as a black man i just get on SwoleShack to witness the mental decline of palefaces
the blacked/manlet/demoralization threads are a nice confidence boost
too bad SwoleShack isnt reality
as a black man i just get on SwoleShack to witness the mental decline of palefaces
the blacked/manlet/demoralization threads are a nice confidence boost
too bad SwoleShack isnt reality
>Be me >ex invites me to Egypt with her parents, all expenses paid >Go there like a retard, "maybe she wants to get back together" >doesn't work >year passes, we're both on relationships >30th birthday, she drops off a gift >get to talking >reveals she had a two-month fwb with a dude twice her age >think nothing of it at first >then two days later it hits me, that two months ended right before the Egypt >I was that whore's backup >Happy birthday to me
suffer as I have anon >molested by uncle cousin and grandma >get beat up daily by siblings to the point you go numb >become a friendless loser through middle school and high-school due to trauma >survive meth head father beating the shit out of you >survive bipolar mother verbally fuck with you every single day >move 10 times in a the course of a few years because of said fuck up parents. >move into government apartments with nigs Hispanics and methheqds >almost get stabbed a few times >have insane mother put you on anti psychotics because she has legitimate manchausen by proxy syndrome >get off meds and violently puke everyday for a year and go from 170 pounds to 95 at your lowest >escape to the good grandparents >start doing better and getting healthy >surprise your dad is almost dead >get fired from games top for seeing father in ER >he survives with a 2% chance but he's a little funny and he never fully came back >leave to the navy >finally meet a girl but find out she's an ex.meth head >she used.me.to get kicked. out of the navy >move to a different state >she follows.me and comes into my apartment with a gun and a plan to kill me in my sleep >coworker comes early to pick me up and spooks her off >have a different girl try to stab me after she stole my alcohol >family constantly trying to gains and soul goblin me back Into the cesspit >go to college and graduate which makes them furious
I got.married and own my own home
we are having our first mid soon
I'm getting my masters degree and my wife ready has hers
my goblin family cut off all contact because I can't be their punching bag anymore
the point in all that anon
is that no matter what happens you can't just give up and die
because that's what they want you to do
I'm proud of you, anon. Living to spite your enemies is the best.
one last story time >be diagnosed with eye disease >doctor literally experimented in me (pajeet) >be 500/20 legally blind in both eyes >another doctor catches wind and has to do 4 followup eye surgeries to unfuck his experimentation >have to sign multiple NDAs
pic very fucking related
do you see the ring implants in my fucking eyes?
anons I have lived through some insane shit
I should write a book
but I can't yet because I haven't gotten the complete happy ending I want
Those are some kino eyes, my dude. Do you still have trouble with them now? Also, do you have any paranormal experience? By this point I don't doubt you survived a skinwalker attack.
ehhh family history of Grey's and I was in GATE as a kid I also have the typical scar on my forehead
those things aren't as concrete and as digestible as the fucking apeshit everyday things I've lived through
also thanks my eyes change colors depending on the light and my mood
1 year ago
Anonymous
Those are some kino eyes, my dude. Do you still have trouble with them now? Also, do you have any paranormal experience? By this point I don't doubt you survived a skinwalker attack.
my eyes have blue green and brown so it just depends on the location ,light and angle
1 year ago
Anonymous
ehhh family history of Grey's and I was in GATE as a kid I also have the typical scar on my forehead
those things aren't as concrete and as digestible as the fucking apeshit everyday things I've lived through
also thanks my eyes change colors depending on the light and my mood
Those are some kino eyes, my dude. Do you still have trouble with them now? Also, do you have any paranormal experience? By this point I don't doubt you survived a skinwalker attack.
sorry this is getting off.topic
OP just remember that bad things happen and you just have to roll with it like a boat on the rapids.
survive it first before you sit and recollect on the situation. There is plenty of time for hindsight after you have made sure you are going to be okay
sometimes things are out of your control and the only thing you can control is your response.
People always sit and worry about how they fucked up when they look back at the past but they always forget to realize that even with their fuckup they are still alive and that is a blessing in itself
1 year ago
Anonymous
>People always sit and worry about how they fucked up when they look back at the past but they always forget to realize that even with their fuckup they are still alive and that is a blessing in itself
No, no it's not.
