Well this thread got depressing fast. How the fuck do you not have friends as a man? Male comradery is practically instinctual. It's so easy to meet people and start bullshitting about random stuff, and before you know it you're bros.
>If all your friends suck
I already told you, I don't have friends. >Have you tried not hanging out with effeminate losers? >Actual men don't behave like women at all.
Like finding a needle in a haystack. Just look at IST.
You don't have friends, but somehow you know all your potential options are insufferable? This is what anon is referring to with the common denominator. You are the problem.
1 week ago
Anonymous
Curiously, you act just like he said.
1 week ago
Anonymous
>acting like a different poster cause he got btfo'd
kek
Same. Some are in relationships and into me, some are underage but eh. >Work out with girl A >Everyone thinks we're dating >Work out with girl B >Everyone thinks we're dating >Work out with girl C, D, E >One of them gets in my car >Everyone thinks we're dating
lmao.
Yes, we had amazing workouts together and lots of fun. Things went to shit after we made out and fucked though, she isn't even in the same country anymore.
Been working out alone every since.
>If all your friends suck
I already told you, I don't have friends. >Have you tried not hanging out with effeminate losers? >Actual men don't behave like women at all.
Like finding a needle in a haystack. Just look at IST.
>the- these are my gal pals >I don't like talking to those slanderous men >they are just too rude crude and inconsiderate! >women are caring and kind.... I would never spend time with those men taking all the good women from me
>always have to instigate conversations >always get short replies and they have to go soon >never want to meet up >can't even be bothered to play online vidya with me >friends stop talking to me
Several years later and here I am. I guess I must have a terrible personality or something, people just avoid me. To be fair, a girl did tell me i'm 'depressing to be around' so maybe thats it. Oh well, the weights are my friends now.
I concluded by the fact most friends i meet stop contacting me after a while that im a boring person, im 28 years old and by this point i stopped trying. I train by myself, i work at an empty office by myself, i live by myself and after a few years it stopped bothering me and im okay with going to my grave like this, eventually figured out some people are meant to have a healthy circle of people and others like me are just destined to face life alone, wish it wasnt like this but it is.
I concluded by the fact most friends i meet stop contacting me after a while that im a boring person, im 28 years old and by this point i stopped trying. I train by myself, i work at an empty office by myself, i live by myself and after a few years it stopped bothering me and im okay with going to my grave like this, eventually figured out some people are meant to have a healthy circle of people and others like me are just destined to face life alone, wish it wasnt like this but it is.
>always have to instigate conversations >always get short replies and they have to go soon >never want to meet up >can't even be bothered to play online vidya with me >friends stop talking to me
Several years later and here I am. I guess I must have a terrible personality or something, people just avoid me. To be fair, a girl did tell me i'm 'depressing to be around' so maybe thats it. Oh well, the weights are my friends now.
yeah this is pretty crazy to hear. I have friends from primary and high school that I still see on the regular after many years. we even have a discord where it's just the bros and no gf or wife allowed. people just join whenever they want to hang out, talk shit, play vidya or plan some trips to go on together. even people that moved overseas would regularly join
you got to be seriously socially stunted to not have friends as a man
Not really, I just dislike modernity; the majority of men are menchildren who play video games and board games, or they're into sports and have an IQ of 50. I'd prefer if men were still men.
What are you doing that makes you superior to the men you seemingly detest? You're on IST right now, not a good look.
1 week ago
Anonymous
>What are you doing that makes you superior to the men you seemingly detest?
Lift, read the classics, practice the piano and play chess. >You're on IST right now, not a good look.
I'm on IST right now, but I don't spend half my day on here like those manchildren spend on their shitty video games.
1 week ago
Anonymous
https://lichess.org/q8NzZ4rV
if I win you change your life, if you win you can keep being a depressed shut-in
1 week ago
Anonymous
only gonna wait a few more minutes
1 week ago
Anonymous
lmao, got his ass
I bet this guy hasn't even touched a book since he was in high school, let alone one of "the classics".
