>be me
>met gf from work
>when I first met her, neither her nor I were into fitness. However neither of us were fat or out of shape
>about 4 months into dating and I really start getting into fitness
>end up getting a visible 6 pack for the first time in my life
>gf is bitter about me even getting in shape in the first place
>”it’s not healthy, you gotta eat!”
About a year and a half later
>gf has gained about 15 to 20lbs and not in the right places
>eats fast food at least once a day
>cries often about how she looks and is painfully self conscious
>asks for help but ends up just getting mad at me because I have to be the bad guy that tells her she probably shouldn’t get another meal from a fast food chain
I dont want my gf to have the body of leanbeefpatty or anything, I just want her to get back in shape. I love her but I have very little sexual attraction towards her anymore
Chain her to the radiator and feed her meals that you personally prepare. Show her better eating habits and find some activities she may enjoy doing, such as hiking or jumprope. If that doesn't work, start actively looking for an alternative to show her that selection pressure is on and the ball is in your court.
>I love her but I have very little sexual attraction towards her anymore
tell her this and don't be afraid to leave. life is too short to have some crab drag you back into the bucket
yup
Buddy, you have to let her know that you're not happy. Losing sexual attraction so early is terrible, and putting your foot down sounds like the only way anything is going to happen.
You don't have to straight up threaten to leave, but you have to let her know it's straining the relationship.
give up and move on. i was in the same situation as you were, and i thought that i might be able to actually get her into it when we moved in together. i live alone now.
a woman will never ever get in shape for a significant other. it has to be her own idea, and any attempt you make to help her will just make her feel pressured by you. you cannot win.
I'm with this mother fucker man.
Honestly at this point it's a lost cause, she'll be HAES soon or completely insane.
Majority of women want gold stars and standing ovations just for existing.
They won't change and expect everyone to cater to their fragile egos.
Safer to run and start again my dude
I hate that modern society doesn't allow us to just force women to do stuff. I would train her like a pokemon, for her own good ofc.
Sounds pretty hopeless. If you live with her I think you can try and demand that she start cooking healthy food at home and stop eating out. Don't expect perfection as women like to rebel, but they also like being bullied if it's done in the right way so I think that's your only shot.
Dump her and move on.
fool! women don't loose weight in a relationship. Just dump her already. You will never inspire her or something. She already resents you and is looking for the next beta to nest with
>Be me
>Want to diet but gf doesn’t and sabotages my efforts
>Decide to go full architect on her while I hit the gym as hard as possible to build muscle
>Two months later I weigh myself and complain about the 3kg I gained
>gf weighs herself, panics and says diet is starting today
Easy peasy bros
god damn you fucking pussy moron
tell her to get in shape or to fuck off
sorting someone elses health is not your problem
how about this moron, how about you find someone who doesnt need to lose a shitton of weight
fuck you
You clearly don’t know what it is like to be emotionally invested in anyone
You’re either a psychopath or you’ve never gotten a girl to go on more than like 2 dates with you
Emotional investment is the problem. Keeps people from seeing clearly. That anon is expressing disdain for OP's gay and irrational emotional investment in someone who is clearly pathetic. It's like two women are dating. OP needs to start being a fucking man and deliver the ultimatum. Fuck off, roastie.
Ah yes, cause physical attributes are the only thing women have to offer in a relationship.
I don’t wanna just kick her to the curb over some reversible shit because she’s the only chick with brains and a actually at least somewhat unique personality that isn’t just artificially manufactured by her friends or the media she consumes.
I’ve gotten to know far too many women that practically cannot think for themselves and once you find out the clique they’re a part of you already know literally everything about them
I’m not trying to be all lovey dovey but I simply can’t stand most women and people in general
>cause physical attributes are the only thing women have to offer in a relationship.
It's all they have over men, yes.
>She's not like other women!
Yes, she is, retard. She's exactly like other women. And, like other women, she won't change unless she has to. Get over your gay oneitis. You'll NEVER have a successful relationship if you're not willing to risk a loss.
I’m not gonna take advice or debate some bitter red pill fag
>because she’s the only chick with brains and a actually at least somewhat unique personality
Anon...
>>asks for help but ends up just getting mad at me because I have to be the bad guy that tells her she probably shouldn’t get another meal from a fast food chain
your own post makes it sound like your gf has the mental capacity of a 3 year old
Trying to cater to the retards beliefs
If she had brains you wouldn't be having this problem
>emotionally invested
You're sick in the head. You don't think you can get laid again, so you're objectifying her and delusionally possessive. If you thought of her as a person to respect, you wouldn't be trying to manipulate her to your Ego's benefit.
Fuck you.
Stop watching so much Andrew Tate, for your own sake. Seriously.
Step 1 would be to bring her to the gym.
I’ve already tired that. I’ve tried just having her do what I’ve been doing but she never sticks to it and ends up saying “I don’t wanna go to the gym! I’ve done (list of moderately strenuous tasks) today!”
Having a gf sounds so shit why do men bother?
It's supposed to be an audition for marriage so you can safely raise children, but everyone is retarded now and dates just to date.
>I love her but I have very little sexual attraction towards her anymore
Tell her this and either she will put in the effort for you or she won't and you can leave her without feeling too bad.
This happened to the people that live above me when the guy built a home gym during quarantine. They would have actual yelling matches about the genetics of BMI and shit.
Eventually she left. I hear him crying a lot now, and playing Majora’s Mask with the speakers up really loud.
start being yourself with her
do the most nasty shit you ever wanted in bed, go all the way
if still then you don't like, or if she's not interested, move on
I don't really get how you'd lose interest in her because of 20 lbs
do yoh have pics of the before and after?