1 year ago
Anonymous
yes it is
don't tell me you are so selfish that you can't even recognize the beauty in the fact you even get to experience the bad times and the negative emotions.
you sound like you are very young anon
you'll learn this through time
there are so many lessons that can be said but the honest truth is that some lessons have to be experienced first hand and no amount of uplifting speeches will teach you them
1 year ago
Anonymous
Okay, picture this.
A truck driver's brakes fail and he accidentally runs over and kills 4 people. He is convicted of multiple counts of manslaughter and is given multiple life sentences. Would you like to be alive in his situation? Not only his current situation is fucked, all of his future prospects are fucked too. Give that a thought.
You haven't lived. There are plenty of people who have lost arms, legs and more and will forever live in misery.
1 year ago
Anonymous
I've lost both my eyes and have regained them temporarily
I have double cornea transplants coming my way with a 30% rejection rate.
of course I'd still want to be alive.
look I've had a gun to my head literally
I called my goblin crab bucket brother and he told me to pull the trigger.
Anon you can't wait until things aren't hard anymore before.you choose to be happy.
1 year ago
Anonymous
>anon you can't wait until things aren't hard anymore before you choose to be happy
>ywn have an insane sketchy pajeet doctor convince you he can heal you and then put rings in your eyes for one of his inscrutably retarded mystery experiments
why even live
I left out a significant amount of horrible shit but no need to make all of you read that
they never killed me anons
they wanted me to give up and die and I refused to let them have that
When I got off the meds my mom forced on me I was 17 years old >95 to 100 pounds after puking >I didn't own a belt so I had to use a bungie chord I found >bipolar mother screaming at me the entire time >everything I owned fit into the size of a shoe box >had like 2 t shirts and 1 pair of
jeans >had a journal, some Tibetan prayer flags and a some cd's >walked in the snow In February without a jacket to a park on the other side of town >making a fucking collection call on a payphone to my grandparents at 3
>my goblin family
Ah well that explains everything
>Molested repeatedly by woman next door, cousins, uncle >get kidnapped walking home from school, get raped and lose my virginity at 11 >Verbally berated and harass by father in drunken fits >emotionally neglected by mother with severe OCD >get treated like a future school shooter throughout educational experience
Happy for you man, seriously. I hope to reach that level of accomplishment. Very envious of your ability to trust someone enough to marry and create a life with them.
Damm that's Hard life anon, makes mine seem comfy by comparison. congrats on the baby will change your life my kid is my reason to live and deal with being sober
Wagmi
>raped in both sides and given an STD as a kid >mother was the literal embodiment of a BPD demon, think every single negative stereotype and amplify by 100, also had me when she was pushing 30 >get on better with my father now but he’s still basically just a beaten down loser stuck as a teenage new jersey dipshit in the 80’s >oldest of 5, one of whom had a random extremely rare chromosome deletion or some shit, had to act as housetaker and do what retards now call adulting before I was even 10 >used to throw and hit me with all kinds of shit >only solace was my grandfather I would spend summers with who died when I was 12 >nearly homeless multiple times and wore donated clothing until 10th grade in high school >got bullied a lot for being a spergy booksmart kid, eventually said fuck it and started fighting and bullying back, learned early you either fuck or get fucked >decked people before from trying to hug me on reflex because I hate being touched >schools constantly fucked with me for testing 130 on an IQ test or some shit, mother didn’t sign off on a paper to send me to a class to work on diesel engines because she didn’t like the image that had >pretty much just used me as an ornament to brag about and looked at me like a demon otherwise >joined the navy at 19 as a corpsman because I was a smartie pants despite being colorblind as hell, discharged right before deployment because I ignored a leg injury that got worse >spent an entire year taking care of my grandmother who nearly died twice then, she is the only other person I ever cared about >lied my ass into a retail management gig because odd jobs weren’t cutting it, was one of the best workers they had >fast forward to today and I finally got my license, my own vehicle, about to start a bank job paying close to $25 an hour, and am finishing a cyber degree at the ripe age of 23 >also getting back to the level of SwoleShack I was when I was younger
Just embrace that the world sucks anon.
being in tough situations is really the only way to do that. modern, industrialized man is forced to challenge himself in inauthentic ways (i.e. activities unrelated to basic survival) so he generally has to invent these things himself.
a lot of people become tough from their fucked up living situations like . i also had a somewhat fucked up childhood, nowhere near the same extent as that guy, but still. it probably made me stronger but there's also the trauma i have to live with from it.