1 week ago
Anonymous
>he never replied
HAHAHAHAHAHA
1 week ago
Anonymous
>read the classics
Shut up you larping moron. I bet you read The Republic once and think you're some enlightened genius now. Quit being an effeminate shut in gay and go make some friends.
https://lichess.org/q8NzZ4rV
if I win you change your life, if you win you can keep being a depressed shut-in
I have one male friend I talk to and shoot the shit with almost daily. I have a couple more I occasionally hang out with/game with from time to time. That’s about it though. I work full time and have a fiancée though so between that and lifting/doing solo hobbies which I tend to prefer it’s not like I have a lot of time for socializing with new bros every week. I have a few guys I chat with at the gym but it’s mostly high schoolers.
When I was in college, I worked at a gym and made a few friends with other guys working there. 15 years later we are all still friends. I was a skinny dyel, but after befriending those guys I learned how to lift, how to dress, how to talk to girls, and basically how to do well in life. Thankful for my bros, my life wouldn’t be the same if I had never met those guys.
The original group that I’ve known since my early 20’s was 4 really good friends, but we would hang out with another 10 or so guys (not all at the same time). It was easy to meet girls because somebody would bring out their girlfriend and a few of their friends, so you’re often meeting new girls. All of us are married now, and everyone moved to other states since then, but the original 4 all keep in touch and meet up once or twice a year.
It’s hard to make friends in your 30s, especially with kids but my wife is very social and I’m becoming friends with a few other dads in my neighborhood.
No bros. I run my shop by myself and the only "friends" I have are some of my boomer customers who are twice my age. I lift at home and don't get out. I need to get some frens.
My new supervisor asked me if I had any hobbies and I told him now. Should I tell him I lift? I was afraid he might ask to hang out and work out together.
I do, my childhood best friend is much fitter than I but he continually inspires me to do better. He lives in Germany now but every time he comes back to the states we pick up where we left off. When he comes home it reminds me of the sort of person I can become.
Why are zoomers so fucking gay? I see groups of highschoolers lifting together and they all stand way too close to each other and are always touchy-feely. Their body language reminds me of what I'd do with girls I dated or flirted with.
I got friends, but they're all out of shape and make a billion excuses to avoid working out. I'm the only one that lifts and still makes it to their social events.
I used to be the fat one, now I'm the fit one besides the bro who benches more but is not as lean. Sometimes we work out together in his fathers garage gym. He's a real bro and just married.
My other friends are all slim and good looking, but not very muscular.
They're not IST and I don't want to see 99% of them , I hate the big city life.... fuck it I have so many days off right now maybe I should book a flight to Italy to clear my head over the weekend for christ sake.....
>fuck it I have so many days off right now maybe I should book a flight to Italy to clear my head over the weekend for christ sake
Life must be so hard for you :'(
I've never had any friends and never tried to make one either. My cousin was my best friend for years but we grew apart and I realized I'd rather be alone. My problem is that I feel disconnected from people.
I don't have any friends who are as fit as I am, but my new friend from work used to be a really good climber when he was younger (he's early 40s and overweight now) and I finally got him to start working to get back in it a couple months ago. Sometimes you gotta architect your friends, too, not just women
For my whole life my entire existence was just completely ignored, by men and women the same, it was like I was a ghost.
Even back in high school, people would make plans for the weekend while literally standing right next to me and invite basically everyone but me. After a while I thought it's because I didn't try to engage more so I tried that, only became even worse. Same thing in college and now at work, I am just a ghost to everyone, a non existent entity no matter how much I try or not, years and years which compounded into a lot of gigantic obvious life inexperiences which I can't even hide anymore.
At least I wasn't bullied, but even the bullied kids are remembered, I am just a ghost that happens to be alive
No one wants to stare at a screen all day, but I am aware that I have to make a living somehow so I'm not complaining, it's not like I work in a coal mine.
