for the day, I almost have this fervor and wish that reincarnation was real, like it would be some solace
>Taking the plunge to voluntarily step across the brink is one of the bravest things I can imagine.
Let me ask you this, assuming that you have the chance of turning your life around (even if long-term), how is killing yourself "one of the bravest things" you can imagine?
> Its one of those things were my life peaked at 25, and given my personality, and manner, I am not a man cut for this world.
Alright, so your life has been on a downward trend for the last 10 years. How do you know that your peak at 25 is the only peak you will ever experience in your life?
You don't know if you will experience another peak if you end yourself.
damn it can't you guys like take out some villains before you go or something?
Haha, sory youre on your own. I have been having some great fantasies of me doing some last big deed as I go out...but I got nothing. I'm open to suggestions l
well, at least, how much money do you have? May as well do some coke with hookers or something (emphasis on "or something"). or maybe figure out who your most corrupt local admin is on terraria and grief them
I am tired of being a virgin.
I am on the verge of paying one of these Twitter whores $100 for a "meetup".
I have a huge crush on a male acquaintance. I've caught him staring at me and then turning away when I noticed, and other little signs that make me think he's interested, but I know he's shy and has problems opening up to people.
I don't think it's right for women to approach men, but I smile at him a lot when I see him and try to drop hints. I think he's on the spectrum a little bit or just really introverted, but this flaw is outweighed by all of his many virtues. How do I give him an obvious "in" to ask me out without overtly coming on to him?
Why don't you just ask him out/for his number?
Worked for my girlfriend when she bagged me.
>I don't think it's right for women to approach men,
why the fuck not? society has changed it is (unfortunately) not 1970 anymore and a man has a lot more to worry about when he approaches not to mention everyone being fucked in the head these days
you may as well just fucking ask them instead of wasting your time playing stupid little games, because he WILL not get the message and nothing good will come of it
It's not like he's a stranger who has to worry about me crying "sexual harassment." We know enough about each other/he knows enough about me to know I wouldn't do that.
I'm asking for things I could say to him to give softball pitch into asking me out next time I see him (which for the last couple years has been infrequent because he's in grad school in another state).
I deleted my Facebook years ago, but I'm seriously considering making one again just for him since he still has an account and seems to be on it occasionally (i.e. changes profile pic sometimes), it would take the pressure off if we were just chatting online I think. But, I really don't want to go back to that cesspit.
Literally just
>what do you do for fun? Wow, me too (this is allowed to be a lie so long as you grow to appreciate it and begin to do it for genuine fun)! Maybe we should go together sometime!
>Do you know of any good restaurants around? Looking for a new place to go. Wow, that sounds really good, I could go with you next time you go and you could show me some good things on the menu!
How is this hard?
>"maybe we should go together sometime?!"
>"I could go with you next time!"
>how is this hard?
It seems too forward and I don't feel comfortable being that obvious.
But, I do know he loves to read and so do I, so I suppose next time I see him I can ask him if he's ever been to this local bookstore that specializes in topics we're both interested in and then if he says "yes," lie and say I've never been there and always wanted to check it out. If he says "no," I can ask if he wants to go check it out with me.
I still think this is not necessarily appropriate, that he should be a man and just ask me out if he likes me and stop staring at me and showing interest without doing anything--seems like HE'S the one playing the games--but I'm just sick of pining after him and at least this will give me my answer once and for all if he's interested or not.
why can't you do it though? I really think you'd be better off.
Personally, I don't know anymore if ANY "signals" will work on me at this point. recently I had a bit much to drink and this girl grabbed me and took me into her bed and we literally slept together, and then I find out she didn't mean anything by it despite spooning with my hardon against her ass the whole night. So I don't fucking know man
>and then I find out she didn't mean anything
No you absolute homosexual, of course she wanted sex. You were such a pussy that her cooch dried off and she doesn't want anything to do with you.
Use your two braincells for a sec, how can a slut grind against your hard cock for any other reason than for sex?
without going into the specifics I know she did not, one because I was pretty much unconscious from how much I drank and two because our friends were in the same room
or what the hell, maybe she did
>maybe she did
Fucking believe me you dense homosexual. She really wanted to fuck.
If you both were on the same room as your friends, all you had to do was craft a shitty excuse to get both your asses out of there and into a location where you can fuck.
okay so we met up along with a couple other people a few weeks prior
she kept talking about what a giant whore she is (disgusting tbh) but I did, against my better judgement, find her attractive
bear in mind I'm a virgin manlet btw, she'd always talk to the other people in our group about some person she fucked and how tall they were like I wasn't even there so I generally just figured I'm out of here most times, you know? anyway we go to her place to have drinks, we're all drunk and I can't drive home, so we go to bed, and I'm still piss ass drunk
she just grabs me and puts my hand on her breast and like I said, I was too drunk to really like do anything except in the back of my head I was freaking out so I just went with it and yada yada we fell asleep
I wake up and I'm about to get towed, the other people have to leave too, so we do, and since then she talks less and less
also before that and after that night she would always be a giant asshole to me presumably because she, as a gigaslut, could smell the virginity on me and was disgusted (my guess) and she'd always make fun of me for it and stuff and call me pathetic. I could never tell if it was a joke or not
so based on this would you revise your answer or would you stick with it? because the whole thing has left me more confused than ever
> she kept talking about what a giant whore
The slut has no shame and is probably impulsive
> she just grabs me and puts my hand on her breast
Why would she do that? I wonder...