TL;DR - find purpose in your life, a goal, a struggle, a battle, and dedicate yourself to it. it will be worth it, even if you dont win it.
holy shit man. This is amazing, I have it all compared to you, good family, good friends, good environment, good education, good job. Yet I still give in to my vices.
This is inspiring anon, I've been trying to cut my vices yet always fail, and was incredibly depressed at my lack of fortitude. I know I live in paradise compared to others, but this puts a new perspective on it. I'm gonna keep trying, wagmi bros.
Have something that you want that you can never get back, no matter how hard you try. Something that even if you had owned the world and still wouldn't have.
I am too old to make something of myself. I am stupid and always fall for manipulation, making a fool of myself in the process. I was abused and taught that it is my place to be hurt by everyone including myself. There are things I hold more dear than my life and I've been seeing them dying out for three decades now. It hurts. It hurts more than things I am ashamed to admit was done to me. I don't watch the news or go outside because what I see makes me despair and catatonic. Especially what I see for myself. I just sit in a room, glued to an electronic painkiller whether pc or phone, waiting for life to go by as painlessly as possible and telling myself "this isn't happening". I want a family but I strongly disapprove of the people my children will have to mingle with and marry. I need a job but I have no skills and it will only expose me to this world of hurt nonstop.
Even if you have no problem with the other ethnicities, how are you going to connect with people who don't speak or write your language? Americans doesn't understand that because most of them use the same language and knowledge of spanish is widespread. Blacks and middle easterners don't use the local languages outside of work, and even there they only use them when speaking to supervisors. You can't overhear their tastes, their troubles, their jokes and gossip. You can't get the measure of them. When you're surrounded by them you feel alone and excluded. Sometimes it feels like they only want to address and connect with nobody but their own.
Make a list of your fears. Face them one by one until they are gone. Forget women for a while. Make a plan for your future and start following it. The women will start noticing down the line and will come to you.
>moved in with gf >week in >just checked on former landlord/roommate/bro >he's not doing too well, I guess he relied on rent money more than he showed
This shit sucks, I just want everyone to be happy.
>raped in both sides and given an STD as a kid >mother was the literal embodiment of a BPD demon, think every single negative stereotype and amplify by 100, also had me when she was pushing 30 >get on better with my father now but he’s still basically just a beaten down loser stuck as a teenage new jersey dipshit in the 80’s >oldest of 5, one of whom had a random extremely rare chromosome deletion or some shit, had to act as housetaker and do what retards now call adulting before I was even 10 >used to throw and hit me with all kinds of shit >only solace was my grandfather I would spend summers with who died when I was 12 >nearly homeless multiple times and wore donated clothing until 10th grade in high school >got bullied a lot for being a spergy booksmart kid, eventually said fuck it and started fighting and bullying back, learned early you either fuck or get fucked >decked people before from trying to hug me on reflex because I hate being touched >schools constantly fucked with me for testing 130 on an IQ test or some shit, mother didn’t sign off on a paper to send me to a class to work on diesel engines because she didn’t like the image that had >pretty much just used me as an ornament to brag about and looked at me like a demon otherwise >joined the navy at 19 as a corpsman because I was a smartie pants despite being colorblind as hell, discharged right before deployment because I ignored a leg injury that got worse >spent an entire year taking care of my grandmother who nearly died twice then, she is the only other person I ever cared about >lied my ass into a retail management gig because odd jobs weren’t cutting it, was one of the best workers they had >fast forward to today and I finally got my license, my own vehicle, about to start a bank job paying close to $25 an hour, and am finishing a cyber degree at the ripe age of 23 >also getting back to the level of SwoleShack I was when I was younger
Just embrace that the world sucks anon.
I am such a sucker that I would fight you to hug you and tell you cringe anime shit like "I love you bro" and "I will be someone you can count on just to prove your bleak reality wrong and bring you into a better one."
Although I would much prefer you keep your distance, I appreciate the sentiment nonetheless. As for your previous comment, I think that its not too late just yet. You may not have the prototypical normalfag life, but really so much of that is complete bullshit and deliberately altered to make everyone look better than they are that its hardly worth fretting about IMO. But you need to come to grips with the fact that sometimes you have no other choice but to jump off the high board into the cold water below. Think of it like this, do you *really* want to appease those who have hurt you so badly before? Do you really want them to have the last laugh all the way to the grave as they see you just give up? I say fuck them, go out there in spite of their sorry asses and prove those bastards wrong. May not happen in a day or a week or even a year, but take it from someone who has been there, all sitting around stewing and feeling bad for yourself will do is bring you nothing but more pain and headache. You owe if only it to yourself to go on and get some success in life no matter how small, even if you have to grab it by the throat and strangle it.