A coal mine might be cooler though, kek. Is there something you'd really like to be doing? It's easy to be looked over and invisible to other people if you're nothing but contempt with your own life. Enthusiastic friends come from doing shit you really enjoy with gusto. I was in your almost exact shoes until I got into some autistic shit like caving. I got super enthusiastic about it, and people enjoy being around someone who is friendly and also likes what they like. Gotta be less indifferent, mate.
you are enviable to me. i have had attention, i have had friends, i have even been in love, but it has left me feeling like a piece of broken glass; shaped into a jagged shard that will never fit in perfectly anywhere, changed by all of my many experiences. I could never be a data analyst. I could never bring myself to care enough. But you! You, young man, are perfectly fit to your environment. Like a giraffe, whose existence only makes sense in the context of the tall trees of the savannah, you are nothing without your screen but the screen is nothing without you! Consider yourself lucky.
Take up a prestigious hobby and get really good at it, or go all out climbing the ranks of your career. People will interact with you if they think you have competence or prestige they can leech off of. Normalfags all have some level of charisma and social networking competence and all seek to leech off of one another's social prowess; you don't have that, and this is why they are constantly babbling at each other while ignoring you. You need some other way to stand out. Just be sure to extract as much from them as they get from you once you stop being invisible.
He's right, just to an excessively extreme degree. Get a hobby that you enjoy and dive into it. Friends will come if you're actually enthusiastic about what you do.
I have never had a single friend lol i'm completely socially retarded by this point and couldn't form a human relationship even if by some miracle such a chance presented itself to me. I freeze up if my cashier or hairdresser tries smalltalk. If i fuck it up i just din't go back to that barber shop/supermarket for a few years so the person forgets me haha
Honestly, this is so pathetic that it's sad, mate. Literally nobody gives a shit if you fuck up small talk, they will forget about it 10 minutes later.
But i will never forget haha like that time a cashier asked me something three times and all three times i couldn't hear her clearly so i said "could you please repeat that one more time, i'm very sorry" and she scoffed and said "never mind" I WILL NEVER FUCKING LIVE THIS DOWN IT WILL HAUNT ME TO MY GRAVE i still stay up at night thinking about this and it was 4 years ago lol
Literally nobody but you remembers that. If you asked the cashier about it now, she wouldn't know what the fuck you're talking about. Just use it as a learning experience for next time. If you're having an issue hearing someone after they've repeated what they said, laugh and say something about being hard of hearing or some shit. It's not that fucking hard bro, just don't be retarded. If getting blown off by a cashier is the only thing that you've done that keeps you up at night, I envy you. You have to fumble sometimes, that's part of life, dumabss.
I don't have bros.
Well this thread got depressing fast. How the fuck do you not have friends as a man? Male comradery is practically instinctual. It's so easy to meet people and start bullshitting about random stuff, and before you know it you're bros.
I have friends. They’re just women 🙁
It's over
You or whoever made the pic fucked up the joke because you never under stood that it's over
Sorry about your homosexuality
If all your friends suck, whats the common denominator?
>If all your friends suck
I already told you, I don't have friends.
>Have you tried not hanging out with effeminate losers?
>Actual men don't behave like women at all.
Like finding a needle in a haystack. Just look at IST.
You don't have friends, but somehow you know all your potential options are insufferable? This is what anon is referring to with the common denominator. You are the problem.
Curiously, you act just like he said.
>acting like a different poster cause he got btfo'd
kek
Same. Some are in relationships and into me, some are underage but eh.
>Work out with girl A
>Everyone thinks we're dating
>Work out with girl B
>Everyone thinks we're dating
>Work out with girl C, D, E
>One of them gets in my car
>Everyone thinks we're dating
lmao.
Yeah, I experience the same. Can’t be seen with any girl without people thinking we’re dating
Yes, we had amazing workouts together and lots of fun. Things went to shit after we made out and fucked though, she isn't even in the same country anymore.
Been working out alone every since.
