Hi, welcome to my blog. I'm in search of guidance.
Former fatty in my younger years, I got ripped at 20 yo with very high protein/low calories diet. Since then, my weight has fluctuated but I never got fat again.
I am 39 yo now, and for months I have struggled with keeping disciplined. I find myself over eating daily, not by much but still. I gained weight, every other day I tell myself that I am going to start calorie counting again but I keep going back to shitty habits (eating between meals, eating too much food which is not what's best for my goals, eating to numb my stress or because I am bored etc.).
I don't know what is wrong with me, I got off the wagon before but I always got back on my feet. I don't find it in me anymore, it seems. It's like I don't want it bad enough anymore.
I think this situation is a symptom of something more profound. I can't complain about my job given that I WFH 100% and make good money but some days I have nothing to do, I feel totally lacking motivation and even though I could use this time to do something useful, I don't do shit.
I feel I don't have purpose and it's the reason why I lack discipline and don't do what I know I should be doing.
Anyone went through this kind of passage? any tips for me so that I stop bitching and get back to work?
Youre an addict and you need to treat your addiction like any other addict would treat theirs.
Addict to food? hmm I find it hard to believe but ok, what would you suggest?
The twelve steps.
Not the guy you're replying to but food addiction is real and incredibly prevalent throughout the United States. Think of all the massive landwhales you've ever seen irl or online. You can't get that fat without developing a literal addiction to the instant gratification of sugary garbage. Anyway, my advice to you is to improve your environment as much as you can. You are a product of your environment, so a bad one will fuck you up no matter what discipline you have. Don't keep junk food in your house, have a designated place for eating and only eating. I'm pulling most of this shit from the book atomic habits if you're interested in that-pretty good read.
will do, thanks fren
I would suggest using a calorie tracking app to hold yourself more accountable. It's harder to over eat when you're logging everything
I have been using this tool for more than a decade now, I do start the day by counting but I keep heading to the fridge to get some food at some point even though I know I shouldn't. I am not talking about junk food by the way, I eat rather clean I believe but I do eat to often, too much.
And I could punch my fucking face in the morning when naked in front of the mirror, I see I need to diet and get down 4 kilos weight wise.
I fucking now what I should do but I keep failing like a fucking child.
Taking a page from the AA strat on marijuana maintainence, replace it with something (not weed). For me coffee and mentally imtense tasks keep me from eating until the afternoon
That's a good point, I know I eat when I am bored or don't want to do shitty tasks.
Bro your 39 your life is over
the more boomer you become the less you actually give a shit about things, like being a lazy youth except the boomer mentality
but as you do realize working out has benefits, and if you wanna do them gotta get a routine and make doing them as seamless as possible, even though sometimes you dont feel like it, just gotta do something out of habit
making things as seamless as possible might include, get a home gym (rack), do as minimal of a routine/exercises as you want, do more enjoyable exercises just to keep going, instead of progressing lifts every time, make it every week, if not every week, every month
make it as easy as possible, in stead of doing full body 3x a week, just do one compound a day some days of the week to start
do the the literal bare minimum, just to build up a pattern, not burn out
I swear for the several autistical mind you have to do like psychology exposure therapy but for lifting, bare minimum dose and not a huge enough hurdle to make it seem too hard to accomplish, because then you will just build up a mental blockade
idk man, enjoy this rant non the less
Good advice fren, I understand it as "start little and build up a strong routine". Food wise, it would mean something like start by not eating between meals. Then when it's locked in, start hitting protons, then when it's locked in, start counting calories etc. Thanks
I didn't even consider the diet part, just don't buy shit foods, if you don't buy it you can't eat it, simple as
buy and cook whole foods
counting kcals is good for cutting sure but totally fucking boring long term
I pretty much eat nothing but clean foods. That's the shitty part, it's not like I can through the snicker bars out and get better. There is nothing but good protein, carbs and fats in my house. I simply overeat. Compensating for something but can't put my finger on it.
You aren’t hungry, you’re bored. Drink water after each meal and have some discipline about when you eat. If you still have no control over snacking then get off your ass and do cardio in the mornings/evenings.
Is your priority to enjoy your little pussy snacks when you’re bored or is it to lose weight and do something with yourself?
It’s okay to be fucking hungry.
buy a gymnastics matt
Set up a screen so you can watch anime while doing calisthenics including push ups
get 5 and 10 pound dumbells
do 120
push ups
squats
over head press with ten pound dumb bells
lunges
a day
consume between 600mg to 3gm of elemental magnesium a day
take a .5-1. teaspoon of potassium bicarbonate and sodium bicarbonate a day
buy celery and carrots
every time you have a craving for a snack, first eat an entire piece of celery or carrot first, which will fill your stomach up with volume, and then you won't have much of an apetite for snacks.
generally fill up with high fibre foods, which will fill up your stomach with volume, and you will feel fuller.
consume alot of cholesterol.
ask me anything.
also buy three pound dumb bells for shadowboxing
Sports wise, I have a rather adequate routine I believe: I go to the gym at least twice a week and I do a quick HIIT routine thrice a week.
It is really on the food level that I fuck up immensely. I weigh 156 lbs when I should be weighing 146. I will apply your pieces of advice.
I have a rather strong sports routine and yet, I look like shit because I am at around 20% bf because my diet is shit.
Fuck, every morning I want to spit on the mirror and yet, two hours later I go grab something in the fridge that I shouldn't. What the fuck is wrong with me