I can't manage my time effectively. I work two jobs, take care of an aging parent, train daily, and spend time with my gf. When I finally have free time I don't have any of it to waste because I have shit to get done, but I always end up sitting on SwoleShack it browsing YouTube. How do I become less lazy so I can get shit done? I've tried minimizing distractions but I will sit there doing nothing instead of acting.
I’ll admit I’ve always had a fire lit under my ass out of a fear or anxiety of not doing anything, but for me if I ever get that feeling of being even more of a turbo hermit I try to find an excuse to go outside. Can be something simple as needing to go to the store or wanting to see a sight somewhere, anything to get out there. For me sometimes its heading to the range to work on my groupings, anything that exposes you to others really, to get you out of that creeping and deceptive comfort zone. Not saying its a full fix, just something I do whenever I feel those moods coming in.
I'm not Polish I'm stressed but I think I'm stressed because of the results of my laziness.
May sound like a meme but deconstructing problems into smaller and easier hurdles really goes a long way.
I can't manage my time effectively. I work two jobs, take care of an aging parent, train daily, and spend time with my gf. When I finally have free time I don't have any of it to waste because I have shit to get done, but I always end up sitting on SwoleShack it browsing YouTube. How do I become less lazy so I can get shit done? I've tried minimizing distractions but I will sit there doing nothing instead of acting.
They are beneficial to your pores and help with keeping your skin clear of blemishes
also having cold water on your nutsac actually helps testosterone and super hot water kills test and your sperm
Learn to do uncomfortable shit. It doesn't have to be sticking your hand in acid or slamming nails into your foot.
Just learn to do shit that makes you uncomfortable and succeed anyways. Importantly, recognize when it's just you not wanting to be uncomfortable holding you back. When it's truly just that, fight yourself and win. Then when you succeed remember how you felt before and how it really wasn't all that bad. Then you can do anything easier than that.
I climbed a lot of big ass mountains. Cold, -20 to -40C. It sucks ass climbing when you have to keep beating your hands to stop them from freezing. It sucks more because when your hands stop being numb they burn like ass as the nerves get blood and oxygen again. But you soon realize the burning is a good sign you're not going to lose the limb, and in the end that's only pain, and not a cause for concern.
Suffering only partially creates character
Resolution is what roughens you up
say you got abused as a kid, thats suffering
but if you really want to become a tough mfer, find your abuser, and take revenge on him for what he did, get even.
the satisfaction you get from that is what truly generates character
Its about developing WILL. If you want 14 inch biceps, do it. Focus on that. Do NOT stop until the goal is reached. Eliminate distractions. Fuck your game/Netflix binge series. Set a goal and accomplish it- no matter what anyone around you says or does. WILL the goal into reality.
If you can WILL a goal, single-mindedly, you are on the path to mental toughness.
Join your local rugby team. I did age 19 and could feel myself turn from a boy to a man in my first season and just feeling alive and invincible.
There are high school, college, and mens teams. Any will do. You don’t have ti be athletic or big (although needed for starting lineup) you just have to like drinking beer and they will find you the right position on field
Be a black man on SwoleShack
PLEASE impregnate my wife
…
aight den
pft
impregnate ME
Be a pajeet on fit (and in real life)
as a black man i just get on SwoleShack to witness the mental decline of palefaces
the blacked/manlet/demoralization threads are a nice confidence boost
too bad SwoleShack isnt reality
buenos dias, niggas
Black guy here, I agree.
Sifting through the bbc spam and black hate posted by angsty teens just makes my vblack prove stronger lol
FPBP, this entire website is nothing but /misc/-tier psyops 24/7
Surviving life and not letting it beat you down.
these.