>some are underage
Oh so you care?
Confirmed gay
As long as one of them gives you benefits
>the- these are my gal pals
>I don't like talking to those slanderous men
>they are just too rude crude and inconsiderate!
>women are caring and kind.... I would never spend time with those men taking all the good women from me
lol no.
Men are just as insufferable as women and will do everything they can to try to drag you down to make themselves feel better.
Have you tried not hanging out with effeminate losers? Actual men don't behave like women at all.
Hahahahaha
Okay, Chris Chan
I am in my 30s, married with kids and a high stress job
they chose women and drugs over friendship and the truth
we had fun
>always have to instigate conversations
>always get short replies and they have to go soon
>never want to meet up
>can't even be bothered to play online vidya with me
>friends stop talking to me
Several years later and here I am. I guess I must have a terrible personality or something, people just avoid me. To be fair, a girl did tell me i'm 'depressing to be around' so maybe thats it. Oh well, the weights are my friends now.
literally me
Have you considered that you might be the problem?
he literally did in that post
I concluded by the fact most friends i meet stop contacting me after a while that im a boring person, im 28 years old and by this point i stopped trying. I train by myself, i work at an empty office by myself, i live by myself and after a few years it stopped bothering me and im okay with going to my grave like this, eventually figured out some people are meant to have a healthy circle of people and others like me are just destined to face life alone, wish it wasnt like this but it is.
It's over.
yeah this is pretty crazy to hear. I have friends from primary and high school that I still see on the regular after many years. we even have a discord where it's just the bros and no gf or wife allowed. people just join whenever they want to hang out, talk shit, play vidya or plan some trips to go on together. even people that moved overseas would regularly join
you got to be seriously socially stunted to not have friends as a man
shut the fuck up stupid moron bitch with your larp discuck story
kek seething nofriends
why would I seethe at a made up story moron
Lol.
Men are so retarded today I don't even want to make new friends. All they like is retarded shit like sports and video games.
You are mentally a woman.
Not really, I just dislike modernity; the majority of men are menchildren who play video games and board games, or they're into sports and have an IQ of 50. I'd prefer if men were still men.
What are you doing that makes you superior to the men you seemingly detest? You're on IST right now, not a good look.
>What are you doing that makes you superior to the men you seemingly detest?
Lift, read the classics, practice the piano and play chess.
>You're on IST right now, not a good look.
I'm on IST right now, but I don't spend half my day on here like those manchildren spend on their shitty video games.
https://lichess.org/q8NzZ4rV
if I win you change your life, if you win you can keep being a depressed shut-in
only gonna wait a few more minutes
lmao, got his ass
I bet this guy hasn't even touched a book since he was in high school, let alone one of "the classics".
>he never replied
HAHAHAHAHAHA
>read the classics
Shut up you larping moron. I bet you read The Republic once and think you're some enlightened genius now. Quit being an effeminate shut in gay and go make some friends.
Based
I have one male friend I talk to and shoot the shit with almost daily. I have a couple more I occasionally hang out with/game with from time to time. That’s about it though. I work full time and have a fiancée though so between that and lifting/doing solo hobbies which I tend to prefer it’s not like I have a lot of time for socializing with new bros every week. I have a few guys I chat with at the gym but it’s mostly high schoolers.
God replies like this are fucking pathetic. Get out your house ffs.
Okay, I'm outside. What next?
any one can make a friend or acquaintance. it takes a long time and alot of vetting to have a real bro. only a fool lets anyone in
I have no friends
I am so lonely
I had friends, but they wanted to be fat incels for the rest of their lives, and I wanted to make it. So fuck ‘em!
I did but they drifted away and now nobody calls anyone and when they do they bitch about being lonely like it wasn't entirely self inflicted.
no bros, no fit ones
no father figure while growing up
I had a dad but he wasnt a great dad
All of my friends abandoned me for being low status male recently, nobody at work likes me either
No and the way they are touchy touchy around each other looks gay asf and fucking gyno inducing
Imagine being so insecure that you can physically touch your frienda without being worried about looking gay
Yes
I did a 50 mile cycle with the boys on Saturday. But they bailed early, I think because I was annoying them.