> since then she talks less and less
You were such a gigantic homosexual that you dried her pussy. She is not interested in you since you are a weak bitch.
> before that and after that night she would always be a giant asshole to me
This tells me that you live rent free in her head. When a girl really doesn't not want anything to do with you, you are invisible to her. The fact that she cares enough about you to constantly give you shit tells me that she is down to fuck (at the least brag that she took her virginity and you were her conquest).
> so based on this would you revise your answer or would you stick with it?
I was never going to take back my answer. Stop worrying about girls and start sucking dick you homosexual.
hey now calm down I wasn't asking you to take back your answer just see if you still thought it made sense
honestly I kind of agree with you, I'm really out of my element here. last sunday she was a giant asshole to me as well and since then I just have ignored her though. I guess I'll just keep this in mind for next time
> hey now calm down
It's the internet dumbass, don't take shit so seriously
>I wasn't asking you to take back your answer
You asked whether or not I would revise my answer, that would effectively be taking back my answer so I am right.
> I'm really out of my element here
At least you know that you are lacking confidence and social skills. You better get that shit fixed if you don't want to stay a virgin manlet for the rest of your days.
> since then I just have ignored her though
This is unironically the best step you could have taken in this situation. At this point she is either completely put off and you have zero hope or you will need to give things time to heal. Do your own thing and ignore the bitch, if she still wants you, she will chase you(if she doesn't chase then move on and cut all contact).
sounds good to me then bro. just don't have experience with crazy bitches like this. no prob talking to people in general but yeah, just gonna stay away for now
The only time in my life I have ever seen/talked to my small extended family is at Thanksgiving. I remember when I was growing up Thanksgiving was always my favorite time of the year for this reason, being able to see the grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins, etc.
As I grew through college and my 20s, now 30, with absolutely zero to show for my life and a completely worthless manchild, I now just honestly never really want to see the family again, because recent years I go to see them, have nothing to say, no accomplishments to talk about, no friends/relationship to bring with me, just basically sit there like a quiet visitor before leaving. I am an embarrassment to my parents and to the family as a whole. I haven't even seen or talked to the family at all since Thanksgiving 2019 because of covid and I've accomplished zero in the three years. And now I have a few young cousins who are probably around 7-10 years old and I don't want them seeing some loser like this in their family.
Not very good!
I feel like I was set up for failure even though i can be blamed since I don't know how to socialize with others well, my only good thing going is having decent pt scores.
Felt the same growing up
Don't wanna tell my whole life story or blog post but basically I moved around alot as a kid and never learned to socialize. I don't know if I was at fault for that or if I should have been shown the ropes but I got none of that other than this "guess you're just a late bloomer, haha" or "maybe you'll blossom when you're older:D" BS like how does that make any God damn sense? I get I can't blame others for what I did but isn't a dad or someone supposed to show their son their ropes or something on how to meet people? Or maybe it was my fault since I was a teen that was anti social and didn't want to see people and there was nothing they could do
Plus to top it all off I still have a guilty conscience for shit I did that garnered the attention of law enforcement and embarrased my family, I don't discuss with any of you
When I close my eyes, I see somewhere that isn't here. I see snow, barren white, virginal and crystalline. And I trudge, through the nothing, the utter quiet. And the air is hard, brutally cold, I breathe it in my nostrils and I am alive, in this instant, this small instant, it is just me and the vast, vast expanse, the vast chasm of time, cyclical, continuing, snow after snow after snow on the dead trees.
I see the bitter blue expanse and I am not here, even though I am not there either. I am in an innocent time, I am in the crib, I see the empty blue expanse and I am glad that it's empty. Unthinking, no mind, stillness, not a waiting but a simply. There. Unbeginning. Unstriving.
In that place, I am not. No self. No goals, no reason. In the beginning. A return, a return to nature which is already complete. No striving, nothing but that which already is. Into great silence.
Yet, here I am. With tasks, with traffic and budgets and shopping lists, rightly so, rightly so. But in that moment - the earth is unwaiting, unknowing, just being. Quiet pines, with nothing to say.