>Be me
>ex invites me to Egypt with her parents, all expenses paid
>Go there like a retard, "maybe she wants to get back together"
>doesn't work
>year passes, we're both on relationships
>30th birthday, she drops off a gift
>get to talking
>reveals she had a two-month fwb with a dude twice her age
>think nothing of it at first
>then two days later it hits me, that two months ended right before the Egypt
>I was that whore's backup
>Happy birthday to me
>whore spends money treating you to an exotic trip
>you complain
sounds like the problem is a mentality one
It's still beyond me why she did that. Her answer before used to be "because you seemed depressed". Fuck if I know, I don't understand women at all.
move on anon, she did you a favor
Tried to have a discussion, turned into a fight, she said about something me taking the conversation too far. I think that acquaintance is over.
You can't teach being alpha sigma.
Take cold showers, work out, embrace hardship, do what you want but force yourself to go through pain, etc.
Don't let evil men and heartache take the better of you, keep praying and keep walking into life
Look into mindfulness meditation and classical Stoicism.
suffer as I have anon
>molested by uncle cousin and grandma
>get beat up daily by siblings to the point you go numb
>become a friendless loser through middle school and high-school due to trauma
>survive meth head father beating the shit out of you
>survive bipolar mother verbally fuck with you every single day
>move 10 times in a the course of a few years because of said fuck up parents.
>move into government apartments with nigs Hispanics and methheqds
>almost get stabbed a few times
>have insane mother put you on anti psychotics because she has legitimate manchausen by proxy syndrome
>get off meds and violently puke everyday for a year and go from 170 pounds to 95 at your lowest
>escape to the good grandparents
>start doing better and getting healthy
>surprise your dad is almost dead
>get fired from games top for seeing father in ER
>he survives with a 2% chance but he's a little funny and he never fully came back
>leave to the navy
>finally meet a girl but find out she's an ex.meth head
>she used.me.to get kicked. out of the navy
>move to a different state
>she follows.me and comes into my apartment with a gun and a plan to kill me in my sleep
>coworker comes early to pick me up and spooks her off
>have a different girl try to stab me after she stole my alcohol
>family constantly trying to gains and soul goblin me back Into the cesspit
>go to college and graduate which makes them furious
I got.married and own my own home
we are having our first mid soon
I'm getting my masters degree and my wife ready has hers
my goblin family cut off all contact because I can't be their punching bag anymore
the point in all that anon
is that no matter what happens you can't just give up and die
because that's what they want you to do
I left out a significant amount of horrible shit but no need to make all of you read that
they never killed me anons
they wanted me to give up and die and I refused to let them have that
You're one tough motherfucker man. We can all make it
one last story time
>be diagnosed with eye disease
>doctor literally experimented in me (pajeet)
>be 500/20 legally blind in both eyes
>another doctor catches wind and has to do 4 followup eye surgeries to unfuck his experimentation
>have to sign multiple NDAs
pic very fucking related
do you see the ring implants in my fucking eyes?
anons I have lived through some insane shit
I should write a book
but I can't yet because I haven't gotten the complete happy ending I want
oh I should also add
I'm due for double corneal transplants
you know what's fun about eye surgery?
you are awake for all of it
its surreal lads
Those are some kino eyes, my dude. Do you still have trouble with them now? Also, do you have any paranormal experience? By this point I don't doubt you survived a skinwalker attack.
ehhh family history of Grey's and I was in GATE as a kid I also have the typical scar on my forehead
those things aren't as concrete and as digestible as the fucking apeshit everyday things I've lived through
also thanks my eyes change colors depending on the light and my mood
my eyes have blue green and brown so it just depends on the location ,light and angle
sorry this is getting off.topic
OP just remember that bad things happen and you just have to roll with it like a boat on the rapids.
survive it first before you sit and recollect on the situation. There is plenty of time for hindsight after you have made sure you are going to be okay
sometimes things are out of your control and the only thing you can control is your response.
People always sit and worry about how they fucked up when they look back at the past but they always forget to realize that even with their fuckup they are still alive and that is a blessing in itself
>People always sit and worry about how they fucked up when they look back at the past but they always forget to realize that even with their fuckup they are still alive and that is a blessing in itself
No, no it's not.
yes it is
don't tell me you are so selfish that you can't even recognize the beauty in the fact you even get to experience the bad times and the negative emotions.
you sound like you are very young anon
you'll learn this through time
there are so many lessons that can be said but the honest truth is that some lessons have to be experienced first hand and no amount of uplifting speeches will teach you them
Okay, picture this.
A truck driver's brakes fail and he accidentally runs over and kills 4 people. He is convicted of multiple counts of manslaughter and is given multiple life sentences. Would you like to be alive in his situation? Not only his current situation is fucked, all of his future prospects are fucked too. Give that a thought.