I suppose I got gym bros but a few are twigs and the one guy that is decently strong is a powershitter
When I was in college, I worked at a gym and made a few friends with other guys working there. 15 years later we are all still friends. I was a skinny dyel, but after befriending those guys I learned how to lift, how to dress, how to talk to girls, and basically how to do well in life. Thankful for my bros, my life wouldn’t be the same if I had never met those guys.
Unironically jealous of you.
How big id your friend group if you dont mind me asking?
The original group that I’ve known since my early 20’s was 4 really good friends, but we would hang out with another 10 or so guys (not all at the same time). It was easy to meet girls because somebody would bring out their girlfriend and a few of their friends, so you’re often meeting new girls. All of us are married now, and everyone moved to other states since then, but the original 4 all keep in touch and meet up once or twice a year.
It’s hard to make friends in your 30s, especially with kids but my wife is very social and I’m becoming friends with a few other dads in my neighborhood.
Some of my friends workout, but they live in different towns and/or have different schedules than me. We only talk about fitness every now and again.
No bros. I run my shop by myself and the only "friends" I have are some of my boomer customers who are twice my age. I lift at home and don't get out. I need to get some frens.
no. all my friends are lazy fucks. im starting to hate them all to be honest, i rather be alone than hang around them
Nope. My last fit bro tried to get my wife to leave me for him so I stopped making connections after that.
Why didnt you share with ur friend?
Because any dude who uses underhanded tactics to try and cuck me is no bro of mine. If you're gonna try and steal my wife, you face me head on.
My new supervisor asked me if I had any hobbies and I told him now. Should I tell him I lift? I was afraid he might ask to hang out and work out together.
I do, my childhood best friend is much fitter than I but he continually inspires me to do better. He lives in Germany now but every time he comes back to the states we pick up where we left off. When he comes home it reminds me of the sort of person I can become.
Why are zoomers so fucking gay? I see groups of highschoolers lifting together and they all stand way too close to each other and are always touchy-feely. Their body language reminds me of what I'd do with girls I dated or flirted with.
Its called being comfortable in your body. It used to be normal, the garden gnomes took it from us.
>Zoomer Boomer Doomer gay sex gay sex garden gnomes garden gnomes garden gnomes!
I hate you both.
Wuvu you uwu
Kind of in a way
People into fitness tend to pop up in my life when i start getting back in shape
I got friends, but they're all out of shape and make a billion excuses to avoid working out. I'm the only one that lifts and still makes it to their social events.
I used to be the fat one, now I'm the fit one besides the bro who benches more but is not as lean. Sometimes we work out together in his fathers garage gym. He's a real bro and just married.
My other friends are all slim and good looking, but not very muscular.
My friends and i never meet, always work and spend weekends sleeping. Ironically we try to plan road trips but can't decide on the place ever
Sadly i dont have lifting bros, how to find lifting bros?
They're not IST and I don't want to see 99% of them , I hate the big city life.... fuck it I have so many days off right now maybe I should book a flight to Italy to clear my head over the weekend for christ sake.....
>fuck it I have so many days off right now maybe I should book a flight to Italy to clear my head over the weekend for christ sake
Life must be so hard for you :'(
I have friends but they're on another board
I've never had any friends and never tried to make one either. My cousin was my best friend for years but we grew apart and I realized I'd rather be alone. My problem is that I feel disconnected from people.
literally me
I don't have any friends who are as fit as I am, but my new friend from work used to be a really good climber when he was younger (he's early 40s and overweight now) and I finally got him to start working to get back in it a couple months ago. Sometimes you gotta architect your friends, too, not just women
For my whole life my entire existence was just completely ignored, by men and women the same, it was like I was a ghost.