I had an idea to get two part time jobs, but have them both scheduled to be on the same days; one early morning (5am - 1pm or so) and one going into the evening (like, 2pm - 10pm) so I can get a whole 40 hour work week done in ~three days, and have a majority of the week as time off. Imagine the extra lifting hours
Actually managed to make friends after moving to a new city. I'm used to being the socially awkward loser with zero confidence, but due to my hobbies, I've ended up attracting far worse off people. I feel bad, but I don't want to hang out with these people because their physical appearance and health are so revolting. They're not interesting to talk to either, but they're the only non-vapid people I've met that are around my age.
Idk what to do about this. Outside of that, I'm trying to make other friends but there's nothing going on on Meetup or Event Bright. Should I just go to bars? I never thought I'd be that guy.
>32 in 3 hours
>not one thing of note in my life
Sad part is, I've been bitching about the same thing for years. I don't deserve pity because these things are entirely within my control. I feel like I would do better if I had goals, but the truth is I have none. I don't believe in myself at all. It's gotta change, but I've been telling myself that for years. I just want to want.
I just don't get it. In the gym I get literally NO play at all when it comes to girls. I know I'm attractive by normie standards because OUTSIDE of the gym I easily get tons of attention. Just today I had a girl full on bumping into me constantly trying to get my attenion then when I finally started flirting with her she got super shy and easily got her number.
I just don't get the gym and how I'm completely frozen out.
>In the gym
Getting girls in the gym is particularly tricky. Because of hypergamy, you will be compared to the more aesthetic and stronger folks, this can lead to you geting overlooked.
There is also the fact that most women go there to bask on the abundant attention that they get.
Just keep getting the pussy that you usually get.
I've been dealing with fucking hip pain for months now. Don't know what to do about it, I've barely even lifted the last few weeks. I don't have the time or inclination to go to a doctor and they're all scam artists anyway. But it's really starting to make me worried, I think it's some sort of hip alignment issue. Pls help
I met a girl on a dating website who did some work on my favourite anime franchise
Not sure if I want to date her, but I'm going to at least try to be friends
My gym crush hasn't been at the gym in a month. She actually started noticing me before she disappeared but I sperged out each time and immediately left the gym.
She's a beautiful Mediterranean looking girl who can deadlift 3 plates. She has a similar shy disposition to me and I was looking for the strength to finally talk to her, but now she's gone.
I've been working out for years, hoping to find a sense of worth in sculpting my body through my dedication. There is no worth and I'm still a sperg who keeps wishing I would have done something when I had the chance
My life is in shambles. I'm not good at anything despite spending years trying to get good. I hate my job. I never had a gf. I'm not happy.
My fear of being homeless again is stopping me from quitting my abusive job. I'm a manager at a big retail store. Corporate is blatantly incompetent, my immediate bosses are abusive, and roughly half of lower employees are generally useless. Customers are entitled and treat you like you're a slave and/or retarded. I used by in cyber sec but I let my certs slip cause of some personal shit. I should be making triple what I do now. I want to study again, but dealing with this is such a drain I don't have the energy. I have enough saved I could not work at all for a year and a half. That should be more than enough to get started again. I'm still terrified at the thought of not having a job though. It is so easy to fall through the cracks of society. I just as scared of staying though. I can FEEL myself becoming more of an asshole as the years go by. Dealing with trashy entitled people everyday is grinding down my personality and ruining my attitude towards humanity as a whole. I can't even have a relationship because I hate my life and can't accept why someone would want to share this shit with me. I ghost people that try to connect with me. I know I can do better because I have done much harder things in the past. When did I become a coward?
Don't be too harsh on yourself, fren. Management positions are tough as shit, you are doing well still caring about being a decent human being, I have seen some mfs with a lot of experience but who lost it, and I would never want to be them. If you try to change careers, having a friend in the new field who will mentor you would be a huge benefit.
I hate my ex so much
I don’t ever want to see or speak with her
But since she was my first I am a new anon
I need that feeling again I hate her but I loved that feeling she gave
What to do anons some nice brown haired girl has been flirting with me even when I was with her
another saturday night spent sitting at my computer listening to trance tracks and playing vidya
at least you're not drinking all night right haha
Guys I need some quick advice.
Im spending the week with my friends and a cute girl. Ive met her once before and we've had a chance to talk more yesterday?
What do I do now? Do I ask her out to some museum or other gay shit? We both like art. Asking her for her number would be stupid because we are on the same what's app group.
Thanks
Sounds like a good o idea, then ask her out to dinner immediately after and see what happens
Nvm, friend just told she has a bf. I'm so tired of this. I have zero fucking luck...
Well
How do I meet people bros? Preferably women.
>24 year old khv
>am legitimately medically autistic
>Have zero friends
>live in an area with only old people and boomers
>no stores or anything around for my interests
I literally have no idea what I'm supposed to do
Move?
gf is just gonna go have food with another guy
this does not sit right with me though!
i wanna bash this niggas skull into the pavement