You haven't lived. There are plenty of people who have lost arms, legs and more and will forever live in misery.
I've lost both my eyes and have regained them temporarily
I have double cornea transplants coming my way with a 30% rejection rate.
of course I'd still want to be alive.
look I've had a gun to my head literally
I called my goblin crab bucket brother and he told me to pull the trigger.
Anon you can't wait until things aren't hard anymore before.you choose to be happy.
>anon you can't wait until things aren't hard anymore before you choose to be happy
>ywn have an insane sketchy pajeet doctor convince you he can heal you and then put rings in your eyes for one of his inscrutably retarded mystery experiments
why even live
no the rings are what the white doctor put into save me
pajeet was using donor tissue for experimental shit because he saw me as less than human
Take that motherfucker to court, I really dont like when doctors try to experiment or do shit on people without permission
Kinda like the creep who used his sperm tto knock up 50 ladies
>my goblin family
Ah well that explains everything
When I got off the meds my mom forced on me I was 17 years old
>95 to 100 pounds after puking
>I didn't own a belt so I had to use a bungie chord I found
>bipolar mother screaming at me the entire time
>everything I owned fit into the size of a shoe box
>had like 2 t shirts and 1 pair of
jeans
>had a journal, some Tibetan prayer flags and a some cd's
>walked in the snow In February without a jacket to a park on the other side of town
>making a fucking collection call on a payphone to my grandparents at 3
we are white
they ate all just gains goblins
I'm proud of you, anon. Living to spite your enemies is the best.
No that's really cringe.
>Molested repeatedly by woman next door, cousins, uncle
>get kidnapped walking home from school, get raped and lose my virginity at 11
>Verbally berated and harass by father in drunken fits
>emotionally neglected by mother with severe OCD
>get treated like a future school shooter throughout educational experience
Happy for you man, seriously. I hope to reach that level of accomplishment. Very envious of your ability to trust someone enough to marry and create a life with them.
Damm that's Hard life anon, makes mine seem comfy by comparison. congrats on the baby will change your life my kid is my reason to live and deal with being sober
Wagmi
Your story gives me motivation, anon. Godspeed, we WILL make it.
>you can't just give up and die, because that's what they want you to do.
based. you're a fucking warrior dude
that's great to hear anon
it sounds like you're doing well and i hope it stays that way friend
We're all gonna make it anon. I will lift for you this week.
Jesus man, having people put you on anti psychs against your will is fucked up, thank god your life turned up better after all
Jesus Christ anons
being in tough situations is really the only way to do that. modern, industrialized man is forced to challenge himself in inauthentic ways (i.e. activities unrelated to basic survival) so he generally has to invent these things himself.
a lot of people become tough from their fucked up living situations like . i also had a somewhat fucked up childhood, nowhere near the same extent as that guy, but still. it probably made me stronger but there's also the trauma i have to live with from it.
TL;DR - find purpose in your life, a goal, a struggle, a battle, and dedicate yourself to it. it will be worth it, even if you dont win it.
This is the most based post I've read this year.
Victory... Just to spite them. Just to prove all of them wrong. I like that.
holy shit man. This is amazing, I have it all compared to you, good family, good friends, good environment, good education, good job. Yet I still give in to my vices.
This is inspiring anon, I've been trying to cut my vices yet always fail, and was incredibly depressed at my lack of fortitude. I know I live in paradise compared to others, but this puts a new perspective on it. I'm gonna keep trying, wagmi bros.
King.
Also yeah GameStop can be ass, they rejected me 7 times (yet ikea got me first try, ikea pays better too)
By surviving situations that callous your brain. You gotta force yourself to do things that make you nervous and frightened. It's the only way.
Simply realize you have choice and agency. Your brain is a computer you can tell to do whatever the fuck you want. Reality is dreaming in slow motion.
Throw yourself into mentally stressful situations.
Pain
Have something that you want that you can never get back, no matter how hard you try. Something that even if you had owned the world and still wouldn't have.
Pick what you want to care about and only care about that. The little shit doesn't matter unless you want it to.
Easy mode: Play a team sport as a child, and get the overcome adversity speech from coaches. Fight your older brothers and cousins.
Hard mode: Learn to overcome adversity as an adult, who never faced adversity.