Even back in high school, people would make plans for the weekend while literally standing right next to me and invite basically everyone but me. After a while I thought it's because I didn't try to engage more so I tried that, only became even worse. Same thing in college and now at work, I am just a ghost to everyone, a non existent entity no matter how much I try or not, years and years which compounded into a lot of gigantic obvious life inexperiences which I can't even hide anymore.
At least I wasn't bullied, but even the bullied kids are remembered, I am just a ghost that happens to be alive
What do you do for work, anon?
Junior data analyst. Basically stare at a screen all day.
Rough bro. Is that what you want to be doing?
No one wants to stare at a screen all day, but I am aware that I have to make a living somehow so I'm not complaining, it's not like I work in a coal mine.
A coal mine might be cooler though, kek. Is there something you'd really like to be doing? It's easy to be looked over and invisible to other people if you're nothing but contempt with your own life. Enthusiastic friends come from doing shit you really enjoy with gusto. I was in your almost exact shoes until I got into some autistic shit like caving. I got super enthusiastic about it, and people enjoy being around someone who is friendly and also likes what they like. Gotta be less indifferent, mate.
you are enviable to me. i have had attention, i have had friends, i have even been in love, but it has left me feeling like a piece of broken glass; shaped into a jagged shard that will never fit in perfectly anywhere, changed by all of my many experiences. I could never be a data analyst. I could never bring myself to care enough. But you! You, young man, are perfectly fit to your environment. Like a giraffe, whose existence only makes sense in the context of the tall trees of the savannah, you are nothing without your screen but the screen is nothing without you! Consider yourself lucky.
Thanks for the effort but yeah no, it's just a boring office job like any other. The grass is always greener on the other side I guess
you are the boring office job and that is what i envy
Take up a prestigious hobby and get really good at it, or go all out climbing the ranks of your career. People will interact with you if they think you have competence or prestige they can leech off of. Normalfags all have some level of charisma and social networking competence and all seek to leech off of one another's social prowess; you don't have that, and this is why they are constantly babbling at each other while ignoring you. You need some other way to stand out. Just be sure to extract as much from them as they get from you once you stop being invisible.
Sounds like I have to become some kind of American Psycho tier person to do any of that. Extracting? I just want to be normal
He's right, just to an excessively extreme degree. Get a hobby that you enjoy and dive into it. Friends will come if you're actually enthusiastic about what you do.
If you want to be normal, just go to a sports bar, order some cheap beer and food and just cheer when everyone else does. Fuck being normal.
>prestigious hobby
Redpill me on prestigious hobbies please
Pretty much any hobby that takes you out of your room will work if you can muster genuine enthusiasm for it and git gud at it.
I have never had a single friend lol i'm completely socially retarded by this point and couldn't form a human relationship even if by some miracle such a chance presented itself to me. I freeze up if my cashier or hairdresser tries smalltalk. If i fuck it up i just din't go back to that barber shop/supermarket for a few years so the person forgets me haha
Honestly, this is so pathetic that it's sad, mate. Literally nobody gives a shit if you fuck up small talk, they will forget about it 10 minutes later.
But i will never forget haha like that time a cashier asked me something three times and all three times i couldn't hear her clearly so i said "could you please repeat that one more time, i'm very sorry" and she scoffed and said "never mind" I WILL NEVER FUCKING LIVE THIS DOWN IT WILL HAUNT ME TO MY GRAVE i still stay up at night thinking about this and it was 4 years ago lol
Literally nobody but you remembers that. If you asked the cashier about it now, she wouldn't know what the fuck you're talking about. Just use it as a learning experience for next time. If you're having an issue hearing someone after they've repeated what they said, laugh and say something about being hard of hearing or some shit. It's not that fucking hard bro, just don't be retarded. If getting blown off by a cashier is the only thing that you've done that keeps you up at night, I envy you. You have to fumble sometimes, that's part of life, dumabss.
The last time I had a fit friend a girl approached him while we were doing cardio and they humiliated me