Also, working a psychically laborious job for two years minimum and living like a Soviet proletariat helps.
>Also, working a psychically laborious job for two years minimum and living like a Soviet proletariat helps.
This
Just keeping moving forward.
Suffering builds character
I am too old to make something of myself. I am stupid and always fall for manipulation, making a fool of myself in the process. I was abused and taught that it is my place to be hurt by everyone including myself. There are things I hold more dear than my life and I've been seeing them dying out for three decades now. It hurts. It hurts more than things I am ashamed to admit was done to me. I don't watch the news or go outside because what I see makes me despair and catatonic. Especially what I see for myself. I just sit in a room, glued to an electronic painkiller whether pc or phone, waiting for life to go by as painlessly as possible and telling myself "this isn't happening". I want a family but I strongly disapprove of the people my children will have to mingle with and marry. I need a job but I have no skills and it will only expose me to this world of hurt nonstop.
>be a huge loser and realizes how pathetic he is
>still racist
Because there is no other category of people than race, right?
This primal fear of "i don't want to be left out" destroys civilizations.
Even if you have no problem with the other ethnicities, how are you going to connect with people who don't speak or write your language? Americans doesn't understand that because most of them use the same language and knowledge of spanish is widespread. Blacks and middle easterners don't use the local languages outside of work, and even there they only use them when speaking to supervisors. You can't overhear their tastes, their troubles, their jokes and gossip. You can't get the measure of them. When you're surrounded by them you feel alone and excluded. Sometimes it feels like they only want to address and connect with nobody but their own.
Imagine being so Racist that you go out of your way to imply, look-for or insert Racism into everything you read or hear.
meditate
stop jerking off
go 90 days
Hardships
Lots and lots of hardships
Life expirance. You cant read about it you can only live throu traumas, survive them and gain enligthment from it.
Confidence comes from adversity stop being a pussy and do hard things
Make a list of your fears. Face them one by one until they are gone. Forget women for a while. Make a plan for your future and start following it. The women will start noticing down the line and will come to you.
one simply decides
Get extreme depression, completely self-isolate for a year, "break out" of the depression by developing extreme apathy (that never goes away).
>moved in with gf
>week in
>just checked on former landlord/roommate/bro
>he's not doing too well, I guess he relied on rent money more than he showed
This shit sucks, I just want everyone to be happy.
>raped in both sides and given an STD as a kid
>mother was the literal embodiment of a BPD demon, think every single negative stereotype and amplify by 100, also had me when she was pushing 30
>get on better with my father now but he’s still basically just a beaten down loser stuck as a teenage new jersey dipshit in the 80’s
>oldest of 5, one of whom had a random extremely rare chromosome deletion or some shit, had to act as housetaker and do what retards now call adulting before I was even 10
>used to throw and hit me with all kinds of shit
>only solace was my grandfather I would spend summers with who died when I was 12
>nearly homeless multiple times and wore donated clothing until 10th grade in high school
>got bullied a lot for being a spergy booksmart kid, eventually said fuck it and started fighting and bullying back, learned early you either fuck or get fucked
>decked people before from trying to hug me on reflex because I hate being touched
>schools constantly fucked with me for testing 130 on an IQ test or some shit, mother didn’t sign off on a paper to send me to a class to work on diesel engines because she didn’t like the image that had
>pretty much just used me as an ornament to brag about and looked at me like a demon otherwise
>joined the navy at 19 as a corpsman because I was a smartie pants despite being colorblind as hell, discharged right before deployment because I ignored a leg injury that got worse
>spent an entire year taking care of my grandmother who nearly died twice then, she is the only other person I ever cared about
>lied my ass into a retail management gig because odd jobs weren’t cutting it, was one of the best workers they had
>fast forward to today and I finally got my license, my own vehicle, about to start a bank job paying close to $25 an hour, and am finishing a cyber degree at the ripe age of 23
>also getting back to the level of SwoleShack I was when I was younger
Just embrace that the world sucks anon.
I am such a sucker that I would fight you to hug you and tell you cringe anime shit like "I love you bro" and "I will be someone you can count on just to prove your bleak reality wrong and bring you into a better one."
Thanks. I will give it a try.
Although I would much prefer you keep your distance, I appreciate the sentiment nonetheless. As for your previous comment, I think that its not too late just yet. You may not have the prototypical normalfag life, but really so much of that is complete bullshit and deliberately altered to make everyone look better than they are that its hardly worth fretting about IMO. But you need to come to grips with the fact that sometimes you have no other choice but to jump off the high board into the cold water below. Think of it like this, do you *really* want to appease those who have hurt you so badly before? Do you really want them to have the last laugh all the way to the grave as they see you just give up? I say fuck them, go out there in spite of their sorry asses and prove those bastards wrong. May not happen in a day or a week or even a year, but take it from someone who has been there, all sitting around stewing and feeling bad for yourself will do is bring you nothing but more pain and headache. You owe if only it to yourself to go on and get some success in life no matter how small, even if you have to grab it by the throat and strangle it.
I’ll admit I’ve always had a fire lit under my ass out of a fear or anxiety of not doing anything, but for me if I ever get that feeling of being even more of a turbo hermit I try to find an excuse to go outside. Can be something simple as needing to go to the store or wanting to see a sight somewhere, anything to get out there. For me sometimes its heading to the range to work on my groupings, anything that exposes you to others really, to get you out of that creeping and deceptive comfort zone. Not saying its a full fix, just something I do whenever I feel those moods coming in.
May sound like a meme but deconstructing problems into smaller and easier hurdles really goes a long way.
Suffer and endure adversity in your life. After experiencing shit you get more used to it.
league xf
Feel the fear and do it anyway.
Take a teaspoon of cement and harden the fuck up
search up cognitive distortions
I can't manage my time effectively. I work two jobs, take care of an aging parent, train daily, and spend time with my gf. When I finally have free time I don't have any of it to waste because I have shit to get done, but I always end up sitting on SwoleShack it browsing YouTube. How do I become less lazy so I can get shit done? I've tried minimizing distractions but I will sit there doing nothing instead of acting.
Are you lazy or do you need stress relief? You sound stressed to me. Are you polish btw?
I'm not Polish I'm stressed but I think I'm stressed because of the results of my laziness.
Maybe you could get shit done while youtube is playing in the background like a TV.
Repeated exposure to mentally agonizing things. Cold water is a good one most people could learn to tolerate.
I DIDNT COME HERE TO FEEL
Get addicted to painkillers and force yourself to quit cold turkey.
What’s the deal with cold showers? Are they really that great?
They are beneficial to your pores and help with keeping your skin clear of blemishes
also having cold water on your nutsac actually helps testosterone and super hot water kills test and your sperm
I do 50 reps with 75lbs, 50 squats with the same, and then rowing machine for 30 minutes everyday. Keeps me happy as a clam.
Don't be a fucking pussy dumbass there you go
Learn to do uncomfortable shit. It doesn't have to be sticking your hand in acid or slamming nails into your foot.
Just learn to do shit that makes you uncomfortable and succeed anyways. Importantly, recognize when it's just you not wanting to be uncomfortable holding you back. When it's truly just that, fight yourself and win. Then when you succeed remember how you felt before and how it really wasn't all that bad. Then you can do anything easier than that.
I climbed a lot of big ass mountains. Cold, -20 to -40C. It sucks ass climbing when you have to keep beating your hands to stop them from freezing. It sucks more because when your hands stop being numb they burn like ass as the nerves get blood and oxygen again. But you soon realize the burning is a good sign you're not going to lose the limb, and in the end that's only pain, and not a cause for concern.
Then everything else gets easier
Suffering only partially creates character
Resolution is what roughens you up
say you got abused as a kid, thats suffering
but if you really want to become a tough mfer, find your abuser, and take revenge on him for what he did, get even.
the satisfaction you get from that is what truly generates character
Take up a martial art and compete against others.
Do everything that scares you. Put yourself in tough situations
When life beats the shit out of you, get up and start fighting, never give up and tell every muthafucka to go to Hell.
Its about developing WILL. If you want 14 inch biceps, do it. Focus on that. Do NOT stop until the goal is reached. Eliminate distractions. Fuck your game/Netflix binge series. Set a goal and accomplish it- no matter what anyone around you says or does. WILL the goal into reality.
If you can WILL a goal, single-mindedly, you are on the path to mental toughness.
Join your local rugby team. I did age 19 and could feel myself turn from a boy to a man in my first season and just feeling alive and invincible.
There are high school, college, and mens teams. Any will do. You don’t have ti be athletic or big (although needed for starting lineup) you just have to like drinking beer and they will find you the right position on field